My husband is fading daily. Colon cancer. How have other people coped with this type of illness?How do you cope with husband who is sick with advanced cancer?
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This is the American Cancer Society's website.How do you cope with husband who is sick with advanced cancer?
You need to know you are not the only one to have to deal with this. As aweful as it is, this too will pass. You are there because you can handle it, God does not give us jobs we cannot handle. You must be a very strong and loving woman. Don't be afraid to ask for help from your family, church or medical practitioners. If he was meant to go through this, you were meant to go through it with him, be strong, appreciate every day you have together, when he's gone, you will miss him, even if he is driving you insane right now. God's love be with you, Mati
Dedicate yourself to him, but don't make it obvious; he may feel useless and like a burden to you. Talk honestly together. If you have children, explain the situation to them and make these last days the happiest ever. At the end you'll be overwhelmed and very tired, but you can count on the rest of the family, church (if you're religious), doctors...Consult a psychologist if need be. I'm sorry for this...
faith and morphine. He will need you to stronger than even you believe you are.Only through faith and conviction can you achieve this. There will times you will feel alone. it is then you must seek out the councel of others becasue you cannot faulter even when you're sure you will shatter like glass.No matter what you believe in as long as you believe it will be your strength when you have none of your own..
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
How can I tell my husband's friend to back off, politely?
He is a nice guy and I don't want to cause problems between him and my husband. He suggests things to me that are not appropriate when my husband is out of ear shot.How can I tell my husband's friend to back off, politely?
Forget subtlety. Tell him outright you don't like it and if it happens again you will tell your husband. He doesn't sound like much of a friend to your husband, and hubby would probably be better off without this jerk for a friend.
Protect your marriage, protect eachother.How can I tell my husband's friend to back off, politely?
Definately tell him you don't appreciate or want his attention and if he doesn't back off you'll tell your husband what is going on!
The next time it happens you should say ';Let's check with my husband, first- HONEY!!!';
tell your husband in a sudle way about his friend trying thing's with you also tell him to promise not to tell him that you will handle it on your own and if after you tell the friend that he makes you feel uncomfortable and to back off if he does not back off then tell your husband so he can let this moron know
Your hubby's friend is the one causing problems -- not you. Just tell him to stop it or you're gonna tell your husband. What kind of friend is he to your husband if he hits on you?
ask him if he wants you to find him a date with someone
just as politly as possible, the next time he does this, tell him that you don't appreciate it and if he could not do so in the future. trust me if he gets mad and tells your husband, he'll be the one who looks like an ***.
He is no friend to your husband that's for sure. I would try and get him out of both your lives. He might try inducing your husband to cheat on you. Guys are like that. That way it gives him a reason to tell you, ';Well, your husband cheated on you';. He's a snake, even if he is a nice guy. Tell him to, ';Back off, Bozo!!!';.
tell it to him straight, and I would tell the boy friend
hey brother, mind teaching me bingo rather than this?
Geez what a jerk! And he is supposed to be your husbands friend?
Tell him your married, love your husband and not interested and if he continues to bother you you will tell you husband.
What a jerk!
You should tell your Husband immediately. This so-called friend has not an ounce of respect for you nor your Husband. If he did he would not do such a thing. It is normal for him to be attracted to you etc. however as a friend and a gentleman, he should subdue his passions and keep them to himself. Your Husband does not need a friend like this. If it were happening to my Wife. I'd be upset that she had not told me when it first occurred. Don't wait for suspicion to arise before you say something. A loss of trust in any relationship and is tragic, also very hard if not impossible to regain.....
Just tell him if he has something to say to u then make the comments infront of ur husband. Let him know u dont appreciate disrespecting ur husband or u.
Tell your husband, otherwise it will carry on, and you do not want the tables turning and him telling your husband. If he truly was a friend of your husband he wouldn't be saying these things
You should inform your husband about his ';friend';, but don't let him take action, you should do the job by your self.
It's important to be honest with your hubby and it's good for him to know what kind of friends he has. Then let him decide what he's going to do with him.
Your family it's way more important than any friend.
I would hide a mini-recorder in your pocket, and record 2-3 instances of what happens. Each time though, make sure you are assertive with your ';no'; before you walk away. It'll happen again, record it, and when your husband returns, pull it out and tell your hubby you have something interesting for him to hear. You guys don't need crap like him interfereing in your marriage! If he were a real friend to your husband, then he would have an ouce of respect for him in the first place. I mention the tape recorder, because then there is no 'he said, she said' where your husband can feel torn between the two of you. I guarantee the dude would not admit it and call you a liar, or downplay the situation by saying you misunderstood him. It'll be right there in black and white if there's proof. Then it's up to your husband what he wants to do.
First, don't say I will tell my husband if you don't stop, tell him I am going to tell my husband that you are saying inappropriate things to me and I am very uncomfortable by this. Then, tell your husband that when you are not in the room with us or can't hear what he is saying, he is saying things that make me very uncomfortable and you need to check him on this or get a new friend and stop disrespecting both of us.
no need to be polite just be honest.
yeah like well innit he could be a poofter an all that innit an you dun wan aids or summit do ya so jus give the bloke a slap and tell him to get lost! i would an i dun even know nuffin about it like right.
Forget subtlety. Tell him outright you don't like it and if it happens again you will tell your husband. He doesn't sound like much of a friend to your husband, and hubby would probably be better off without this jerk for a friend.
Protect your marriage, protect eachother.How can I tell my husband's friend to back off, politely?
Definately tell him you don't appreciate or want his attention and if he doesn't back off you'll tell your husband what is going on!
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The next time it happens you should say ';Let's check with my husband, first- HONEY!!!';
tell your husband in a sudle way about his friend trying thing's with you also tell him to promise not to tell him that you will handle it on your own and if after you tell the friend that he makes you feel uncomfortable and to back off if he does not back off then tell your husband so he can let this moron know
Your hubby's friend is the one causing problems -- not you. Just tell him to stop it or you're gonna tell your husband. What kind of friend is he to your husband if he hits on you?
ask him if he wants you to find him a date with someone
just as politly as possible, the next time he does this, tell him that you don't appreciate it and if he could not do so in the future. trust me if he gets mad and tells your husband, he'll be the one who looks like an ***.
He is no friend to your husband that's for sure. I would try and get him out of both your lives. He might try inducing your husband to cheat on you. Guys are like that. That way it gives him a reason to tell you, ';Well, your husband cheated on you';. He's a snake, even if he is a nice guy. Tell him to, ';Back off, Bozo!!!';.
tell it to him straight, and I would tell the boy friend
hey brother, mind teaching me bingo rather than this?
Geez what a jerk! And he is supposed to be your husbands friend?
Tell him your married, love your husband and not interested and if he continues to bother you you will tell you husband.
What a jerk!
You should tell your Husband immediately. This so-called friend has not an ounce of respect for you nor your Husband. If he did he would not do such a thing. It is normal for him to be attracted to you etc. however as a friend and a gentleman, he should subdue his passions and keep them to himself. Your Husband does not need a friend like this. If it were happening to my Wife. I'd be upset that she had not told me when it first occurred. Don't wait for suspicion to arise before you say something. A loss of trust in any relationship and is tragic, also very hard if not impossible to regain.....
Just tell him if he has something to say to u then make the comments infront of ur husband. Let him know u dont appreciate disrespecting ur husband or u.
Tell your husband, otherwise it will carry on, and you do not want the tables turning and him telling your husband. If he truly was a friend of your husband he wouldn't be saying these things
You should inform your husband about his ';friend';, but don't let him take action, you should do the job by your self.
It's important to be honest with your hubby and it's good for him to know what kind of friends he has. Then let him decide what he's going to do with him.
Your family it's way more important than any friend.
I would hide a mini-recorder in your pocket, and record 2-3 instances of what happens. Each time though, make sure you are assertive with your ';no'; before you walk away. It'll happen again, record it, and when your husband returns, pull it out and tell your hubby you have something interesting for him to hear. You guys don't need crap like him interfereing in your marriage! If he were a real friend to your husband, then he would have an ouce of respect for him in the first place. I mention the tape recorder, because then there is no 'he said, she said' where your husband can feel torn between the two of you. I guarantee the dude would not admit it and call you a liar, or downplay the situation by saying you misunderstood him. It'll be right there in black and white if there's proof. Then it's up to your husband what he wants to do.
First, don't say I will tell my husband if you don't stop, tell him I am going to tell my husband that you are saying inappropriate things to me and I am very uncomfortable by this. Then, tell your husband that when you are not in the room with us or can't hear what he is saying, he is saying things that make me very uncomfortable and you need to check him on this or get a new friend and stop disrespecting both of us.
no need to be polite just be honest.
yeah like well innit he could be a poofter an all that innit an you dun wan aids or summit do ya so jus give the bloke a slap and tell him to get lost! i would an i dun even know nuffin about it like right.
Why do you think my husband gets upset when I put make up on?
It's not even a lot, just a little bit of foundation to add color to my face. Every day he comes home from work and asks me if I put make up on that day. He even arranges my make up to see if its been moved. He's a great guy but I don't understand what the problem is.Why do you think my husband gets upset when I put make up on?
I guess he doesn't like makeup. Maybe he thinks you look better without it. I don't think its controlling behavior on his part.Why do you think my husband gets upset when I put make up on?
Well it could just be that some guys just don't like makeup. Ask yourself this: when you two were dating did he like you wearing makeup? When you got extra dressed up for a night on the town with more makeup than normal did he say you looked hot? If he never liked you wearing makeup or didn't seem to care one way or the other then he probably just thinks makeup is unnatural and unnecessary.
However! If he used to like it when you wore makeup then maybe he's suffering from paranoia. Maybe he doesn't want you to be dolling yourself all up while he's at work for some other guy! Jealousy is an ugly thing and I don't think men realize that sometimes women like to wear makeup even if they're not going anywhere just so they can enjoy looking in the mirror! Some men simply think that you're doing it to impress random people at the grocery store and whatnot. Silly I know. Have you tried just asking him what his problem is?
Explain to him that you have been using make up since you were a teenager and it is part of your routine. Tell him it makes you feel more normal and less like you stick out. I've been doing my make up exactly the same since I was 14, I'm 35 now. If I go out without make up on I feel hideous and naked. He is most likely thinking you dress up for other men but the fact is, women wear make up for ourselves. Tell him if you were dressing trashy, changing your routine or wearing different kinds of perfume all the time then he might have cause to worry.
And tell him you are an adult and can wear and do as you please and that you aren't doing anything wrong. Have a freak out on him every time he shaves until he gets the point.
wow you've got a problem sweetie. being with someone controlling will not turn out good. maybe it's something that he was taught growing up and has a problem with woman especially his own wife wearing make up. why don't you just ask him but ask him very carefully, if things escalates to a fight then just drop it and i would consider other options with finding help about being in controlling relationships.
Sounds a wee bit controlling to me. What response did he provide when you asked why he cares why you wear makeup? I think you should stand up for yourself. You can be controlled only as much as you allow.
I didn't wear any makeup when I met my husband. I think I was married to him for a couple of years before I really started. He encouraged me to wear it if I wanted, but said I'm pretty without it.
Of course he probably says that because its $42 a bottle for foundation. Ever try to find a good mascara for under $12???
I think my wife is plenty beautiful without makeup.
She doesn't - because like many girls, she is not as beautiful as she wishes she was.
When I ask her not to wear make-up, it is not about insecurity or control. It is about intimacy. I am asking her to be the most beautiful person in the world to me: herself. It is a genuine and legitimate appeal.
When she can not bring herself to do it, I feel like her fear and insecurity are more important to her than our relationship and more important to her than me. She asks me to do plenty of things that my male baggage yells ';NO'; to, but I do them. When I do them, and she doesn't - I feel invalidated. I feel like maybe she does not love me as much as I love her, or is not as committed to me as I am to her. I feel alone and inappropriately undervalued. Even if she had no love at all, and only a little respect - she could do what I asked out of respect for me - and she doesn't even do that.
Asymmetric commitment, not being more important to her than serving her fear, and not being respected at all - those are bitter pills to swallow.
your man is insecure...obviously he thinks your putting on make up to look hot for another guy! my husband used to be that way but i'd put it in anyway eye liner, mascara, eye shadow, lipstick, lip gloss and from then when i started using sure he will throw a fit and acuse me that im trying to look hot for another man but i know i'd knew better and that was not my intentions so i put it on anyways and he had got over it :)
I am going to go with the little bit insecure and controlling theory. I put mine on because I want to look better for me and so as not to scare small children into therapy about seeing the boogyman. I save the ';hooker'; makeup for when my husband and I go out together.
One of three things possibly:
1. He thinks you're beautiful and feels makeup hides/ruins it
2. He thinks you are putting makeup on for someone else
3. He wants you to keep you looks toned down due to irrational jealousy.
You know your husband best. I'm sure you can pick one of these quite confidently and there is your answer.
um... that's just a little strange!
Tell him to leave your makeup alone and if you want to wear it, you can. He sounds like he's trying to control you.
My husband used to not like it when I wore makeup.. but now I wear it everyday and when I don't, he'll be like ';you should put on some makeup';
he is just a little bit more controlling then he should be and probably insecure ,prob you look amazing with make up so he is afraid someone else might see it too
just want to know did you meet him wearing make up ?
cause if thats the case i guess he just loves you for who you are
Evidentally you look good in it and instead of complimenting you and being proud of having a beautiful wife, he's insecure, he needs to control you by keeping you from wearing it or lowering your self esteem which will make him feel other men will find you less attractive.
Sounds like a control freak to me. Maybe he's insecure and he thinks that if you wear makeup you'll find another man and leave him. I'm willing to bet that this isn't the only thing in your life that he's trying to control tho. Potentially HUGE problem. Be careful.
He's using that as a way to attempt to control you. Why doesn't he just tape a hair over the ignition on your car, or count the mileage on the odometer? Sheesh.
maybe he feels you don't need it but he's also to uptight about it it's a beautiful thing when a woman looks good but it also attracts others so maybe he doesn't want someone hitting one you
he sounds very controlling and insecure like he may have a jealousy problem. I feel bad for you, that is no way to live...grow a back bone hun.
He is insecure and thinks you are hot..so everyone else will think you are hot and you will leave him!
Its a form of control.
Nip it in the bud now or it will just get worse.
';dunno'; had it right....he is insecure and controlling. He thinks if you put make up on and look nice someone else will want you and you will leave him. Doesn't sound very healthy to me.
He's controlling and insecure.
have you gone along time without it? maybe he thinks your putting on makeup for another guy? talk to him about it.
Maybe he can't deal with you looking HOT!
So, how else does he control you?
That's crap.....that is controlling and BS as far as this man is concerned
I guess he doesn't like makeup. Maybe he thinks you look better without it. I don't think its controlling behavior on his part.Why do you think my husband gets upset when I put make up on?
Well it could just be that some guys just don't like makeup. Ask yourself this: when you two were dating did he like you wearing makeup? When you got extra dressed up for a night on the town with more makeup than normal did he say you looked hot? If he never liked you wearing makeup or didn't seem to care one way or the other then he probably just thinks makeup is unnatural and unnecessary.
However! If he used to like it when you wore makeup then maybe he's suffering from paranoia. Maybe he doesn't want you to be dolling yourself all up while he's at work for some other guy! Jealousy is an ugly thing and I don't think men realize that sometimes women like to wear makeup even if they're not going anywhere just so they can enjoy looking in the mirror! Some men simply think that you're doing it to impress random people at the grocery store and whatnot. Silly I know. Have you tried just asking him what his problem is?
Explain to him that you have been using make up since you were a teenager and it is part of your routine. Tell him it makes you feel more normal and less like you stick out. I've been doing my make up exactly the same since I was 14, I'm 35 now. If I go out without make up on I feel hideous and naked. He is most likely thinking you dress up for other men but the fact is, women wear make up for ourselves. Tell him if you were dressing trashy, changing your routine or wearing different kinds of perfume all the time then he might have cause to worry.
And tell him you are an adult and can wear and do as you please and that you aren't doing anything wrong. Have a freak out on him every time he shaves until he gets the point.
wow you've got a problem sweetie. being with someone controlling will not turn out good. maybe it's something that he was taught growing up and has a problem with woman especially his own wife wearing make up. why don't you just ask him but ask him very carefully, if things escalates to a fight then just drop it and i would consider other options with finding help about being in controlling relationships.
Sounds a wee bit controlling to me. What response did he provide when you asked why he cares why you wear makeup? I think you should stand up for yourself. You can be controlled only as much as you allow.
I didn't wear any makeup when I met my husband. I think I was married to him for a couple of years before I really started. He encouraged me to wear it if I wanted, but said I'm pretty without it.
Of course he probably says that because its $42 a bottle for foundation. Ever try to find a good mascara for under $12???
I think my wife is plenty beautiful without makeup.
She doesn't - because like many girls, she is not as beautiful as she wishes she was.
When I ask her not to wear make-up, it is not about insecurity or control. It is about intimacy. I am asking her to be the most beautiful person in the world to me: herself. It is a genuine and legitimate appeal.
When she can not bring herself to do it, I feel like her fear and insecurity are more important to her than our relationship and more important to her than me. She asks me to do plenty of things that my male baggage yells ';NO'; to, but I do them. When I do them, and she doesn't - I feel invalidated. I feel like maybe she does not love me as much as I love her, or is not as committed to me as I am to her. I feel alone and inappropriately undervalued. Even if she had no love at all, and only a little respect - she could do what I asked out of respect for me - and she doesn't even do that.
Asymmetric commitment, not being more important to her than serving her fear, and not being respected at all - those are bitter pills to swallow.
your man is insecure...obviously he thinks your putting on make up to look hot for another guy! my husband used to be that way but i'd put it in anyway eye liner, mascara, eye shadow, lipstick, lip gloss and from then when i started using sure he will throw a fit and acuse me that im trying to look hot for another man but i know i'd knew better and that was not my intentions so i put it on anyways and he had got over it :)
I am going to go with the little bit insecure and controlling theory. I put mine on because I want to look better for me and so as not to scare small children into therapy about seeing the boogyman. I save the ';hooker'; makeup for when my husband and I go out together.
One of three things possibly:
1. He thinks you're beautiful and feels makeup hides/ruins it
2. He thinks you are putting makeup on for someone else
3. He wants you to keep you looks toned down due to irrational jealousy.
You know your husband best. I'm sure you can pick one of these quite confidently and there is your answer.
um... that's just a little strange!
Tell him to leave your makeup alone and if you want to wear it, you can. He sounds like he's trying to control you.
My husband used to not like it when I wore makeup.. but now I wear it everyday and when I don't, he'll be like ';you should put on some makeup';
he is just a little bit more controlling then he should be and probably insecure ,prob you look amazing with make up so he is afraid someone else might see it too
just want to know did you meet him wearing make up ?
cause if thats the case i guess he just loves you for who you are
Evidentally you look good in it and instead of complimenting you and being proud of having a beautiful wife, he's insecure, he needs to control you by keeping you from wearing it or lowering your self esteem which will make him feel other men will find you less attractive.
Sounds like a control freak to me. Maybe he's insecure and he thinks that if you wear makeup you'll find another man and leave him. I'm willing to bet that this isn't the only thing in your life that he's trying to control tho. Potentially HUGE problem. Be careful.
He's using that as a way to attempt to control you. Why doesn't he just tape a hair over the ignition on your car, or count the mileage on the odometer? Sheesh.
maybe he feels you don't need it but he's also to uptight about it it's a beautiful thing when a woman looks good but it also attracts others so maybe he doesn't want someone hitting one you
he sounds very controlling and insecure like he may have a jealousy problem. I feel bad for you, that is no way to live...grow a back bone hun.
He is insecure and thinks you are hot..so everyone else will think you are hot and you will leave him!
Its a form of control.
Nip it in the bud now or it will just get worse.
';dunno'; had it right....he is insecure and controlling. He thinks if you put make up on and look nice someone else will want you and you will leave him. Doesn't sound very healthy to me.
He's controlling and insecure.
have you gone along time without it? maybe he thinks your putting on makeup for another guy? talk to him about it.
Maybe he can't deal with you looking HOT!
So, how else does he control you?
That's crap.....that is controlling and BS as far as this man is concerned
What would someone do if their wife is hyper sexual and her husband has a small penis?
Wife got out of coma and became hyper sexual and now I can't seem to please her..HELPWhat would someone do if their wife is hyper sexual and her husband has a small penis?
if you were hung like a bull that wouldnt be a problem. unfortunatly that isnt the case. wat u could do is try extenze. i heard it was pretty good but then you could also an enlargement surgery. not sure of the prices though.What would someone do if their wife is hyper sexual and her husband has a small penis?
Well you can do as much of foreplay as you can as according to my knowledge.
But if she is still not satisfied, and sex is becoming her major concern, problems will seem to arise on minor issues.
Better discuss with her for a solution.
Best of luck!!!!
Well, You can always try Male enhancement. When my husband first started using it after he thought he was not making enough love to me the results were AMAZING! It's always worth a try. =)
lol
if you were hung like a bull that wouldnt be a problem. unfortunatly that isnt the case. wat u could do is try extenze. i heard it was pretty good but then you could also an enlargement surgery. not sure of the prices though.What would someone do if their wife is hyper sexual and her husband has a small penis?
Well you can do as much of foreplay as you can as according to my knowledge.
But if she is still not satisfied, and sex is becoming her major concern, problems will seem to arise on minor issues.
Better discuss with her for a solution.
Best of luck!!!!
Well, You can always try Male enhancement. When my husband first started using it after he thought he was not making enough love to me the results were AMAZING! It's always worth a try. =)
lol
How can I get my husband to leave?
My husband is an alcoholic and I really fed up now. His drinking is way out of control. Our relationship has really suffered because of it and all I get is abuse from him. He has not worked since July last year. He would rather drink. I pay all of the bills and he just sits there. How can I get him to leave? I think that as I pay the bills I should not have to leave my own home. He says he has no where to go as his mom and dad wont take him back.
Any ideas?How can I get my husband to leave?
You are completely enabling him here. Get yourself to Al-Anon and find out what other people in this situation do. If you are truly fed up you should just send him out to the store one day and when he is gone have all his stuff put outside and have all the locks changed. He is never going to clean up his act or even try as long as you keep paying the bills and providing him with a place to live. You must be paying for the booze too if he hasn't worked since last year.How can I get my husband to leave?
I think you need to get some support and confront your husband. Tell him either get gets help immediately or else, he needs to leave and you will start the divorce proceedings. If he refuses to go, you may need to get the police involved. But, if his name is on mortgage, he legally can't be removed. Definitely, I would start making plans to talk to a lawyer and to family members you can trust to be supportive during this difficult time.
If you rent then I would just move one day. I know you pay the bills but take your name of the lease and leave. If you own your home then call the law and have him removed. Im sure he has to leave the place from time to time for the liquorso when he leaves then change the locks. Its not that hard. Sorry to say that if his name is on the house you cant kick him out until your divorced and then the court will decide who can afford and deserves the home.
you have got to be really mean and stick by it are u ready for that?
call his mom and dad and ask them to talk to him about leaving. pack his stuff and put it outside.
change the locks and bar the windows and don't let him back in.( he has to go for beer sometime) i hope u don't buy it for him u said he don't work. who's name is on the house papers? get a restraning order on him he will have to leave then., if none of that works tell him budwiser is giving away free beer at the plant .. that should keep him busy and gone.
the cops can't make him leave his own house depending on where u live. check the law on that.
restraning/no contact order best way to go.
Wish I could help. Same situation in reverse. Been trying to get my wife out for 2 years and she continues to drink. Already spending a fortune on lawyers. Best I can tell you is that you're not alone.
You might also try alanon for a little support. They can't get him out but you might find someone to talk to and maybe some ideas on how to proceed.
One other thing - if he has ever gotten violent you could get the police involved but realistically that will only help as evidence in your favor when you get in front of judge.
File for divorce, and figure out with the layers how to get him out of the house... or u can tell him u found some1 else and he needs to leave... don't let him sit there and use u! ur strong.. and maybe just maybe it would b easier if u just up and left he obviosly can't pay the bills... or u can give him an ultimatum... get a job or get out! good luck, my Aunt supported my uncle and him drinking for years and he died last year, but he didn't work either she paid everything...
if the house is in ur name then u can get a barring order to remove him from the house or while out dump all his belongings in garden and change the locks, have police ready if he cause trouble. u can do anything if u really want it, if u want him out the house u would really find a way regardless, so stop been on here and kick his alco @ss out the door now.. its nothin to do with u if his parents washed their hands of him, so dont waste any more time been miserable under same roof of this low life who nothin but dead beat for a man..
simply tell him to get out. if he wont leave, call the cops. im sorry for ur situation, but if he is doing you this way then who cares where he goes. tell him that he can either get a job and go to AA or file for a divorce.
If you love him but you just can't handle the crap anymore then i would talk to him about going to AA or some type of treatment. If talking wont work then maybe speak with his family and have an intervention. They do work half the time.
Leave a trail of those little mini bar bottles out of the house. At the end of the trail have his stuff packed up and ready to go. once he starts following the trail lock the door. Problem Solved!! ;-)
get him to go to rehab for alcohol and misuse, especially if he wants to work on your marriage and building his life back together.
Tell him you want him to leave and why.
If he will not then change the locks and have a restraining order put on him if need be.
File for a divorce, or give him a change either to go to rehab or AA. If he doesn't want to loose everything, he will choose wisely Good luck
ii no some-one who has got himself in this possition! i really feel for you as ive seen the state some people get in....throw him out!
File for divorce, and make him leave. It's that simple.
If there's no solution, then there's no problem.
if he won't leave ..file for a divorce and throw him out ..but you probably need to get a lawyer
just file for divorce and tell him to go to rehab.
chance the locks when he goes out
See a lawyer.gold eyeshadow makeup hair
Any ideas?How can I get my husband to leave?
You are completely enabling him here. Get yourself to Al-Anon and find out what other people in this situation do. If you are truly fed up you should just send him out to the store one day and when he is gone have all his stuff put outside and have all the locks changed. He is never going to clean up his act or even try as long as you keep paying the bills and providing him with a place to live. You must be paying for the booze too if he hasn't worked since last year.How can I get my husband to leave?
I think you need to get some support and confront your husband. Tell him either get gets help immediately or else, he needs to leave and you will start the divorce proceedings. If he refuses to go, you may need to get the police involved. But, if his name is on mortgage, he legally can't be removed. Definitely, I would start making plans to talk to a lawyer and to family members you can trust to be supportive during this difficult time.
If you rent then I would just move one day. I know you pay the bills but take your name of the lease and leave. If you own your home then call the law and have him removed. Im sure he has to leave the place from time to time for the liquorso when he leaves then change the locks. Its not that hard. Sorry to say that if his name is on the house you cant kick him out until your divorced and then the court will decide who can afford and deserves the home.
you have got to be really mean and stick by it are u ready for that?
call his mom and dad and ask them to talk to him about leaving. pack his stuff and put it outside.
change the locks and bar the windows and don't let him back in.( he has to go for beer sometime) i hope u don't buy it for him u said he don't work. who's name is on the house papers? get a restraning order on him he will have to leave then., if none of that works tell him budwiser is giving away free beer at the plant .. that should keep him busy and gone.
the cops can't make him leave his own house depending on where u live. check the law on that.
restraning/no contact order best way to go.
Wish I could help. Same situation in reverse. Been trying to get my wife out for 2 years and she continues to drink. Already spending a fortune on lawyers. Best I can tell you is that you're not alone.
You might also try alanon for a little support. They can't get him out but you might find someone to talk to and maybe some ideas on how to proceed.
One other thing - if he has ever gotten violent you could get the police involved but realistically that will only help as evidence in your favor when you get in front of judge.
File for divorce, and figure out with the layers how to get him out of the house... or u can tell him u found some1 else and he needs to leave... don't let him sit there and use u! ur strong.. and maybe just maybe it would b easier if u just up and left he obviosly can't pay the bills... or u can give him an ultimatum... get a job or get out! good luck, my Aunt supported my uncle and him drinking for years and he died last year, but he didn't work either she paid everything...
if the house is in ur name then u can get a barring order to remove him from the house or while out dump all his belongings in garden and change the locks, have police ready if he cause trouble. u can do anything if u really want it, if u want him out the house u would really find a way regardless, so stop been on here and kick his alco @ss out the door now.. its nothin to do with u if his parents washed their hands of him, so dont waste any more time been miserable under same roof of this low life who nothin but dead beat for a man..
simply tell him to get out. if he wont leave, call the cops. im sorry for ur situation, but if he is doing you this way then who cares where he goes. tell him that he can either get a job and go to AA or file for a divorce.
If you love him but you just can't handle the crap anymore then i would talk to him about going to AA or some type of treatment. If talking wont work then maybe speak with his family and have an intervention. They do work half the time.
Leave a trail of those little mini bar bottles out of the house. At the end of the trail have his stuff packed up and ready to go. once he starts following the trail lock the door. Problem Solved!! ;-)
get him to go to rehab for alcohol and misuse, especially if he wants to work on your marriage and building his life back together.
Tell him you want him to leave and why.
If he will not then change the locks and have a restraining order put on him if need be.
File for a divorce, or give him a change either to go to rehab or AA. If he doesn't want to loose everything, he will choose wisely Good luck
ii no some-one who has got himself in this possition! i really feel for you as ive seen the state some people get in....throw him out!
File for divorce, and make him leave. It's that simple.
If there's no solution, then there's no problem.
if he won't leave ..file for a divorce and throw him out ..but you probably need to get a lawyer
just file for divorce and tell him to go to rehab.
chance the locks when he goes out
See a lawyer.
How do I get my husband to wake up?
I am at my breaking point. I have been through so much in 3 years with this man and now it is like I am the only one who cares to try and I dont want to try anymore. How do I get him to understand that I am going to leave if he doesn't show me more attention? I am so lonley even when he is there he is not really there what do I do?How do I get my husband to wake up?
my husband too! for a long time he is only worried about moving up in his job. and he is doing great in hat aspect of his life. but i am being ignored. he doesnt show me attention. i nagged and nagged him. until yesterday i asked him to leave. now i was (and still am very scared) because i think he may like it and stay gone and never come back. (we have two kids, he called them tonight but thats it) he may like it or he may think and come home sooner or later. eighter way he is at his moms and i am sort of upset. but i do this. i was driving myself crazy with him here and feeling like he didnt care. it was just sick. i was sick.
i am lonley. but i was lonley with him here, just now i dont feel rejected as well. only time will see if he wakes up.
u want him to wake up. then ask him to moveout (in a nice way, like your finished and need time 2 think.) and then wait.
but warning...........the wait can be madding.How do I get my husband to wake up?
sweetheart I am really sympathetic to your situation. I have been there, actually quite recently. Let me briefly explain. My husband was horrible. He ignored me, chatted online to women, didnt pay attention to me our son or our home. I kept telling him that one day I was going to leave him if he didnt shape up...problem is I said if for about 3 years. Finally I realized that I didnt need his crap and could find someone who would give me what I wanted. So finally this past summer, I left him. It scared the hell out of him. We were separated for almost 4 months. We lived apart, didnt talk much unless it came to our son and I pretty much avoided him. Then one night, he showed up at my friends house in tears begging me to take him back. He is a changed man now. He has seeked couseling, went on medication because he was a depressed man. You have to follow through with your threats,, because he probably thinks thats all they are. If you leave him, be prepared that it could be over for good, but dont tell him you will leave him if you dont mean it. I really hope things work out for you. Just whatever you do dont have an affair that will complicate things my dear.
tell him plain and simple if he doesnt start to show some kind of effort in the relationship you will kick his butt to the curb like the lazy creep he is. give him a set amount of time like 5 or 6 wks but only tell him that he has a month to start improving and after the month is up see if the changes are permanent or were just for show.
Just leave! He will not understand for a long time after you leave. It will take him time even if he chooses to think about it! You are obviously out of time for dealing with him especially since it is going to take him a long time. So start packing, start finding a new life!
Meeee toooo! But with my boyfriend, thank goodness! I'm going to back off of my bf and give him some space and see if he notices. We haven't done ';it'; in over a week which is a long time when your still dating!
Why don't you just leave then he will get the message.
Ugh I dont know what to tell you but when your find out let me know too!
my husband too! for a long time he is only worried about moving up in his job. and he is doing great in hat aspect of his life. but i am being ignored. he doesnt show me attention. i nagged and nagged him. until yesterday i asked him to leave. now i was (and still am very scared) because i think he may like it and stay gone and never come back. (we have two kids, he called them tonight but thats it) he may like it or he may think and come home sooner or later. eighter way he is at his moms and i am sort of upset. but i do this. i was driving myself crazy with him here and feeling like he didnt care. it was just sick. i was sick.
i am lonley. but i was lonley with him here, just now i dont feel rejected as well. only time will see if he wakes up.
u want him to wake up. then ask him to moveout (in a nice way, like your finished and need time 2 think.) and then wait.
but warning...........the wait can be madding.How do I get my husband to wake up?
sweetheart I am really sympathetic to your situation. I have been there, actually quite recently. Let me briefly explain. My husband was horrible. He ignored me, chatted online to women, didnt pay attention to me our son or our home. I kept telling him that one day I was going to leave him if he didnt shape up...problem is I said if for about 3 years. Finally I realized that I didnt need his crap and could find someone who would give me what I wanted. So finally this past summer, I left him. It scared the hell out of him. We were separated for almost 4 months. We lived apart, didnt talk much unless it came to our son and I pretty much avoided him. Then one night, he showed up at my friends house in tears begging me to take him back. He is a changed man now. He has seeked couseling, went on medication because he was a depressed man. You have to follow through with your threats,, because he probably thinks thats all they are. If you leave him, be prepared that it could be over for good, but dont tell him you will leave him if you dont mean it. I really hope things work out for you. Just whatever you do dont have an affair that will complicate things my dear.
tell him plain and simple if he doesnt start to show some kind of effort in the relationship you will kick his butt to the curb like the lazy creep he is. give him a set amount of time like 5 or 6 wks but only tell him that he has a month to start improving and after the month is up see if the changes are permanent or were just for show.
Just leave! He will not understand for a long time after you leave. It will take him time even if he chooses to think about it! You are obviously out of time for dealing with him especially since it is going to take him a long time. So start packing, start finding a new life!
Meeee toooo! But with my boyfriend, thank goodness! I'm going to back off of my bf and give him some space and see if he notices. We haven't done ';it'; in over a week which is a long time when your still dating!
Why don't you just leave then he will get the message.
Ugh I dont know what to tell you but when your find out let me know too!
How can I let my husband know that allowing my 2 year old?
to write with brown permanent marker on the computer screen, keyboards, speakers and herself will not get him out of ';babysitting'; duties when I am out.
Bonus q: What is the best way to remove permanent marker from a computer screen?How can I let my husband know that allowing my 2 year old?
Salem- how does that even answer the question???
well, i would make him clean it and i would have a conversation about it. i would probably not allow him to give any more chinese dragons until he knocks it off.How can I let my husband know that allowing my 2 year old?
Do you see what Obama has done? He has infiltrated the minds of all our children (if I had any) so your 2 year old is trying to make everything his color!
It's that change he was telling everyone about!
Acetone on a rag ..... Good Luck.
Let the baby play with his things while your busy ..... tell him Ya know how it feels .....
Also ... with the computer un-plugged .. very flammable stuff.
your husband is being very irresponsible
kick his azz
Answer to both of them: Make your husband clean it =]
Bonus q: What is the best way to remove permanent marker from a computer screen?How can I let my husband know that allowing my 2 year old?
Salem- how does that even answer the question???
well, i would make him clean it and i would have a conversation about it. i would probably not allow him to give any more chinese dragons until he knocks it off.How can I let my husband know that allowing my 2 year old?
Do you see what Obama has done? He has infiltrated the minds of all our children (if I had any) so your 2 year old is trying to make everything his color!
It's that change he was telling everyone about!
Acetone on a rag ..... Good Luck.
Let the baby play with his things while your busy ..... tell him Ya know how it feels .....
Also ... with the computer un-plugged .. very flammable stuff.
your husband is being very irresponsible
kick his azz
Answer to both of them: Make your husband clean it =]
How can I make my husband understand we need him home?
My husband works and after that 90% of the time he is at the bar afterward. We have a 5 year old son whom is in therapy for depression and anger management. I know and have tried to tell my husband our son needs more of a family life. He promises he will change and of coarse it doesn't. What's so sad is my little man will tell me when we get home and he sees daddy isn't there '; Daddy's at the bar again.';HELP PLEASE!!!How can I make my husband understand we need him home?
He is probably feeling overwhelmed by his responsibilities and this is his escape. For him to become a real Man, he will need a good infusion of a relationship with GOD. So, gradually try to get him to a real church. Not one of those Religious places, but rather a place of study and worship.How can I make my husband understand we need him home?
Update! My husband has not drink for 1 month today! He also has gone to church every sunday morning sinse! Thank God and any of you who may have prayed for us.
Hi Jennifer, I'm sorry to hear this. I can see that it is disappointing for you.
There may be some communication problems in your marriage, I'm sorry to say. This can be shock to consider but please hear me out. Also, your husband may have some problems with alchohol. There could be many reasons why your husband is not staying home with the family.
Do you attend church? Is there a pastor or minister at church you can talk to about these issues? You may want to plan activities with church friends to cut down on the time your husband spends at the bar. Do you have other friends to do things with? Could they be a positive influence on your husband?
Overall, I think you may want to consider marriage counseling to make sure there are no communication problems in your marriage. A minister, priest or rabbi (even if you aren't Jewish) is a good, low cost way to explore ways to improve your marriage; regardless of your faith, these individuals can help you move in the right direction, because they are all going to advise you with Biblical principles.
I hate to tell you this, but you probably already know it. If your son is 5 years old and your husband is still behaving this way then he's not gonna change. You should consider leaving him.
Also...one more thing you could try first...depression DOES run in the family and if your 5 year old has trouble with it your husband may too. See if you can get him to go to the doctor and have him checked for depression. My dad used to have stress problems and anger problems and he went in and got treated and now he is a completely happy, well adjusted person. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.
My husband works 5 days a week from 4 in the morning to 7 at night and then he works on the weekend too. I have three kids and one has adhd I have always delt with it on my own. I also told my husband he needed to be home more but he is not. We now think its easier when hes at work. Your husband will not change! So either you become both mom and dad like I did or you leave him. Tell your son the truth and then let it go and do your normal day to day stuff.
maybe you should all see a therapist together (and i'm not being sarcastic). He obviously has a problem, and it's effecting you and your son. Maybe if you can sit them all down and listen to unbiased opinions, your husband can get some help. Chances are, if he does quit visiting bars and spend more time at home, your sons depression and angry behavior will cease and desist as well.
Well i must empathize with you and honestly, you have to give your husband an ultimatum, he needs to understand that its the bar or his family, tell him that you understand he works hard and needs a break but his son needs him more now more than ever. Give him some time to adjust, i am sure he will come around.
Good Luck. :)
That's unfortunate. You have to find a way to convey to him the severity of the situation. It doesn't sound like it's very important to him. Of course there are two sides to every story tho, so I can't say too much
I don't think he realize how serious the situation is. You really need to talk to your husband more seriously about the issue, and that it can't go on any longer.
looks like you guys need to sit down and discuss the kids future seriously. Make a compromise, and an agreement that can't be broken.
Show up at the bar with your son and embarrass the hell out of him!!
He is probably feeling overwhelmed by his responsibilities and this is his escape. For him to become a real Man, he will need a good infusion of a relationship with GOD. So, gradually try to get him to a real church. Not one of those Religious places, but rather a place of study and worship.How can I make my husband understand we need him home?
Update! My husband has not drink for 1 month today! He also has gone to church every sunday morning sinse! Thank God and any of you who may have prayed for us.
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Hi Jennifer, I'm sorry to hear this. I can see that it is disappointing for you.
There may be some communication problems in your marriage, I'm sorry to say. This can be shock to consider but please hear me out. Also, your husband may have some problems with alchohol. There could be many reasons why your husband is not staying home with the family.
Do you attend church? Is there a pastor or minister at church you can talk to about these issues? You may want to plan activities with church friends to cut down on the time your husband spends at the bar. Do you have other friends to do things with? Could they be a positive influence on your husband?
Overall, I think you may want to consider marriage counseling to make sure there are no communication problems in your marriage. A minister, priest or rabbi (even if you aren't Jewish) is a good, low cost way to explore ways to improve your marriage; regardless of your faith, these individuals can help you move in the right direction, because they are all going to advise you with Biblical principles.
I hate to tell you this, but you probably already know it. If your son is 5 years old and your husband is still behaving this way then he's not gonna change. You should consider leaving him.
Also...one more thing you could try first...depression DOES run in the family and if your 5 year old has trouble with it your husband may too. See if you can get him to go to the doctor and have him checked for depression. My dad used to have stress problems and anger problems and he went in and got treated and now he is a completely happy, well adjusted person. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.
My husband works 5 days a week from 4 in the morning to 7 at night and then he works on the weekend too. I have three kids and one has adhd I have always delt with it on my own. I also told my husband he needed to be home more but he is not. We now think its easier when hes at work. Your husband will not change! So either you become both mom and dad like I did or you leave him. Tell your son the truth and then let it go and do your normal day to day stuff.
maybe you should all see a therapist together (and i'm not being sarcastic). He obviously has a problem, and it's effecting you and your son. Maybe if you can sit them all down and listen to unbiased opinions, your husband can get some help. Chances are, if he does quit visiting bars and spend more time at home, your sons depression and angry behavior will cease and desist as well.
Well i must empathize with you and honestly, you have to give your husband an ultimatum, he needs to understand that its the bar or his family, tell him that you understand he works hard and needs a break but his son needs him more now more than ever. Give him some time to adjust, i am sure he will come around.
Good Luck. :)
That's unfortunate. You have to find a way to convey to him the severity of the situation. It doesn't sound like it's very important to him. Of course there are two sides to every story tho, so I can't say too much
I don't think he realize how serious the situation is. You really need to talk to your husband more seriously about the issue, and that it can't go on any longer.
looks like you guys need to sit down and discuss the kids future seriously. Make a compromise, and an agreement that can't be broken.
Show up at the bar with your son and embarrass the hell out of him!!
How do I get my husband to wake up?
I am at my breaking point. I have been through so much in 3 years with this man and now it is like I am the only one who cares to try and I dont want to try anymore. How do I get him to understand that I am going to leave if he doesn't show me more attention? I am so lonley even when he is there he is not really there what do I do?How do I get my husband to wake up?
my husband too! for a long time he is only worried about moving up in his job. and he is doing great in hat aspect of his life. but i am being ignored. he doesnt show me attention. i nagged and nagged him. until yesterday i asked him to leave. now i was (and still am very scared) because i think he may like it and stay gone and never come back. (we have two kids, he called them tonight but thats it) he may like it or he may think and come home sooner or later. eighter way he is at his moms and i am sort of upset. but i do this. i was driving myself crazy with him here and feeling like he didnt care. it was just sick. i was sick.
i am lonley. but i was lonley with him here, just now i dont feel rejected as well. only time will see if he wakes up.
u want him to wake up. then ask him to moveout (in a nice way, like your finished and need time 2 think.) and then wait.
but warning...........the wait can be madding.How do I get my husband to wake up?
sweetheart I am really sympathetic to your situation. I have been there, actually quite recently. Let me briefly explain. My husband was horrible. He ignored me, chatted online to women, didnt pay attention to me our son or our home. I kept telling him that one day I was going to leave him if he didnt shape up...problem is I said if for about 3 years. Finally I realized that I didnt need his crap and could find someone who would give me what I wanted. So finally this past summer, I left him. It scared the hell out of him. We were separated for almost 4 months. We lived apart, didnt talk much unless it came to our son and I pretty much avoided him. Then one night, he showed up at my friends house in tears begging me to take him back. He is a changed man now. He has seeked couseling, went on medication because he was a depressed man. You have to follow through with your threats,, because he probably thinks thats all they are. If you leave him, be prepared that it could be over for good, but dont tell him you will leave him if you dont mean it. I really hope things work out for you. Just whatever you do dont have an affair that will complicate things my dear.
tell him plain and simple if he doesnt start to show some kind of effort in the relationship you will kick his butt to the curb like the lazy creep he is. give him a set amount of time like 5 or 6 wks but only tell him that he has a month to start improving and after the month is up see if the changes are permanent or were just for show.
Just leave! He will not understand for a long time after you leave. It will take him time even if he chooses to think about it! You are obviously out of time for dealing with him especially since it is going to take him a long time. So start packing, start finding a new life!
Meeee toooo! But with my boyfriend, thank goodness! I'm going to back off of my bf and give him some space and see if he notices. We haven't done ';it'; in over a week which is a long time when your still dating!
Why don't you just leave then he will get the message.
Ugh I dont know what to tell you but when your find out let me know too!
my husband too! for a long time he is only worried about moving up in his job. and he is doing great in hat aspect of his life. but i am being ignored. he doesnt show me attention. i nagged and nagged him. until yesterday i asked him to leave. now i was (and still am very scared) because i think he may like it and stay gone and never come back. (we have two kids, he called them tonight but thats it) he may like it or he may think and come home sooner or later. eighter way he is at his moms and i am sort of upset. but i do this. i was driving myself crazy with him here and feeling like he didnt care. it was just sick. i was sick.
i am lonley. but i was lonley with him here, just now i dont feel rejected as well. only time will see if he wakes up.
u want him to wake up. then ask him to moveout (in a nice way, like your finished and need time 2 think.) and then wait.
but warning...........the wait can be madding.How do I get my husband to wake up?
sweetheart I am really sympathetic to your situation. I have been there, actually quite recently. Let me briefly explain. My husband was horrible. He ignored me, chatted online to women, didnt pay attention to me our son or our home. I kept telling him that one day I was going to leave him if he didnt shape up...problem is I said if for about 3 years. Finally I realized that I didnt need his crap and could find someone who would give me what I wanted. So finally this past summer, I left him. It scared the hell out of him. We were separated for almost 4 months. We lived apart, didnt talk much unless it came to our son and I pretty much avoided him. Then one night, he showed up at my friends house in tears begging me to take him back. He is a changed man now. He has seeked couseling, went on medication because he was a depressed man. You have to follow through with your threats,, because he probably thinks thats all they are. If you leave him, be prepared that it could be over for good, but dont tell him you will leave him if you dont mean it. I really hope things work out for you. Just whatever you do dont have an affair that will complicate things my dear.
tell him plain and simple if he doesnt start to show some kind of effort in the relationship you will kick his butt to the curb like the lazy creep he is. give him a set amount of time like 5 or 6 wks but only tell him that he has a month to start improving and after the month is up see if the changes are permanent or were just for show.
Just leave! He will not understand for a long time after you leave. It will take him time even if he chooses to think about it! You are obviously out of time for dealing with him especially since it is going to take him a long time. So start packing, start finding a new life!
Meeee toooo! But with my boyfriend, thank goodness! I'm going to back off of my bf and give him some space and see if he notices. We haven't done ';it'; in over a week which is a long time when your still dating!
Why don't you just leave then he will get the message.
Ugh I dont know what to tell you but when your find out let me know too!
How can I let my husband know that allowing my 2 year old?
to write with brown permanent marker on the computer screen, keyboards, speakers and herself will not get him out of ';babysitting'; duties when I am out.
Bonus q: What is the best way to remove permanent marker from a computer screen?How can I let my husband know that allowing my 2 year old?
Salem- how does that even answer the question???
well, i would make him clean it and i would have a conversation about it. i would probably not allow him to give any more chinese dragons until he knocks it off.How can I let my husband know that allowing my 2 year old?
Do you see what Obama has done? He has infiltrated the minds of all our children (if I had any) so your 2 year old is trying to make everything his color!
It's that change he was telling everyone about!
Acetone on a rag ..... Good Luck.
Let the baby play with his things while your busy ..... tell him Ya know how it feels .....
Also ... with the computer un-plugged .. very flammable stuff.
your husband is being very irresponsible
kick his azz
Answer to both of them: Make your husband clean it =]
Bonus q: What is the best way to remove permanent marker from a computer screen?How can I let my husband know that allowing my 2 year old?
Salem- how does that even answer the question???
well, i would make him clean it and i would have a conversation about it. i would probably not allow him to give any more chinese dragons until he knocks it off.How can I let my husband know that allowing my 2 year old?
Do you see what Obama has done? He has infiltrated the minds of all our children (if I had any) so your 2 year old is trying to make everything his color!
It's that change he was telling everyone about!
Acetone on a rag ..... Good Luck.
Let the baby play with his things while your busy ..... tell him Ya know how it feels .....
Also ... with the computer un-plugged .. very flammable stuff.
your husband is being very irresponsible
kick his azz
Answer to both of them: Make your husband clean it =]
How can I make my husband understand we need him home?
My husband works and after that 90% of the time he is at the bar afterward. We have a 5 year old son whom is in therapy for depression and anger management. I know and have tried to tell my husband our son needs more of a family life. He promises he will change and of coarse it doesn't. What's so sad is my little man will tell me when we get home and he sees daddy isn't there '; Daddy's at the bar again.';HELP PLEASE!!!How can I make my husband understand we need him home?
He is probably feeling overwhelmed by his responsibilities and this is his escape. For him to become a real Man, he will need a good infusion of a relationship with GOD. So, gradually try to get him to a real church. Not one of those Religious places, but rather a place of study and worship.How can I make my husband understand we need him home?
Update! My husband has not drink for 1 month today! He also has gone to church every sunday morning sinse! Thank God and any of you who may have prayed for us.
Hi Jennifer, I'm sorry to hear this. I can see that it is disappointing for you.
There may be some communication problems in your marriage, I'm sorry to say. This can be shock to consider but please hear me out. Also, your husband may have some problems with alchohol. There could be many reasons why your husband is not staying home with the family.
Do you attend church? Is there a pastor or minister at church you can talk to about these issues? You may want to plan activities with church friends to cut down on the time your husband spends at the bar. Do you have other friends to do things with? Could they be a positive influence on your husband?
Overall, I think you may want to consider marriage counseling to make sure there are no communication problems in your marriage. A minister, priest or rabbi (even if you aren't Jewish) is a good, low cost way to explore ways to improve your marriage; regardless of your faith, these individuals can help you move in the right direction, because they are all going to advise you with Biblical principles.
I hate to tell you this, but you probably already know it. If your son is 5 years old and your husband is still behaving this way then he's not gonna change. You should consider leaving him.
Also...one more thing you could try first...depression DOES run in the family and if your 5 year old has trouble with it your husband may too. See if you can get him to go to the doctor and have him checked for depression. My dad used to have stress problems and anger problems and he went in and got treated and now he is a completely happy, well adjusted person. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.
My husband works 5 days a week from 4 in the morning to 7 at night and then he works on the weekend too. I have three kids and one has adhd I have always delt with it on my own. I also told my husband he needed to be home more but he is not. We now think its easier when hes at work. Your husband will not change! So either you become both mom and dad like I did or you leave him. Tell your son the truth and then let it go and do your normal day to day stuff.
maybe you should all see a therapist together (and i'm not being sarcastic). He obviously has a problem, and it's effecting you and your son. Maybe if you can sit them all down and listen to unbiased opinions, your husband can get some help. Chances are, if he does quit visiting bars and spend more time at home, your sons depression and angry behavior will cease and desist as well.
Well i must empathize with you and honestly, you have to give your husband an ultimatum, he needs to understand that its the bar or his family, tell him that you understand he works hard and needs a break but his son needs him more now more than ever. Give him some time to adjust, i am sure he will come around.
Good Luck. :)
That's unfortunate. You have to find a way to convey to him the severity of the situation. It doesn't sound like it's very important to him. Of course there are two sides to every story tho, so I can't say too much
I don't think he realize how serious the situation is. You really need to talk to your husband more seriously about the issue, and that it can't go on any longer.
looks like you guys need to sit down and discuss the kids future seriously. Make a compromise, and an agreement that can't be broken.
Show up at the bar with your son and embarrass the hell out of him!!gold eyeshadow makeup hair
He is probably feeling overwhelmed by his responsibilities and this is his escape. For him to become a real Man, he will need a good infusion of a relationship with GOD. So, gradually try to get him to a real church. Not one of those Religious places, but rather a place of study and worship.How can I make my husband understand we need him home?
Update! My husband has not drink for 1 month today! He also has gone to church every sunday morning sinse! Thank God and any of you who may have prayed for us.
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Hi Jennifer, I'm sorry to hear this. I can see that it is disappointing for you.
There may be some communication problems in your marriage, I'm sorry to say. This can be shock to consider but please hear me out. Also, your husband may have some problems with alchohol. There could be many reasons why your husband is not staying home with the family.
Do you attend church? Is there a pastor or minister at church you can talk to about these issues? You may want to plan activities with church friends to cut down on the time your husband spends at the bar. Do you have other friends to do things with? Could they be a positive influence on your husband?
Overall, I think you may want to consider marriage counseling to make sure there are no communication problems in your marriage. A minister, priest or rabbi (even if you aren't Jewish) is a good, low cost way to explore ways to improve your marriage; regardless of your faith, these individuals can help you move in the right direction, because they are all going to advise you with Biblical principles.
I hate to tell you this, but you probably already know it. If your son is 5 years old and your husband is still behaving this way then he's not gonna change. You should consider leaving him.
Also...one more thing you could try first...depression DOES run in the family and if your 5 year old has trouble with it your husband may too. See if you can get him to go to the doctor and have him checked for depression. My dad used to have stress problems and anger problems and he went in and got treated and now he is a completely happy, well adjusted person. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.
My husband works 5 days a week from 4 in the morning to 7 at night and then he works on the weekend too. I have three kids and one has adhd I have always delt with it on my own. I also told my husband he needed to be home more but he is not. We now think its easier when hes at work. Your husband will not change! So either you become both mom and dad like I did or you leave him. Tell your son the truth and then let it go and do your normal day to day stuff.
maybe you should all see a therapist together (and i'm not being sarcastic). He obviously has a problem, and it's effecting you and your son. Maybe if you can sit them all down and listen to unbiased opinions, your husband can get some help. Chances are, if he does quit visiting bars and spend more time at home, your sons depression and angry behavior will cease and desist as well.
Well i must empathize with you and honestly, you have to give your husband an ultimatum, he needs to understand that its the bar or his family, tell him that you understand he works hard and needs a break but his son needs him more now more than ever. Give him some time to adjust, i am sure he will come around.
Good Luck. :)
That's unfortunate. You have to find a way to convey to him the severity of the situation. It doesn't sound like it's very important to him. Of course there are two sides to every story tho, so I can't say too much
I don't think he realize how serious the situation is. You really need to talk to your husband more seriously about the issue, and that it can't go on any longer.
looks like you guys need to sit down and discuss the kids future seriously. Make a compromise, and an agreement that can't be broken.
Show up at the bar with your son and embarrass the hell out of him!!
How can i give my husband more pleasure in bed?
I married Him about 6 months ago and I did lose my virginity to him but I want to know how to give him more pleasure...How can i give my husband more pleasure in bed?
One night, just climb on top of him when he is not expecting it, and have your way with him. Tell him you like being in control. Guys go for that stuff.How can i give my husband more pleasure in bed?
i guess im in the same position... jaja i got married almost 8 months ago and i also lost my virginity with him... well i did this for valentine's and it was our best night ever... well so far.. well cover his eyes and u get in total control. make sure he cant see a thing and well touch his chest and kiss him from the neck down until you've reached his part... and well play with it and do it for a long time,,, he will really enjoy u going down on him....and just tell him crazy stuff.. it really worked with me.... oh and when ur doing this get his hand and place it on ur chest... let him touch u as well...
just ask him what he would want, but most importantly dont ridicule him or think less of him if he wants something crazy. If your not willing to do something just tell him nicely that your just not comfortable, but you dont think he's weird.
Also take your lips and pucker them tight around the head of his you know what. Keyword ';lips';. Not jaw or teeth. JUST THE LIPS, like the muscles you use to make a kissy face! lol
God bless you for asking.
Ask him what he wants and surf the internet for fun surprise ideas (there's no shortage out there, but no way am I typing them all here :)
Don't be afraid to role play, most guys really get off on it.
Ask him.
In case you hadn't notices...we're not exactly shy about open requests.
Ask him and you won't get it wrong a bunch of times.
Good Luck!
Congrats on keeping your virginity until marriage! Good for you!
Tie him up. Let him tie you up. Lick his balls, and all other surrounding area's. Let him spank you with things like man paddles. Obey all of his commands. Titty F. Do it all in one night
The best wife is:
The best cook in kitchen
The Lady in Living room
The prostitute in bed
He just affraid to tell you what he wants Look closely in his xxx movies you will find the answer
Ask him what he likes. Be aware of the feelings and experiences he desires and then try to become his fantasy.
Find out what new things he's like to try, and tell him what you like to try. That's a start and go from there. Hope this helps
Tell him that you are his slave and you want him to tell you what to do.
He would be the one to best answer this question. My guess is since you have only been having sex with him for six months, he's still pretty much thrilled. :)
ask him wat he wants and do the OPPOSITE men never really know wat they want!
One night, just climb on top of him when he is not expecting it, and have your way with him. Tell him you like being in control. Guys go for that stuff.How can i give my husband more pleasure in bed?
i guess im in the same position... jaja i got married almost 8 months ago and i also lost my virginity with him... well i did this for valentine's and it was our best night ever... well so far.. well cover his eyes and u get in total control. make sure he cant see a thing and well touch his chest and kiss him from the neck down until you've reached his part... and well play with it and do it for a long time,,, he will really enjoy u going down on him....and just tell him crazy stuff.. it really worked with me.... oh and when ur doing this get his hand and place it on ur chest... let him touch u as well...
just ask him what he would want, but most importantly dont ridicule him or think less of him if he wants something crazy. If your not willing to do something just tell him nicely that your just not comfortable, but you dont think he's weird.
Also take your lips and pucker them tight around the head of his you know what. Keyword ';lips';. Not jaw or teeth. JUST THE LIPS, like the muscles you use to make a kissy face! lol
God bless you for asking.
Ask him what he wants and surf the internet for fun surprise ideas (there's no shortage out there, but no way am I typing them all here :)
Don't be afraid to role play, most guys really get off on it.
Ask him.
In case you hadn't notices...we're not exactly shy about open requests.
Ask him and you won't get it wrong a bunch of times.
Good Luck!
Congrats on keeping your virginity until marriage! Good for you!
Tie him up. Let him tie you up. Lick his balls, and all other surrounding area's. Let him spank you with things like man paddles. Obey all of his commands. Titty F. Do it all in one night
The best wife is:
The best cook in kitchen
The Lady in Living room
The prostitute in bed
He just affraid to tell you what he wants Look closely in his xxx movies you will find the answer
Ask him what he likes. Be aware of the feelings and experiences he desires and then try to become his fantasy.
Find out what new things he's like to try, and tell him what you like to try. That's a start and go from there. Hope this helps
Tell him that you are his slave and you want him to tell you what to do.
He would be the one to best answer this question. My guess is since you have only been having sex with him for six months, he's still pretty much thrilled. :)
ask him wat he wants and do the OPPOSITE men never really know wat they want!
How can I get my husband to realize that I can't control my raging hormones?
This is our 2nd pregnancy %26amp; ever since the day we found out we were pregnant, he has been saying ';oh great, now I have to deal with your hormones for the next 9 months';. I will just tell him to shut up because he's irritating me %26amp; he gets really pissed off! Then we end up arguing %26amp; my heart starts racing. I'm really afraid of miscarriage because I had one before my son.How can I get my husband to realize that I can't control my raging hormones?
take a pillow case and stuff it with heavy, but comfortable things. then for a day tell him to tape it around his waist and for an entire day do everything you do. when he decides he wants to take it off, tell him he can't, that you can't take yours off.
[also, make sure he doesn't eat anything or drink anything you wouldn't. ex: alcoholic drinks. especially since you can't]How can I get my husband to realize that I can't control my raging hormones?
i feel for you. just do your best to be patient with him. his feeling of anger will subside. he just needs to take a ';time out'; before speaking, and if he dos stress out he needs to just walk away and find his own inner peace and remember of the beautiful child to come. best of luck
take a pillow case and stuff it with heavy, but comfortable things. then for a day tell him to tape it around his waist and for an entire day do everything you do. when he decides he wants to take it off, tell him he can't, that you can't take yours off.
[also, make sure he doesn't eat anything or drink anything you wouldn't. ex: alcoholic drinks. especially since you can't]How can I get my husband to realize that I can't control my raging hormones?
i feel for you. just do your best to be patient with him. his feeling of anger will subside. he just needs to take a ';time out'; before speaking, and if he dos stress out he needs to just walk away and find his own inner peace and remember of the beautiful child to come. best of luck
How can I help my husband feel better about his small manhood?
Lately my husband has been sort of depressed about his small manhood...but we have three kids together...so how can I help him feel better?How can I help my husband feel better about his small manhood?
Just tell him that there is nothing he can do to change it so don't worry. Obviously since you have 3 kids, you don't mind.How can I help my husband feel better about his small manhood?
When your three kids sprout horns and start talking backwards, then he'll know the repurcussions of his small manhood.
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Wow I'm in the same boat. My wife tells me on a constant basis that I'm well enough for her but I get down sometimes. I always throw little remarks about my manhood to her and she gets mad and then puts me in my place. During sex twist a bit until he hits that spot and then shriek a little bit. Make him feel large by re-assurance as much as he needs it. If the sex is great and you both know it don't use that to make him feel bigger. Just remind him. Wait till a good time when you know your going to do it and say something like, ';I so need you rammed in me right now.'; Try talking dirty to him but don't over do it. The both of you will be fine.
tell him his size doesn't matter it's what he does with it that you love assure him your are as satisfied by him now as you have always been, that you love him and to you he isn't small but more than ample for your needs, the fallacy that a large penis makes a better lover is rubbish if you both love one another and enjoy each other then size doesn't matter Good Luck MERRY XMAS!!!!!!!!!!!
All you have to do is say to him you love him for his heart and not his penis. Other wise he might get even more depressed about what is natural. Have you ever heard that if you worry important things might fall off.
Best of luck my friend
My Ex girlfriend was self conscious about her private parts and I told her it is not the look of something its the unconditional love you put behind it/.
He needs to accept the fact that we're all unique and we're all born with different talents. It's just the way life is.
If you're happy with his size, then, of course, tell him.
There's always enlargement surgeries, but they're not cheap, and sometimes the patients are even more unhappy after the surgery than they were before the surgery.
i dont understand why he would feel bad about this. your his wife and you obviously love him. he needs to trust you. thats the bottom line. he needs to let go of insecruities and/or lies he has believed about himself and move on. most men think they are small when they really are not that small. keep being a good wife and he will be fine. it could just be a phase. good luck.
who cares u have 3 kids get over it,. he shudnt be complaining un greatful ****
Keep loving him and tell him size only matters when it comes to the heart!
Say you love him for who he is, not his penis.
Give him A LOT of compliments.
tell him you haven't had bigger :) that's what my friend's wife did.
(she told me)
and he instantly became happy again
have more anal sex....little ones are perfect for it
lots of phrase and kisses
lie
say to him that you're still with him aren't you.... so what's the problem?
when ur having sex say how great it feels when he;s inside of u...be liek oh ur so big ...etc
Just tell him that there is nothing he can do to change it so don't worry. Obviously since you have 3 kids, you don't mind.How can I help my husband feel better about his small manhood?
When your three kids sprout horns and start talking backwards, then he'll know the repurcussions of his small manhood.
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Wow I'm in the same boat. My wife tells me on a constant basis that I'm well enough for her but I get down sometimes. I always throw little remarks about my manhood to her and she gets mad and then puts me in my place. During sex twist a bit until he hits that spot and then shriek a little bit. Make him feel large by re-assurance as much as he needs it. If the sex is great and you both know it don't use that to make him feel bigger. Just remind him. Wait till a good time when you know your going to do it and say something like, ';I so need you rammed in me right now.'; Try talking dirty to him but don't over do it. The both of you will be fine.
tell him his size doesn't matter it's what he does with it that you love assure him your are as satisfied by him now as you have always been, that you love him and to you he isn't small but more than ample for your needs, the fallacy that a large penis makes a better lover is rubbish if you both love one another and enjoy each other then size doesn't matter Good Luck MERRY XMAS!!!!!!!!!!!
All you have to do is say to him you love him for his heart and not his penis. Other wise he might get even more depressed about what is natural. Have you ever heard that if you worry important things might fall off.
Best of luck my friend
My Ex girlfriend was self conscious about her private parts and I told her it is not the look of something its the unconditional love you put behind it/.
He needs to accept the fact that we're all unique and we're all born with different talents. It's just the way life is.
If you're happy with his size, then, of course, tell him.
There's always enlargement surgeries, but they're not cheap, and sometimes the patients are even more unhappy after the surgery than they were before the surgery.
i dont understand why he would feel bad about this. your his wife and you obviously love him. he needs to trust you. thats the bottom line. he needs to let go of insecruities and/or lies he has believed about himself and move on. most men think they are small when they really are not that small. keep being a good wife and he will be fine. it could just be a phase. good luck.
who cares u have 3 kids get over it,. he shudnt be complaining un greatful ****
Keep loving him and tell him size only matters when it comes to the heart!
Say you love him for who he is, not his penis.
Give him A LOT of compliments.
tell him you haven't had bigger :) that's what my friend's wife did.
(she told me)
and he instantly became happy again
have more anal sex....little ones are perfect for it
lots of phrase and kisses
lie
say to him that you're still with him aren't you.... so what's the problem?
when ur having sex say how great it feels when he;s inside of u...be liek oh ur so big ...etc
I just told my future husband that I have herpes, he was shocked and worried at frist?
But when I educate him on the std he understood, he still loves me and I was so scared to tell him. Is hpv and herpes the same? Whats the difference?I just told my future husband that I have herpes, he was shocked and worried at frist?
You should've told him a LONG long time ago.....like before sex ever happened!
He has a right to be mad, scared %26amp; confused because you put him at risk for something without his knowledge...
Anyhow
HPV= Warts
HSV= Herpes
I can't imagine you educating someoneI just told my future husband that I have herpes, he was shocked and worried at frist?
YES,It's the same. Genital herpes,a contagious viral infection that appears as painful blisters or lesions on the genital organs. It can be managed medically, but not cured.
Human papillomavirus (HPV) is the name of a group of viruses that infect the skin. There are more than 70 different types of HPV. Certain types of HPV cause warts on the hands or feet, and other types can cause warts on the genitals. But some people never have warts they can see and many never get warts, so most people with HPV do not know they have it. About 30 of these types are sexually transmitted and cause genital HPV. Some types of genital HPV may cause genital warts, while other types of genital HPV are linked to abnormal cell changes on the cervix (detected through Paps).
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What is herpes?
Herpes is a common and usually mild recurrent skin condition; most infections are unrecognized and undiagnosed.
Herpes is caused by a virus: the herpes simplex virus (HSV).
HSV is in a family of viruses called herpesviruses. This family includes Epstein-Barr virus (the cause of mono) and the varicella zoster virus (the cause of chicken pox and shingles).
Although there are several viruses in the herpesvirus family, each is a separate virus and different. Having one virus does not mean you will have another.
HSV can cause oral herpes (cold sores or fever blisters on the mouth or facial area) as well as genital herpes (similar symptoms in the genital region).
There are two types of herpes simplex: herpes simplex virus type 1 (HSV-1) and herpes simplex virus type 2 (HSV-2).
The majority of oral herpes cases are caused by HSV-1 and the majority of genital herpes cases are caused by HSV-2; however, type-1 or type-2 can occur in either the genital or oral area.
No, they are different. The differences are just the symptoms. They are both viral and can not be cured, and both have outbreaks of sores. Your doctor would tell you if you had HPV, but I'm sure you don't!
Good luck :)
Maybe you shoulda told him around the fifth or sixth date, not at the engagement party.
That said, with proper management and protection it is very possible for you both to have a normal sex life without him becoming infected too. Also, ask your doctor about a pill you can take to reduce outbreaks. Also, check out www.herpes.org - everything you ever wanted to know, including the links between herpes, HPV, and others.
Good luck!
HPV is Human papillomaviruses and herpes is herpes simplex virus. HPV can cause warts and cervical cancer, herpes causes herpes outbreaks. GOOD job telling him
a good website is the center for disease control
www.cdc.gov/STD/
#1 - Herpes and Human Papilloma Virus are, indeed, NOT the same. HPV is more common with females than with males, and is often statistically linked (maybe even physically linked) to cervical cancer. I don't think HPV is very contagious, but HSV most-certainly IS.
#2 - Are you certain you have Herpes? Is it genital herpes or what people commonly call ';cold sores.'; (Both are Herpes Simplex Virus and can only be discerned by microscopic examination, and each ';type'; can occur at either location.) Get as much information as you can from your doctor and share it with your fiance'.
You should've told him a LONG long time ago.....like before sex ever happened!
He has a right to be mad, scared %26amp; confused because you put him at risk for something without his knowledge...
Anyhow
HPV= Warts
HSV= Herpes
I can't imagine you educating someoneI just told my future husband that I have herpes, he was shocked and worried at frist?
YES,It's the same. Genital herpes,a contagious viral infection that appears as painful blisters or lesions on the genital organs. It can be managed medically, but not cured.
Human papillomavirus (HPV) is the name of a group of viruses that infect the skin. There are more than 70 different types of HPV. Certain types of HPV cause warts on the hands or feet, and other types can cause warts on the genitals. But some people never have warts they can see and many never get warts, so most people with HPV do not know they have it. About 30 of these types are sexually transmitted and cause genital HPV. Some types of genital HPV may cause genital warts, while other types of genital HPV are linked to abnormal cell changes on the cervix (detected through Paps).
NEXT!!!!!!!!
What is herpes?
Herpes is a common and usually mild recurrent skin condition; most infections are unrecognized and undiagnosed.
Herpes is caused by a virus: the herpes simplex virus (HSV).
HSV is in a family of viruses called herpesviruses. This family includes Epstein-Barr virus (the cause of mono) and the varicella zoster virus (the cause of chicken pox and shingles).
Although there are several viruses in the herpesvirus family, each is a separate virus and different. Having one virus does not mean you will have another.
HSV can cause oral herpes (cold sores or fever blisters on the mouth or facial area) as well as genital herpes (similar symptoms in the genital region).
There are two types of herpes simplex: herpes simplex virus type 1 (HSV-1) and herpes simplex virus type 2 (HSV-2).
The majority of oral herpes cases are caused by HSV-1 and the majority of genital herpes cases are caused by HSV-2; however, type-1 or type-2 can occur in either the genital or oral area.
No, they are different. The differences are just the symptoms. They are both viral and can not be cured, and both have outbreaks of sores. Your doctor would tell you if you had HPV, but I'm sure you don't!
Good luck :)
Maybe you shoulda told him around the fifth or sixth date, not at the engagement party.
That said, with proper management and protection it is very possible for you both to have a normal sex life without him becoming infected too. Also, ask your doctor about a pill you can take to reduce outbreaks. Also, check out www.herpes.org - everything you ever wanted to know, including the links between herpes, HPV, and others.
Good luck!
HPV is Human papillomaviruses and herpes is herpes simplex virus. HPV can cause warts and cervical cancer, herpes causes herpes outbreaks. GOOD job telling him
a good website is the center for disease control
www.cdc.gov/STD/
#1 - Herpes and Human Papilloma Virus are, indeed, NOT the same. HPV is more common with females than with males, and is often statistically linked (maybe even physically linked) to cervical cancer. I don't think HPV is very contagious, but HSV most-certainly IS.
#2 - Are you certain you have Herpes? Is it genital herpes or what people commonly call ';cold sores.'; (Both are Herpes Simplex Virus and can only be discerned by microscopic examination, and each ';type'; can occur at either location.) Get as much information as you can from your doctor and share it with your fiance'.
Why do my cats sleep on me every night and not my husband?
Every night they sleep on me. Even if i change what side of the bed i sleep on they can find me and will sleep on my back or my legs. It was funny at first that they liked me better then my husband but now its kind of old. My oldest cat is 21pds and he sleeps on my back. I'll push him off during the night but it seems he knows once im back to sleep, he'll jump right back up there and i'll wake up and he's on my back. Its starting to give me a back ache throught the day. My other cat is about 15pds but she'll mostly either sleep on my pillow or on my legs. I dont even remember the last time i woke up and they both were on me. why is this? i dont know how much longer my back can take it!!! i know i can shut the door to the bedroom but they will scratch and cry for hours...i've tried it before.Why do my cats sleep on me every night and not my husband?
They think you're they're mommy! Have you tried getting cat beds and toys outside the room? It will take some patience but you can shut them out if they have somewhere to go. They'll cry and scratch the first few nights but should get the message.Why do my cats sleep on me every night and not my husband?
Mine do the same thing! I thought it was because I'm warmer, but really, I think I just toss and turn less. I found that mine will lay on a certain blanket (furry) instead of me as long as I put it on the foot of my bed. Maybe you could try the same thing. Go to a fabric store and get a yard of some different furry/velvet-y fabrics and see if they like any of those better than you!
Good luck!
Do you move less than him?
Do you cats have a history of being abused? (my dog hates short skinny men; she was from a shelter.)
Do you have restless nights, anxiety, bad dreams or anything similar? (cats are intuative; they go to whoever needs them the most-I cry alot at night and my kitten always seems to know what hurts, my head or back or whatever)
Are you the one that feeds them?
You are the softer warmer human so they sleep on you. I too am a cat pillow.
omg they really love you @_@ my puppy dose not love me he love my wife when i let him sleep with me he jump out of my arm and go to my wife
I would love to go with the being warmer theory, but I am freezing all the time.
My kids take turns feeding them in the morning, so that's not it.
I have the same problem, and my back is toast, so I now go to the chiropractor once a week. The only difference is I have 4 cats. 2 of them are 14lbs. one is 16 lbs., and my baby is about 12 lbs.
I prefer to think, it is just cuz they love me so much. I did have my vet say, it could be since women have mammary glands, and they are attracted to the scent.
I think they just like be more than my hubby.
my opinion is the fact, from experience , they love you and hate you at the same time.
my kittie maggie whose obese *** is on me all night is trying to suck the very life out of me dont take it personally!!!!
It probably likes your scent, voice and clothing better than your husbands! cats love comfort
Im sure you give your cats 100% more attention than your hubby does. Cats will love anyone who pets them and feeds them. Ask him to give them more attention so they can love him more.
They think you're they're mommy! Have you tried getting cat beds and toys outside the room? It will take some patience but you can shut them out if they have somewhere to go. They'll cry and scratch the first few nights but should get the message.Why do my cats sleep on me every night and not my husband?
Mine do the same thing! I thought it was because I'm warmer, but really, I think I just toss and turn less. I found that mine will lay on a certain blanket (furry) instead of me as long as I put it on the foot of my bed. Maybe you could try the same thing. Go to a fabric store and get a yard of some different furry/velvet-y fabrics and see if they like any of those better than you!
Good luck!
Do you move less than him?
Do you cats have a history of being abused? (my dog hates short skinny men; she was from a shelter.)
Do you have restless nights, anxiety, bad dreams or anything similar? (cats are intuative; they go to whoever needs them the most-I cry alot at night and my kitten always seems to know what hurts, my head or back or whatever)
Are you the one that feeds them?
You are the softer warmer human so they sleep on you. I too am a cat pillow.
omg they really love you @_@ my puppy dose not love me he love my wife when i let him sleep with me he jump out of my arm and go to my wife
I would love to go with the being warmer theory, but I am freezing all the time.
My kids take turns feeding them in the morning, so that's not it.
I have the same problem, and my back is toast, so I now go to the chiropractor once a week. The only difference is I have 4 cats. 2 of them are 14lbs. one is 16 lbs., and my baby is about 12 lbs.
I prefer to think, it is just cuz they love me so much. I did have my vet say, it could be since women have mammary glands, and they are attracted to the scent.
I think they just like be more than my hubby.
my opinion is the fact, from experience , they love you and hate you at the same time.
my kittie maggie whose obese *** is on me all night is trying to suck the very life out of me dont take it personally!!!!
It probably likes your scent, voice and clothing better than your husbands! cats love comfort
Im sure you give your cats 100% more attention than your hubby does. Cats will love anyone who pets them and feeds them. Ask him to give them more attention so they can love him more.
Is he cheating if your husband often goes home late or most of the time having overnight in the office?
and he seldom kisses u or hugs you or intimate w/ you, spends most of his time during weekends in our in-laws as per him, and you saw pictures of his officemate on his hardisk in two piece suit w/c according to him was not his %26amp; was just retrieved by his boss bcs. he borrowed his hardrive., %26amp; he often pick fights with you with shallow reasons...What should you do? Is he cheating if your husband often goes home late or most of the time having overnight in the office?
definately sounds like cheating .. or is playing poker with the guys in the office.
Have you tried questioning him about it?Is he cheating if your husband often goes home late or most of the time having overnight in the office?
I used to work in a law office where everybody used to work late every night, usually until 10 or 11pm, and it wasn't unheard of to work straight through the night. Naturally, because we spent so much time together, we were all very close. We ate lunch and dinner together, shared pictures, stories and friendships. Perhaps he really is working all that much. It would explain his irate behavior.
No one sleeps overnight at an office..he certainly sounds like hes cheating.
1. Get a lawyer
2. Give a stack of money to your parents as a ';gift'; and get it back after the divorce goes through
3. Take everything and anything
Maybe you should tell him, you and he, need to sit down and have a talk...and tell him your fears and confusion. Then see what he says.
If you look at statistics, he definitely has signs of a cheater, if not already, could become one.
Go with your instincts on this!
Point out the differences you've noticed.. Ask him what's up? If he's n longer happy, you have a right to know..
Not necessarily cheating but he is unhappy for a fact. This needs to be worked out. I'm sure your not too happy either.
suspicious id say nothing and keep your head together go look for evidence x
Yup ... something is goingon with him. You should give him surprise visits in his 'office!'...
Yeah, he's ******* around. You need to play detective and get some answers! Go get him tiger!
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definately sounds like cheating .. or is playing poker with the guys in the office.
Have you tried questioning him about it?Is he cheating if your husband often goes home late or most of the time having overnight in the office?
I used to work in a law office where everybody used to work late every night, usually until 10 or 11pm, and it wasn't unheard of to work straight through the night. Naturally, because we spent so much time together, we were all very close. We ate lunch and dinner together, shared pictures, stories and friendships. Perhaps he really is working all that much. It would explain his irate behavior.
No one sleeps overnight at an office..he certainly sounds like hes cheating.
1. Get a lawyer
2. Give a stack of money to your parents as a ';gift'; and get it back after the divorce goes through
3. Take everything and anything
Maybe you should tell him, you and he, need to sit down and have a talk...and tell him your fears and confusion. Then see what he says.
If you look at statistics, he definitely has signs of a cheater, if not already, could become one.
Go with your instincts on this!
Point out the differences you've noticed.. Ask him what's up? If he's n longer happy, you have a right to know..
Not necessarily cheating but he is unhappy for a fact. This needs to be worked out. I'm sure your not too happy either.
suspicious id say nothing and keep your head together go look for evidence x
Yup ... something is goingon with him. You should give him surprise visits in his 'office!'...
Yeah, he's ******* around. You need to play detective and get some answers! Go get him tiger!
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My 3 weeks old baby will only sleep if me or my husband is holding him. Why?
If we put him in his bassinet or swing, he cries and will eventually start to scream at the top of his lungs. He does this all day and all night. What can we do?My 3 weeks old baby will only sleep if me or my husband is holding him. Why?
Assess the cryi....This link helped me more then I could every tell you!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunstan_Bab鈥?/a>
Once I knew why he was crying it made life SOOO much simplierMy 3 weeks old baby will only sleep if me or my husband is holding him. Why?
Try swaddling him. He's used to being in very close quarters and to go from feeling your heart beat and being all snuggled up to you to then being placed in a bassinet that isn't warm like you or snuggly like you is a shock. Swaddle him tightly and warm up his bassinet with a heating pad. Then, take the heating pad out and lay your son in the bassinet. It will be warm long enough for him to get good and asleep. We had to do this for a week or so until our son got used to sleeping in the bassinet. We spent the first ten days of his life holding him so he could sleep--it got exhausting, and it was all I could think to do to keep from going crazy. It will get better eventually, too.
Try swaddling as the above responders suggested. I know for us, using a pacifier worked really well, since our baby was very ';sucky.'; Make sure the room is dark and use some white noise like a loud fan or a CD playing continuous sounds. You can try ';rocking'; or rolling the bassinet until he falls asleep at first. Good luck!
its the warmth, and the comfort. he just spent nine months in a warm little spot tucked inside you :) try soft music. they have music players that sound like womb sounds. my son really took to the nature sounds. also stuffed animals that play music too. my son was like this as well. of course, he also had acid reflux. might want to check into that as well. his stomach was getting upset after feeding him...we thought it was a sleep issue, instead it was a issue of baby being in pain. acid reflux is quite common. he was put on med and did much better.
Yeah, try swaddling him really tight and making sure he is warm since they came from a small and tight place after all. Sounds already bad that he's use to being already hold...so break this if you can while he still very young or it will be hard for you later.
Assess the cryi....This link helped me more then I could every tell you!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunstan_Bab鈥?/a>
Once I knew why he was crying it made life SOOO much simplierMy 3 weeks old baby will only sleep if me or my husband is holding him. Why?
Try swaddling him. He's used to being in very close quarters and to go from feeling your heart beat and being all snuggled up to you to then being placed in a bassinet that isn't warm like you or snuggly like you is a shock. Swaddle him tightly and warm up his bassinet with a heating pad. Then, take the heating pad out and lay your son in the bassinet. It will be warm long enough for him to get good and asleep. We had to do this for a week or so until our son got used to sleeping in the bassinet. We spent the first ten days of his life holding him so he could sleep--it got exhausting, and it was all I could think to do to keep from going crazy. It will get better eventually, too.
Try swaddling as the above responders suggested. I know for us, using a pacifier worked really well, since our baby was very ';sucky.'; Make sure the room is dark and use some white noise like a loud fan or a CD playing continuous sounds. You can try ';rocking'; or rolling the bassinet until he falls asleep at first. Good luck!
its the warmth, and the comfort. he just spent nine months in a warm little spot tucked inside you :) try soft music. they have music players that sound like womb sounds. my son really took to the nature sounds. also stuffed animals that play music too. my son was like this as well. of course, he also had acid reflux. might want to check into that as well. his stomach was getting upset after feeding him...we thought it was a sleep issue, instead it was a issue of baby being in pain. acid reflux is quite common. he was put on med and did much better.
Yeah, try swaddling him really tight and making sure he is warm since they came from a small and tight place after all. Sounds already bad that he's use to being already hold...so break this if you can while he still very young or it will be hard for you later.
My mohter recently gave my husband and i a wedding reception at her house?
i know that her funds were limited but I wanted to thank her and let her know what a wonderful job she did withthe planning, decorations, food etcs., I want to send her on a little getaway in the dc md va area. somewhere where she can be pampered and relax etc., she does not drive. any ideas, thanks.My mohter recently gave my husband and i a wedding reception at her house?
You should get her a pass to a day spa, or she may just enjoy spending some alone time with you. You could take her on a girl's day out where you eat somewhere nice, and get your nails done together.My mohter recently gave my husband and i a wedding reception at her house?
maybe there is a bus or something that would take her on a tour and a B and B out by Monticello or something. try a travel agent.
a bed and breakfast is always nice
but only if she has someone to
take along????
Day spas are also great
get her tickets to a show at wolftrap, and season tickets for baseball.
Not sure where in Maryland you're looking, but there's an Inn and spa in St. Michael's, Maryland called The Five Gables Spa. It's an Inn, so it's not a huge place. But the rooms are beautiful, the spa is great (they offer everything, various types of massages, nails, facials, etc.), and the people are very considerate of their guests. And the great thing about St. Michaels is everything is in walking distance....there are many restaurants, shops, galleries, and the marina. It's a Chesapeake Bay oriented town, very quaint and relaxing, and the scenery is beautiful. It'd be even better if you went with her.
Does she LIVE in the dc/md area? If so, I would do a DAY of pampering. First, hire a limo to go and pick her up....she would obviously have to know ahead of time. Just tell her ';I want to thank you for all you did and as a treat, I want you to have a day of star treatment.'; Limo takes her to a great day spa where she'll get the works. She would probably LOVE it if you joined her for the day but I understand if you can't afford 2 packages. You could just pop in and join her for the mani/pedi part of the day. It will mean more to her if she gets to spend time with YOU.
Very nice of you. Here are some ideas.
You should get her a pass to a day spa, or she may just enjoy spending some alone time with you. You could take her on a girl's day out where you eat somewhere nice, and get your nails done together.My mohter recently gave my husband and i a wedding reception at her house?
maybe there is a bus or something that would take her on a tour and a B and B out by Monticello or something. try a travel agent.
a bed and breakfast is always nice
but only if she has someone to
take along????
Day spas are also great
get her tickets to a show at wolftrap, and season tickets for baseball.
Not sure where in Maryland you're looking, but there's an Inn and spa in St. Michael's, Maryland called The Five Gables Spa. It's an Inn, so it's not a huge place. But the rooms are beautiful, the spa is great (they offer everything, various types of massages, nails, facials, etc.), and the people are very considerate of their guests. And the great thing about St. Michaels is everything is in walking distance....there are many restaurants, shops, galleries, and the marina. It's a Chesapeake Bay oriented town, very quaint and relaxing, and the scenery is beautiful. It'd be even better if you went with her.
Does she LIVE in the dc/md area? If so, I would do a DAY of pampering. First, hire a limo to go and pick her up....she would obviously have to know ahead of time. Just tell her ';I want to thank you for all you did and as a treat, I want you to have a day of star treatment.'; Limo takes her to a great day spa where she'll get the works. She would probably LOVE it if you joined her for the day but I understand if you can't afford 2 packages. You could just pop in and join her for the mani/pedi part of the day. It will mean more to her if she gets to spend time with YOU.
Very nice of you. Here are some ideas.
Best way To send my husband his favorite cookies in Kuwait?
My husband is deploying overseas and he absolutly loves the banana chocolate chip cookies that I am famous for making. I need ideas of how to get them to him without them being broken and stale. He really hates stale cookies! Any ideas?Best way To send my husband his favorite cookies in Kuwait?
vacuum seal them, depending on the size of the bags, they need to stay flat, just say 9 per bag, 3 sets of 3, then pad the box ( idea use popped popcorn he can give it to his buddies ) lay a good layer of loose popcorn on the bottom then 1 pack of cookies the a layer of popcorn and so on,
hope this helps, John
just remember the cookies are not stake in the vacuun seal but singal layersBest way To send my husband his favorite cookies in Kuwait?
I send cookies to my husband in Kuwait frequently. I pack them in single layers in ziplock quart sized bags layered with bubblewrap, paper towels, newspaper, etc. inbetween the layers to cushion. I pack them in a shoebox and then put the shoebox in another box with cushioning around it. The most important thing to remember is that if there is room in the box (or tin, or whatever YOU choose to pack the cookies in) for the cookies to shake or move around at all, they will arrive broken. So, make sure that if there is any extra room, it's filled with something cushiony.
Don't bother insuring anything you send through the mail, as insurance only covers it to the NY APO, not to any overseas destination. It usually takes about 7-14 days to get to Kuwait, and if you pack them in something airtight, they will not be stale when they get there.
By the way, popcorn will be stale by the next day after you pop it and won't be fit for birds to eat by the time your cookies get to Kuwait, so please don't use that. Plus, it may ';contaminate'; the cookies with popcorn flavor/smell.
You can pack them in empty Pringles cans and they ship beautiful. I have done this many times. If you ask around for people to save their cans for you they are always happy to do so. I bought a small cookie dropper which made cookies the exact size I needed to fit in the can so they couldn't move around. Just stack them in there like the pringles were. You can cover the cans with contac paper if you want to fancy them up a bit.
vacuum seal them, depending on the size of the bags, they need to stay flat, just say 9 per bag, 3 sets of 3, then pad the box ( idea use popped popcorn he can give it to his buddies ) lay a good layer of loose popcorn on the bottom then 1 pack of cookies the a layer of popcorn and so on,
hope this helps, John
just remember the cookies are not stake in the vacuun seal but singal layersBest way To send my husband his favorite cookies in Kuwait?
I send cookies to my husband in Kuwait frequently. I pack them in single layers in ziplock quart sized bags layered with bubblewrap, paper towels, newspaper, etc. inbetween the layers to cushion. I pack them in a shoebox and then put the shoebox in another box with cushioning around it. The most important thing to remember is that if there is room in the box (or tin, or whatever YOU choose to pack the cookies in) for the cookies to shake or move around at all, they will arrive broken. So, make sure that if there is any extra room, it's filled with something cushiony.
Don't bother insuring anything you send through the mail, as insurance only covers it to the NY APO, not to any overseas destination. It usually takes about 7-14 days to get to Kuwait, and if you pack them in something airtight, they will not be stale when they get there.
By the way, popcorn will be stale by the next day after you pop it and won't be fit for birds to eat by the time your cookies get to Kuwait, so please don't use that. Plus, it may ';contaminate'; the cookies with popcorn flavor/smell.
You can pack them in empty Pringles cans and they ship beautiful. I have done this many times. If you ask around for people to save their cans for you they are always happy to do so. I bought a small cookie dropper which made cookies the exact size I needed to fit in the can so they couldn't move around. Just stack them in there like the pringles were. You can cover the cans with contac paper if you want to fancy them up a bit.
Where can I find a used shop type air compressor for my husband shop at home?
he's wanting one that he can sit outside of his shop and a run hose through the wall into the shop and use it anywheres inside the shop.Where can I find a used shop type air compressor for my husband shop at home?
try the newspaper, thrifty nickel, ebay and pawn shops.. your best bet is to buy new cuz they will have a warranty. harbor frieght and northern tool co. are good choices. if used always barter the price down especially at a pawn shopWhere can I find a used shop type air compressor for my husband shop at home?
Depends on where you live. I would suggest checking Ebay and local 'Buy %26amp; Sell' or 'Equipment Trader' type magazines. Also check with local garage supply type stores to see what information they may have.
It depends on what the air compressor will be used for. If he will be running air tools or a spray paint gun, the compressor will have to be big enough to provide the air that he needs. If he is only going to air up tires or blow dust, that is not as critical. If that is the case, a 2-hp/125 volt compressor will do just fine. You can get those for less than $200 at places like Home Depot or farm stores. I have also seen them at Walmart. Get one that is oil-lubricated if possible.
If he needs a bigger compressor, you might check some auto parts stores that sell to bodyshops. They get used ones in on trade occasionally.
id look at the auctions if any in your area, you can also sometimes buy a new unit fairly cheap from harborfreight tools. one thing you might want to know before you buyis how is it going to be used,if he is going to run airtools an such off it,you will need a high cfm model because a small one wont do it.if possible look on ebay, or at a military auction.many times u can find tools that are used, but in like new condition
try the newspaper, thrifty nickel, ebay and pawn shops.. your best bet is to buy new cuz they will have a warranty. harbor frieght and northern tool co. are good choices. if used always barter the price down especially at a pawn shopWhere can I find a used shop type air compressor for my husband shop at home?
Depends on where you live. I would suggest checking Ebay and local 'Buy %26amp; Sell' or 'Equipment Trader' type magazines. Also check with local garage supply type stores to see what information they may have.
It depends on what the air compressor will be used for. If he will be running air tools or a spray paint gun, the compressor will have to be big enough to provide the air that he needs. If he is only going to air up tires or blow dust, that is not as critical. If that is the case, a 2-hp/125 volt compressor will do just fine. You can get those for less than $200 at places like Home Depot or farm stores. I have also seen them at Walmart. Get one that is oil-lubricated if possible.
If he needs a bigger compressor, you might check some auto parts stores that sell to bodyshops. They get used ones in on trade occasionally.
id look at the auctions if any in your area, you can also sometimes buy a new unit fairly cheap from harborfreight tools. one thing you might want to know before you buyis how is it going to be used,if he is going to run airtools an such off it,you will need a high cfm model because a small one wont do it.if possible look on ebay, or at a military auction.many times u can find tools that are used, but in like new condition
What to do with a friend who is a girlfriend of your husband?
The wife just found out that her husband has a romantic relationship thru text messaging with their neighbor and actually that also the wife's friend. DOn't have a sexual relationship!!!What to do with a friend who is a girlfriend of your husband?
Tell her to be a God fearing person like you, be within her limits of friendship %26amp; not interfere in the family life of you %26amp; your husband at all otherwise God will teach her a good lesson nicely.What to do with a friend who is a girlfriend of your husband?
Wow sounds a bit kinky. Why not just invite her to join yall in the bedroom. It may be a bit more exciting for all involved.
i think i just answered this question somewhere else
Tell her to be a God fearing person like you, be within her limits of friendship %26amp; not interfere in the family life of you %26amp; your husband at all otherwise God will teach her a good lesson nicely.What to do with a friend who is a girlfriend of your husband?
Wow sounds a bit kinky. Why not just invite her to join yall in the bedroom. It may be a bit more exciting for all involved.
i think i just answered this question somewhere else
What should I get my husband for Vday?
It's our first married Valentine's Day. We are young- 22/23. He's pretty low key- not really into these holidays. I want to do something, though.What should I get my husband for Vday?
It really depends on how much money you are spending. Since he is low key, Maybe a movie and a nice dinner at home. You could fix some nice steaks and a baked potato and salad, sounds good doesn't it. and eat by candlelight while listening to Barry White music.
I'm glad i answered this one because that's what I'm going to do too.
and don't forget sweets for your sweetie. Happy Valentines' Day to you and yours.What should I get my husband for Vday?
You could prepare a picnic. Cook up an awesome meal, or just go with sandwiches. Make some chocolate covered strawberries for dessert, grab a blanket and head to the park. If it's too cold out, you could have the picnic in your own living room. You could turn out the lights, set up some candles and just relax together.
Sweet and simple.
a coupon book full of wonderful sexy ideas,he pull a coupon and you fulfill his fantasy.
make a nice dinner
or go out
then get condoms and go all out
:D
orrrr
you can watch that bloody valentine movie
It would be nice if we knew what kind of hobbies your husband has. That always helps for people giving advice.
a chocolate vagina.
oh sh%t thanks for reminding me! you know what you should get him? a calander and circle v day so he dont forget!gold eyeshadow makeup hair
It really depends on how much money you are spending. Since he is low key, Maybe a movie and a nice dinner at home. You could fix some nice steaks and a baked potato and salad, sounds good doesn't it. and eat by candlelight while listening to Barry White music.
I'm glad i answered this one because that's what I'm going to do too.
and don't forget sweets for your sweetie. Happy Valentines' Day to you and yours.What should I get my husband for Vday?
You could prepare a picnic. Cook up an awesome meal, or just go with sandwiches. Make some chocolate covered strawberries for dessert, grab a blanket and head to the park. If it's too cold out, you could have the picnic in your own living room. You could turn out the lights, set up some candles and just relax together.
Sweet and simple.
a coupon book full of wonderful sexy ideas,he pull a coupon and you fulfill his fantasy.
make a nice dinner
or go out
then get condoms and go all out
:D
orrrr
you can watch that bloody valentine movie
It would be nice if we knew what kind of hobbies your husband has. That always helps for people giving advice.
a chocolate vagina.
oh sh%t thanks for reminding me! you know what you should get him? a calander and circle v day so he dont forget!
What to do for my problem regarding my sexual life with my husband?
my husband is not satisfied with me in sex.he says mine is very loose and that he is not satisfied.because of this he is having external affairs.how to rectify this.should i get some operation done so that it goes tight.please give me a solution.What to do for my problem regarding my sexual life with my husband?
Wake up, hon. Your husband is just using that as an excuse to justify his infidelity. He's trying to make it YOUR fault, when it is 100% his. If it it wasn't ';looseness'; down there, it'd be something else.
You need to set him straight right now (assuming you want to save the marriage). He needs to either clean up HIS act, or leave his sorry butt.What to do for my problem regarding my sexual life with my husband?
I am 60+ years old and thought I had heard most everything a man could come up with regarding his ';needs.'; This takes the cake.
Pack his bags, clear out his possessions, and advise him to go and live with his piece. You don't want to have to worry about catching anything from his ';affairs.';
Talk to an attorney to make sure all your details are taken care of properly.
Don't try to change yourself to appease someone else. I delivered seven babies which you would think would stretch the equipment but, I had no such complaints from my husband. And I am not one to jump on the trends such as exercises for my parts. If there is a problem in that area, he helped to cause it, now he can deal with it.
Thank heaven mine is dead and I don't have to deal with that kind of attitude.
First you need to get rid of him. Being ''loose'; down there is no excuse for that kind of behavior! If he truly loves you he will not want to hurt you emotionally like that weather he has the sex life he wants or not.
Second, if he is having affairs and you have still been having sex with him you need to get your self checked out for STDs. He may catch something from one of the other women he is seeing and pass it off to you.
Third, you need to see a psychiatrist ASAP. Your self esteem must be extremely low to be putting up with that!
A good sex manual will help. It's not all about wham bam. A sexual encounter should have foreplay from both participants. Whether it is cunnilingus, or merely gently stroking, a couple's first priority should be satisfying your mate. Sex toys should not be out of the equation. Playing and stroking should be part of the mix, before intercourse even starts.
This doesn't belong under this heading, but here are my two cents.
1. There are exercises for that.
2. If a man tells you that he is cheating because you are too loose, he is not worth your time.
3. Explain to him that if he were bigger, it would be tighter, and that you don't get any complaints from the mailman.
first of all---- you put this in the government section? i guess that's ok....
anyway, i agree about letting him hit it in the butt. try inviting a couple of your best-looking female friends into the room. also, let him watch porn while you perform the oralistic sex.
this should go without saying, but shave and wash, where appropriate.
Men will turn anything into our problem so that they can justify the things they do. It is not your fault! It can't possbily be that bad! He's a jerk and you need to move on....if he's going to treat you that way, why would you want to be with him! Go find someone who cherishes you!!
Wow, external affairs? I would drop the poor sap!
As far as tightening...Kegel exercises will tighten your vagina. Best part you can do them anywhere, anytime. Noo ne will even know your are doing them.
Search WebMd get great info there
A loose vagina can be easily remedied by doing a douche using alum. However, if he's going so far as to openly having affairs, I think you have a deeper problem than just a sloppy p-u-s-s-y.
If he's having affairs, regardless of his excuses, I would dump him.
or ... tell him, the the guys you're having affairs with, like it
Google ';kegels'; and start doing those exercises.
Let him hit it in the butt.
How old are you?
Wake up, hon. Your husband is just using that as an excuse to justify his infidelity. He's trying to make it YOUR fault, when it is 100% his. If it it wasn't ';looseness'; down there, it'd be something else.
You need to set him straight right now (assuming you want to save the marriage). He needs to either clean up HIS act, or leave his sorry butt.What to do for my problem regarding my sexual life with my husband?
I am 60+ years old and thought I had heard most everything a man could come up with regarding his ';needs.'; This takes the cake.
Pack his bags, clear out his possessions, and advise him to go and live with his piece. You don't want to have to worry about catching anything from his ';affairs.';
Talk to an attorney to make sure all your details are taken care of properly.
Don't try to change yourself to appease someone else. I delivered seven babies which you would think would stretch the equipment but, I had no such complaints from my husband. And I am not one to jump on the trends such as exercises for my parts. If there is a problem in that area, he helped to cause it, now he can deal with it.
Thank heaven mine is dead and I don't have to deal with that kind of attitude.
First you need to get rid of him. Being ''loose'; down there is no excuse for that kind of behavior! If he truly loves you he will not want to hurt you emotionally like that weather he has the sex life he wants or not.
Second, if he is having affairs and you have still been having sex with him you need to get your self checked out for STDs. He may catch something from one of the other women he is seeing and pass it off to you.
Third, you need to see a psychiatrist ASAP. Your self esteem must be extremely low to be putting up with that!
A good sex manual will help. It's not all about wham bam. A sexual encounter should have foreplay from both participants. Whether it is cunnilingus, or merely gently stroking, a couple's first priority should be satisfying your mate. Sex toys should not be out of the equation. Playing and stroking should be part of the mix, before intercourse even starts.
This doesn't belong under this heading, but here are my two cents.
1. There are exercises for that.
2. If a man tells you that he is cheating because you are too loose, he is not worth your time.
3. Explain to him that if he were bigger, it would be tighter, and that you don't get any complaints from the mailman.
first of all---- you put this in the government section? i guess that's ok....
anyway, i agree about letting him hit it in the butt. try inviting a couple of your best-looking female friends into the room. also, let him watch porn while you perform the oralistic sex.
this should go without saying, but shave and wash, where appropriate.
Men will turn anything into our problem so that they can justify the things they do. It is not your fault! It can't possbily be that bad! He's a jerk and you need to move on....if he's going to treat you that way, why would you want to be with him! Go find someone who cherishes you!!
Wow, external affairs? I would drop the poor sap!
As far as tightening...Kegel exercises will tighten your vagina. Best part you can do them anywhere, anytime. Noo ne will even know your are doing them.
Search WebMd get great info there
A loose vagina can be easily remedied by doing a douche using alum. However, if he's going so far as to openly having affairs, I think you have a deeper problem than just a sloppy p-u-s-s-y.
If he's having affairs, regardless of his excuses, I would dump him.
or ... tell him, the the guys you're having affairs with, like it
Google ';kegels'; and start doing those exercises.
Let him hit it in the butt.
How old are you?
What to buy for my husband for our anniversary? Any nice suggestions?
We have our 19th anniversary this weekend, and I am looking to get nice ideas for him. Can be something spicy as well... I don't want to but clothes or work tools, and he dose not have any specific hobbies as well.
I have no idea what to buy and was hoping for ideas . If there are ideas to make as well, in addition to buy please let me know.
Also any ideas of how to celebrate it...
Thank you.What to buy for my husband for our anniversary? Any nice suggestions?
How about schedule a nice massage together??
I have no idea what to buy and was hoping for ideas . If there are ideas to make as well, in addition to buy please let me know.
Also any ideas of how to celebrate it...
Thank you.What to buy for my husband for our anniversary? Any nice suggestions?
How about schedule a nice massage together??
How do i talk my husband into getting me a miniature chihuahua?
i really really want a puppy and i got my eye on one.
It is a miniature chihuahua.
how do i get my husband to get me one?How do i talk my husband into getting me a miniature chihuahua?
Don't.
You shouldn't have to beg your hubby for a dog. Maybe you can have one with your next husband.How do i talk my husband into getting me a miniature chihuahua?
1. Men don't like those unnaturally tiny dogs, so don't even try to convince him.
2. Buy your own dog. Why is he expected to shell out for everything?
I used to just go get one and bring it home....lol My husband loves our chihuahuas as much as I do. They are the best dogs. If you do get one, watch out, the hubby may take it over.....lol Good luck I hope you get one.
Do some research on the positive aspects of Chihuahuas and leave it for him to read. Look at things like how little excercise they need, what good companions they are, and even how low maintenance they are. Know everything there is to know about chihuahuas to let your hubby know you are serious about this! Have a plan on how to potty train and even talk about puppy classes. There are great ebooks on the web all about chihuahua care check out the website
http://www.chihuahuafanatics.com/
for a great book! Also, check out this great website for more information
http://www.lovemypet.com.au/advice/dogbr鈥?/a>
Whitney Dickson
Sorry to say there is no such thing as a teacup or miniature chihuahua.Chihuahuas can be from 1 pound to 7 pounds anything larger is a throw back and not within the acceptable qualifications of a chihuahua.
I hope you know the health problems of the really small pups.
If it is a ';runt( miniature) at 8 weeks it shouldn't even weigh more that 8 ounces.
I have seen what people try to call miniature or toys that mature to be about 6-15 pounds.
The small ones especially have water on the brain and have a lot of trouble with sugar drops that cause seizures and often brain damage. Due to this they don't usually live very long.
Just go get it!
My hubby has bought home 3 dogs,different times, for me, and i never said I wanted any.
He keeps saying he's gonna get me another one now.
Hey, maybe I should have him get 1 for U instead..LOL
Just tell him you saw it and how much you love it and want it. That should work...... :)
come on, you know they way!! lol... telling him he wont have to spend a lot of money in food!! also tell him that they are small and theres no need of too much space and wont have to deal with big poop, and that if you need to go somewhere it will fit everywhere, or tell him is a proof of his love, I dont know, if you got the money it will get to have the pup I really dont see the problem.
Get two dogs. Get a Golden Retriever or Labrador Retriver for him and a teacup chihuahua for you.
If you raise them together, the chi will rule the roost, but your husband will have a large, friendly dog to romp with.
Make sure that you socialize both of them with other people and other dogs. Teach them bite inhibition, and train both of them - separately - obedience and to walk nicely on a leash.
well try telling him that there fun and he would love them or just tell him about dog and how cute they are
They have miniature chihuahuas?! Man how small are they?
Well just let him know the advantages of having a dog.
Tell him he won't be the one cleaning up the poop and pee, You will.
Let him know you're a grown women and not a little kid and know how to be responsible.
start acting like one and maybe he will miss the human side of you and get you the dog..
I WOULD JUST GO AHEAD AND BUY IT.
We had the oposit. problem. My husband had to talk me into getting one. Now we have 4.
Why not take your hubby to see the one you like? That's what my husband did. We left with her.. and her brother. *LOL*
It is a miniature chihuahua.
how do i get my husband to get me one?How do i talk my husband into getting me a miniature chihuahua?
Don't.
You shouldn't have to beg your hubby for a dog. Maybe you can have one with your next husband.How do i talk my husband into getting me a miniature chihuahua?
1. Men don't like those unnaturally tiny dogs, so don't even try to convince him.
2. Buy your own dog. Why is he expected to shell out for everything?
I used to just go get one and bring it home....lol My husband loves our chihuahuas as much as I do. They are the best dogs. If you do get one, watch out, the hubby may take it over.....lol Good luck I hope you get one.
Do some research on the positive aspects of Chihuahuas and leave it for him to read. Look at things like how little excercise they need, what good companions they are, and even how low maintenance they are. Know everything there is to know about chihuahuas to let your hubby know you are serious about this! Have a plan on how to potty train and even talk about puppy classes. There are great ebooks on the web all about chihuahua care check out the website
http://www.chihuahuafanatics.com/
for a great book! Also, check out this great website for more information
http://www.lovemypet.com.au/advice/dogbr鈥?/a>
Whitney Dickson
Sorry to say there is no such thing as a teacup or miniature chihuahua.Chihuahuas can be from 1 pound to 7 pounds anything larger is a throw back and not within the acceptable qualifications of a chihuahua.
I hope you know the health problems of the really small pups.
If it is a ';runt( miniature) at 8 weeks it shouldn't even weigh more that 8 ounces.
I have seen what people try to call miniature or toys that mature to be about 6-15 pounds.
The small ones especially have water on the brain and have a lot of trouble with sugar drops that cause seizures and often brain damage. Due to this they don't usually live very long.
Just go get it!
My hubby has bought home 3 dogs,different times, for me, and i never said I wanted any.
He keeps saying he's gonna get me another one now.
Hey, maybe I should have him get 1 for U instead..LOL
Just tell him you saw it and how much you love it and want it. That should work...... :)
come on, you know they way!! lol... telling him he wont have to spend a lot of money in food!! also tell him that they are small and theres no need of too much space and wont have to deal with big poop, and that if you need to go somewhere it will fit everywhere, or tell him is a proof of his love, I dont know, if you got the money it will get to have the pup I really dont see the problem.
Get two dogs. Get a Golden Retriever or Labrador Retriver for him and a teacup chihuahua for you.
If you raise them together, the chi will rule the roost, but your husband will have a large, friendly dog to romp with.
Make sure that you socialize both of them with other people and other dogs. Teach them bite inhibition, and train both of them - separately - obedience and to walk nicely on a leash.
well try telling him that there fun and he would love them or just tell him about dog and how cute they are
They have miniature chihuahuas?! Man how small are they?
Well just let him know the advantages of having a dog.
Tell him he won't be the one cleaning up the poop and pee, You will.
Let him know you're a grown women and not a little kid and know how to be responsible.
start acting like one and maybe he will miss the human side of you and get you the dog..
I WOULD JUST GO AHEAD AND BUY IT.
We had the oposit. problem. My husband had to talk me into getting one. Now we have 4.
Why not take your hubby to see the one you like? That's what my husband did. We left with her.. and her brother. *LOL*
When is a good time to explain to my daughter that my husband is not her biological father?
My daughter is 6 years old. My husband has been in her life since she was 2 months old and her real father has had no relationship with her at all. When my husband and I got married her biological father signed over his rights so my husband could adopt her. She has always had a relationship with her paternal grandparents but just recently she has wondered why she has three sets of grandparents. I just told her because she was a special girl and left it at that. I was never up front with her about her real dad because I thought she was too young and I couldn't and still can't imagine having to tell a child their own parent wanted nothing to do with them. It hurts me that I have to tell her but I know I will have to do it but I'm just not sure if I should now at this age or if I should wait. Also what would be the best way for me to tell her? Any suggestions would be great.When is a good time to explain to my daughter that my husband is not her biological father?
Speaking from experience, I would tell her now if you feel she is able to understand. Don't let her find out the same way I did. I went snooping through my mother's metal box where she kept important papers and found mine and my brother's adoption papers. Needless to say, I was NOT impressed.
I don't think telling an adoptee from the get go is warranted, as they need to reach an age where they will understand. But don't underestimate your child. They know more and have a better grasp on reality than we parents tend to give them credit for.
In the end, only you know your child. You and your husband will do what you feel in your heart is the right thing to do for her. But I do suggest you don't wait til she is old enough to go snooping ;) I wasn't much older than she is.When is a good time to explain to my daughter that my husband is not her biological father?
Hi Angela! Well, i think if yur daughter has been raised in a very loving environment, she will not even realize the difference between the bilogical father and the father that she has known throughout the years. At the age of six, she might not yet understand the term ';biological';, coz the only way for her to understand the real meaning of the word would have to mean that she has to understand how a child is made. I think what you can do best at the moment is to prepare her that you will be explaining something great to her in the near future, and that information you are about to reveal will let her realize what a FATHER is---bilogical or not, as long as the essence of what a father is to you and your daughter's life is being exposed to her. When that time comes, she's gonna be having a very wide understanding of what kind of a father a child needs... Good luck Angela, and i know that there is no one to explain it to her better than you. all you just need is to let the father that she knows be always connected and bonded to her. i'm a single parent, and i have 2 kids. separated from their father, and at the age of my eldest which is 4, she doesn't feel the disaster in the family that took place because i hae always covered that disaster with a mother's love. I'll pray for you. All the best!
it is always tuff to try to tell a youngster that there biological parent gave up their rights, but I did not know my father until I decided to meet him at the age of 18. But my mom never kept it from me. It is ok to have extra mommies and daddies. and grammys and poppys. I would tell her the next time she asks. Just tell her thather daddy is her daddy. And you are her mommy and you love her tonz. Maybe when she is like ten or eleven years old then she could more understand the whole biological father thing. good luck, but it is tough to try to help make the parent decision side. But I know as a child who had a step father, that I am glad he was there for my whole life, and never treated me differently. He was my dad. still is. and that is all that matters.
I have a daughter that is five, and I know if I explained it to her in a way she could understand, she would get it. I don't think she is too young. We have a friend who's daughter is adopted and my daughter knows she has a birth Mom and a adopted Mom.
Do not tell your daughter her birth father wanted nothing to do with her. That will scar her forever. How about if you tell her that all Mommy's have a seed in their bellies(this is how we have explained the ';where do babies come from'; question to our daughter) and in order for them to grow, they need a Daddy. Some Daddys are not able to take care of the baby the way they need to be, so other Daddys take over for them. Tell her she has one Dad who gave her life and one Dad who will take care of her for him. When she gets older she might ask some of the harder questions, but as long as you reassure her that this Daddy is not going to leave her and will always be there for her, she will get it. I hope this helps, and good luck. You are very lucky to have such a great husband who takes care of your daughter like she is his own, some men do not do that.
Tell her now; but tell her very slowly watching her react. Getting the truth to her may even take years. But to a six year old, getting to understand and relate will be much easier than if you tell her when she is mature and what you say then may constitute a shock. Be very careful.
I was 8 when I found out and was devestated. And then as a child have to realize that the one who made you doesnt want anything to do with you its not very nice. A father is the one who loves her and is there for her. There is no reason while she is young to tell her. For her to be wondering about why she has 3 sets of grandparents and she is only 6 I have a feeling someone is already trying to break it to her . Kids now days have all kinds of grandparents . Grandma and grandpa remarry parents remarry very close friends who have no children like to be called grandparents to sometimes. My grandson has me , my mom and her mom and on his moms side the same thing and then since him and his brother are only half brothers his brother has another set of grandparents and the half brother calls me grandma too. I would tell her because you have a big family . When she gets to her teen years then you can tell her because by then she will understand alittle more about life and how its not out of this world for people to remarry. Anyway the only real father she has is the one she has right now that has been taking care of her. Trust me wait until she is older because I remember when I was 8 I ended up making my mom feel guilty and try to find the no good worthless piece of what ever. We never did find him until after he died and his other kids called to let me know . He actually moved to Canada so my mom couldnt get child support out of him. If you tell your daughter she will be curious and want to see him and if he regects her that will be bad. Trust me wait. The minute after I found out I completly changed too. I became not so sweet and loving and became more hard and cold . DONT DO IT%26gt;
';Pichi's'; answer hit it right on the mark, with the added provisio that you NOT tell her that her bio father ';didn't want her.'; If she has a birth certificate, it's possible she'll want to try to contact him someday, maybe not. That relationship has to be between them without your influence. Stress the positive, and minimize/ignore the negative. She (and you) are so fortunate to have a real man in your lives who loves you both.
She is only six, you did what I may have. Only answer what she asks, and if its too hard, you don't have to lie, go around it, ask her why she was wondering. I had a son whom I gave up to my sister, I was young. We waited, he may have been in first grade, I don't remember, but he knew he was addoped. I guess it depends on the child, how mature your think they are, but only give them answers they want, but honest ones.Good Luck
In my opinion, this should have been done years ago. You should never make it a negative thing though (daddy didnt want you). My parents did that to me at 4..told me I was adopted because my bio parents did not want me. I was devastated.
My husband was raised by his step dad and he said as soon as they told him that his step dad was not his real daddy he started calling him by his name. They told him when he was 6/7 years old.
Maybe you should tell her when she is like 10 maybe or not at all.
i have a six year old little girl i am going through the exact same thing with. her biological donor is not in her life and hasn't been since the age of 4 months. she has asked why her last name isn't the same as mine and my other 2 children and then she came up with the idea that it was because her daddy and i weren't married yet. i never told her my husband was her biological father, she just kind of thought of it herself and we never disagreed. before he adopts her we are going to tell her the truth. and that truth isn't that her biological donor doesn't want her. the truth is that any man can make a baby and have a child but my husband loves her SO much that he CHOSE her to be his daughter and that makes her most special.
In my opinion, she should have grown up from day 1 knowing....
I highly recommend that you tell her at the earliest possible time. Kids tend to resent it, and sometimes get very messed up, when they learn later, esp. into adolescence.
Since she has three sets of grandparents, and knows it is different, than I would use that to tell her. Sometime, casually, when you are talking about her grandparents, or on your way to visit them. Just tell her, you know I said you were special to have three sets of grandparents ... well mommy had another partner before your daddy, and he is the one who put you in my tummy (something like that .. your own words and phrases of course), but he couldn't help take care of you and we met daddy who loves us very much.
No more need be said at that time, except to answer any questions she has. From that point, let her bring it up and answer her questions.
Blessings to you!
I do understand... my situation with my first child as well.
Tell her now the sooner the better. She wont be hurt if her life is filled with love. You dont miss what you never had.She may be hurt later and ask questions but any one will do that.
im am in kind the same thing but mine daughter isnt here yet my husband and i have talked about it and we are going to wait until she is 13 and can understand why her real dad didnt stand up and be a man he just shot himself in the head this past x-mas she will understand if you explin to her that your husband loves her very much and wants to be her dad thats why he is there just make sure YOU do it before someone else does or she will hold it aganst you and think you were ling to her her whloe life after you taught herit is wrong to lie just wait until she is old enught to completely understand!
It's better if she grows up knowing the truth than to find it out when she is old enough to start asking the right questions. Perhaps you could start by telling her that she is adopted. I grew up knowing that I was adopted before I really knew what it meant. I accepted it to be normal. You should certainly tell her the truth but not in such a way that it seems anything other than normal. You need to decide on names for everyone. Biological father, my husband, paternal grandparents and so on are not terms that a 6 year old could grasp. Daddy and Uncle Bill, perhaps, are. You could tell your daughter that you did not meet Daddy until after she was born, but you have known Uncle Bill for a long time. When she asks questions, you will need to answer them honestly and in such a way that she can understand and in such a way that she neither feels she has been deceived nor that she feels it is unnatural..
Speaking from experience, I would tell her now if you feel she is able to understand. Don't let her find out the same way I did. I went snooping through my mother's metal box where she kept important papers and found mine and my brother's adoption papers. Needless to say, I was NOT impressed.
I don't think telling an adoptee from the get go is warranted, as they need to reach an age where they will understand. But don't underestimate your child. They know more and have a better grasp on reality than we parents tend to give them credit for.
In the end, only you know your child. You and your husband will do what you feel in your heart is the right thing to do for her. But I do suggest you don't wait til she is old enough to go snooping ;) I wasn't much older than she is.When is a good time to explain to my daughter that my husband is not her biological father?
Hi Angela! Well, i think if yur daughter has been raised in a very loving environment, she will not even realize the difference between the bilogical father and the father that she has known throughout the years. At the age of six, she might not yet understand the term ';biological';, coz the only way for her to understand the real meaning of the word would have to mean that she has to understand how a child is made. I think what you can do best at the moment is to prepare her that you will be explaining something great to her in the near future, and that information you are about to reveal will let her realize what a FATHER is---bilogical or not, as long as the essence of what a father is to you and your daughter's life is being exposed to her. When that time comes, she's gonna be having a very wide understanding of what kind of a father a child needs... Good luck Angela, and i know that there is no one to explain it to her better than you. all you just need is to let the father that she knows be always connected and bonded to her. i'm a single parent, and i have 2 kids. separated from their father, and at the age of my eldest which is 4, she doesn't feel the disaster in the family that took place because i hae always covered that disaster with a mother's love. I'll pray for you. All the best!
it is always tuff to try to tell a youngster that there biological parent gave up their rights, but I did not know my father until I decided to meet him at the age of 18. But my mom never kept it from me. It is ok to have extra mommies and daddies. and grammys and poppys. I would tell her the next time she asks. Just tell her thather daddy is her daddy. And you are her mommy and you love her tonz. Maybe when she is like ten or eleven years old then she could more understand the whole biological father thing. good luck, but it is tough to try to help make the parent decision side. But I know as a child who had a step father, that I am glad he was there for my whole life, and never treated me differently. He was my dad. still is. and that is all that matters.
I have a daughter that is five, and I know if I explained it to her in a way she could understand, she would get it. I don't think she is too young. We have a friend who's daughter is adopted and my daughter knows she has a birth Mom and a adopted Mom.
Do not tell your daughter her birth father wanted nothing to do with her. That will scar her forever. How about if you tell her that all Mommy's have a seed in their bellies(this is how we have explained the ';where do babies come from'; question to our daughter) and in order for them to grow, they need a Daddy. Some Daddys are not able to take care of the baby the way they need to be, so other Daddys take over for them. Tell her she has one Dad who gave her life and one Dad who will take care of her for him. When she gets older she might ask some of the harder questions, but as long as you reassure her that this Daddy is not going to leave her and will always be there for her, she will get it. I hope this helps, and good luck. You are very lucky to have such a great husband who takes care of your daughter like she is his own, some men do not do that.
Tell her now; but tell her very slowly watching her react. Getting the truth to her may even take years. But to a six year old, getting to understand and relate will be much easier than if you tell her when she is mature and what you say then may constitute a shock. Be very careful.
I was 8 when I found out and was devestated. And then as a child have to realize that the one who made you doesnt want anything to do with you its not very nice. A father is the one who loves her and is there for her. There is no reason while she is young to tell her. For her to be wondering about why she has 3 sets of grandparents and she is only 6 I have a feeling someone is already trying to break it to her . Kids now days have all kinds of grandparents . Grandma and grandpa remarry parents remarry very close friends who have no children like to be called grandparents to sometimes. My grandson has me , my mom and her mom and on his moms side the same thing and then since him and his brother are only half brothers his brother has another set of grandparents and the half brother calls me grandma too. I would tell her because you have a big family . When she gets to her teen years then you can tell her because by then she will understand alittle more about life and how its not out of this world for people to remarry. Anyway the only real father she has is the one she has right now that has been taking care of her. Trust me wait until she is older because I remember when I was 8 I ended up making my mom feel guilty and try to find the no good worthless piece of what ever. We never did find him until after he died and his other kids called to let me know . He actually moved to Canada so my mom couldnt get child support out of him. If you tell your daughter she will be curious and want to see him and if he regects her that will be bad. Trust me wait. The minute after I found out I completly changed too. I became not so sweet and loving and became more hard and cold . DONT DO IT%26gt;
';Pichi's'; answer hit it right on the mark, with the added provisio that you NOT tell her that her bio father ';didn't want her.'; If she has a birth certificate, it's possible she'll want to try to contact him someday, maybe not. That relationship has to be between them without your influence. Stress the positive, and minimize/ignore the negative. She (and you) are so fortunate to have a real man in your lives who loves you both.
She is only six, you did what I may have. Only answer what she asks, and if its too hard, you don't have to lie, go around it, ask her why she was wondering. I had a son whom I gave up to my sister, I was young. We waited, he may have been in first grade, I don't remember, but he knew he was addoped. I guess it depends on the child, how mature your think they are, but only give them answers they want, but honest ones.Good Luck
In my opinion, this should have been done years ago. You should never make it a negative thing though (daddy didnt want you). My parents did that to me at 4..told me I was adopted because my bio parents did not want me. I was devastated.
My husband was raised by his step dad and he said as soon as they told him that his step dad was not his real daddy he started calling him by his name. They told him when he was 6/7 years old.
Maybe you should tell her when she is like 10 maybe or not at all.
i have a six year old little girl i am going through the exact same thing with. her biological donor is not in her life and hasn't been since the age of 4 months. she has asked why her last name isn't the same as mine and my other 2 children and then she came up with the idea that it was because her daddy and i weren't married yet. i never told her my husband was her biological father, she just kind of thought of it herself and we never disagreed. before he adopts her we are going to tell her the truth. and that truth isn't that her biological donor doesn't want her. the truth is that any man can make a baby and have a child but my husband loves her SO much that he CHOSE her to be his daughter and that makes her most special.
In my opinion, she should have grown up from day 1 knowing....
I highly recommend that you tell her at the earliest possible time. Kids tend to resent it, and sometimes get very messed up, when they learn later, esp. into adolescence.
Since she has three sets of grandparents, and knows it is different, than I would use that to tell her. Sometime, casually, when you are talking about her grandparents, or on your way to visit them. Just tell her, you know I said you were special to have three sets of grandparents ... well mommy had another partner before your daddy, and he is the one who put you in my tummy (something like that .. your own words and phrases of course), but he couldn't help take care of you and we met daddy who loves us very much.
No more need be said at that time, except to answer any questions she has. From that point, let her bring it up and answer her questions.
Blessings to you!
I do understand... my situation with my first child as well.
Tell her now the sooner the better. She wont be hurt if her life is filled with love. You dont miss what you never had.She may be hurt later and ask questions but any one will do that.
im am in kind the same thing but mine daughter isnt here yet my husband and i have talked about it and we are going to wait until she is 13 and can understand why her real dad didnt stand up and be a man he just shot himself in the head this past x-mas she will understand if you explin to her that your husband loves her very much and wants to be her dad thats why he is there just make sure YOU do it before someone else does or she will hold it aganst you and think you were ling to her her whloe life after you taught herit is wrong to lie just wait until she is old enught to completely understand!
It's better if she grows up knowing the truth than to find it out when she is old enough to start asking the right questions. Perhaps you could start by telling her that she is adopted. I grew up knowing that I was adopted before I really knew what it meant. I accepted it to be normal. You should certainly tell her the truth but not in such a way that it seems anything other than normal. You need to decide on names for everyone. Biological father, my husband, paternal grandparents and so on are not terms that a 6 year old could grasp. Daddy and Uncle Bill, perhaps, are. You could tell your daughter that you did not meet Daddy until after she was born, but you have known Uncle Bill for a long time. When she asks questions, you will need to answer them honestly and in such a way that she can understand and in such a way that she neither feels she has been deceived nor that she feels it is unnatural..
How can I encorage my husband today?
He's had a really rough day. He's going to school and working full time, and today is one of those test filled days and as far as his job, paprerwork to the ceiling. I was writing him a note trying to encorage him, and then I realized my Yahoo answers friends could probably come up with some encoraging words or something nice i can do for him. He usually is so upbeat, but today is just one of those days.How can I encorage my husband today?
whats with these people, guys are so much simpler than all this fancy stuff. Just give him the tv remote and a cold beer, let him talk about the day or just veg, whatever works for him, the down time is whats important. Yeah sex later tonight is a great stress reliever if your in the mood. But seriously candle light dinners and stuff for a guy , common people.How can I encorage my husband today?
Just remind him that you appreciate him and how hard he works. Let him know how much you love him and how hard he is working. Offer to give him a night of relaxation and a night of where you take care of him and all he has to do is lay back and enjoy. I agree about not doing the candlelight dinner etc thing. What I do is just text and let him know i appreciate and love him. And then throw in there about the night of relaxation etc. And that includes down time to just veg out and then the pampering in the bedroom either later or another day, depending on if he wants it then or not.
You are good wife,
Just try to come to him and give him some thee or coffie what he like. Then try to ask him did yo u distrub him or not coz some man they like to get space if he has some problem. let him alone for awhile if he wish to. If he is kin dtype of person the one like to be closed always with someone who he loves, just ask her rest for awhile ..give him massage but don talk to much.he will enjoy it. and with little messege tell him that you love him so much and yo appreciate with all what he done for the family...
I hope can help you dear....
Noah
this is what I did to get my overworked man's attention.
Snuck up behind him in his den, wearing 3 post-it notes, strategically placed of course. gave him a well deserved break and let him know that I appreciated everyhing he was doing and let him know he had my support as well as my...well, you know.
Make him his favorite dinner, complete with candles and wine; then give him a nice massage and let him know how much he's appreciated for all that he's doing. A simple gesture goes a long way.
Tell him you can't wait to see him tonight, and that you'll be waiting for him........naked.
Oral sex. Seriously, this isn't a joke answer. Oral sex after a hard day will make him feel a lot better.
Make him dinner, give him a massage, then a nice bj and go to sleep.
Have you tried giving him Adderall?
Hot wild sex, dress up maybe :P
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whats with these people, guys are so much simpler than all this fancy stuff. Just give him the tv remote and a cold beer, let him talk about the day or just veg, whatever works for him, the down time is whats important. Yeah sex later tonight is a great stress reliever if your in the mood. But seriously candle light dinners and stuff for a guy , common people.How can I encorage my husband today?
Just remind him that you appreciate him and how hard he works. Let him know how much you love him and how hard he is working. Offer to give him a night of relaxation and a night of where you take care of him and all he has to do is lay back and enjoy. I agree about not doing the candlelight dinner etc thing. What I do is just text and let him know i appreciate and love him. And then throw in there about the night of relaxation etc. And that includes down time to just veg out and then the pampering in the bedroom either later or another day, depending on if he wants it then or not.
You are good wife,
Just try to come to him and give him some thee or coffie what he like. Then try to ask him did yo u distrub him or not coz some man they like to get space if he has some problem. let him alone for awhile if he wish to. If he is kin dtype of person the one like to be closed always with someone who he loves, just ask her rest for awhile ..give him massage but don talk to much.he will enjoy it. and with little messege tell him that you love him so much and yo appreciate with all what he done for the family...
I hope can help you dear....
Noah
this is what I did to get my overworked man's attention.
Snuck up behind him in his den, wearing 3 post-it notes, strategically placed of course. gave him a well deserved break and let him know that I appreciated everyhing he was doing and let him know he had my support as well as my...well, you know.
Make him his favorite dinner, complete with candles and wine; then give him a nice massage and let him know how much he's appreciated for all that he's doing. A simple gesture goes a long way.
Tell him you can't wait to see him tonight, and that you'll be waiting for him........naked.
Oral sex. Seriously, this isn't a joke answer. Oral sex after a hard day will make him feel a lot better.
Make him dinner, give him a massage, then a nice bj and go to sleep.
Have you tried giving him Adderall?
Hot wild sex, dress up maybe :P
what they said
How can I encorage my husband today?
He's had a really rough day. He's going to school and working full time, and today is one of those test filled days and as far as his job, paprerwork to the ceiling. I was writing him a note trying to encorage him, and then I realized my Yahoo answers friends could probably come up with some encoraging words or something nice i can do for him. He usually is so upbeat, but today is just one of those days.How can I encorage my husband today?
whats with these people, guys are so much simpler than all this fancy stuff. Just give him the tv remote and a cold beer, let him talk about the day or just veg, whatever works for him, the down time is whats important. Yeah sex later tonight is a great stress reliever if your in the mood. But seriously candle light dinners and stuff for a guy , common people.How can I encorage my husband today?
Just remind him that you appreciate him and how hard he works. Let him know how much you love him and how hard he is working. Offer to give him a night of relaxation and a night of where you take care of him and all he has to do is lay back and enjoy. I agree about not doing the candlelight dinner etc thing. What I do is just text and let him know i appreciate and love him. And then throw in there about the night of relaxation etc. And that includes down time to just veg out and then the pampering in the bedroom either later or another day, depending on if he wants it then or not.
You are good wife,
Just try to come to him and give him some thee or coffie what he like. Then try to ask him did yo u distrub him or not coz some man they like to get space if he has some problem. let him alone for awhile if he wish to. If he is kin dtype of person the one like to be closed always with someone who he loves, just ask her rest for awhile ..give him massage but don talk to much.he will enjoy it. and with little messege tell him that you love him so much and yo appreciate with all what he done for the family...
I hope can help you dear....
Noah
this is what I did to get my overworked man's attention.
Snuck up behind him in his den, wearing 3 post-it notes, strategically placed of course. gave him a well deserved break and let him know that I appreciated everyhing he was doing and let him know he had my support as well as my...well, you know.
Make him his favorite dinner, complete with candles and wine; then give him a nice massage and let him know how much he's appreciated for all that he's doing. A simple gesture goes a long way.
Tell him you can't wait to see him tonight, and that you'll be waiting for him........naked.
Oral sex. Seriously, this isn't a joke answer. Oral sex after a hard day will make him feel a lot better.
Make him dinner, give him a massage, then a nice bj and go to sleep.
Have you tried giving him Adderall?
Hot wild sex, dress up maybe :P
what they saidgold eyeshadow wrinkles
whats with these people, guys are so much simpler than all this fancy stuff. Just give him the tv remote and a cold beer, let him talk about the day or just veg, whatever works for him, the down time is whats important. Yeah sex later tonight is a great stress reliever if your in the mood. But seriously candle light dinners and stuff for a guy , common people.How can I encorage my husband today?
Just remind him that you appreciate him and how hard he works. Let him know how much you love him and how hard he is working. Offer to give him a night of relaxation and a night of where you take care of him and all he has to do is lay back and enjoy. I agree about not doing the candlelight dinner etc thing. What I do is just text and let him know i appreciate and love him. And then throw in there about the night of relaxation etc. And that includes down time to just veg out and then the pampering in the bedroom either later or another day, depending on if he wants it then or not.
You are good wife,
Just try to come to him and give him some thee or coffie what he like. Then try to ask him did yo u distrub him or not coz some man they like to get space if he has some problem. let him alone for awhile if he wish to. If he is kin dtype of person the one like to be closed always with someone who he loves, just ask her rest for awhile ..give him massage but don talk to much.he will enjoy it. and with little messege tell him that you love him so much and yo appreciate with all what he done for the family...
I hope can help you dear....
Noah
this is what I did to get my overworked man's attention.
Snuck up behind him in his den, wearing 3 post-it notes, strategically placed of course. gave him a well deserved break and let him know that I appreciated everyhing he was doing and let him know he had my support as well as my...well, you know.
Make him his favorite dinner, complete with candles and wine; then give him a nice massage and let him know how much he's appreciated for all that he's doing. A simple gesture goes a long way.
Tell him you can't wait to see him tonight, and that you'll be waiting for him........naked.
Oral sex. Seriously, this isn't a joke answer. Oral sex after a hard day will make him feel a lot better.
Make him dinner, give him a massage, then a nice bj and go to sleep.
Have you tried giving him Adderall?
Hot wild sex, dress up maybe :P
what they said
Ex smokers only please My husband and I want to quit smoking?
My husband and I are very health cautious except for are nasty habbit, Im pretty sure it will be harder for him to quit then me. I would like to know some ways that helped you kick the habbit, I hate being a smoker and I want to live a long happy life. Its a hard addiction to be rid of.Ex smokers only please My husband and I want to quit smoking?
Read this book:The Easy Way To Stop Smoking by Alan CarrEx smokers only please My husband and I want to quit smoking?
motivate each other, and encourage one another so you can live happier longer! the gum helped me
It has been a year last october since I had my last cigarrette. I smoked for 13 yrs.
Quitting is hard... but I think its the hype of how hard it is that plays a mental game on us. Its worth a few weeks of Hell to quit, you will save alot of money and help your health.
How I did it?? Well, I know you don't want to hear this but the only way to do it is cold turkey. you need to distract yourself from the cravings. STRONG minty gum, will help you get the ';breathy'; feeling. I also reccomend hot tea and coffee to distract you... I had to go outside and sit with my coffee for 5 min brakes to soothe my mind.
I have tried other methods.. its just prolonging the inevitable... remember this, it takes only a few days to get away from the physical addiction, the mental addiction is what would cause you to smoke again. That helped me not give in to my weak brain too.
Smoking is one of the most difficult addictions to overcome. You can expect some severe stress, headaches, irritability, dizziness, edginess, and hunger. Some people experience diarrhea, abdominal cramps, and trouble sleeping.
Having said all that, you CAN kick it. A lot depends on how long you've been smoking and how strong your resolve is to quit. I smoked for MANY years. I found that the patch coupled with nicotine gum helped me. I know, the directions tell you not to mix the two. I'm telling you what worked for me. The patch took care of most of the normal cravings but a couple times a day in the first week it was either gum or a cigarette.
Also, think of when you smoke most and try to avoid those activities or places. For example, alcohol and cigarettes go well together. I avoided all alcohol and bars for the first two weeks.
There's lots of help on line, from your doctor, and maybe the local lung cancer association.
Good luck. It's tough but you can do it one hour at a time.
Well I personally have never smoked but I am the daughter of a smoker and also the younger sister of a smoker and the best thing out there to help you quit are the new prescription drugs that are on the market to help you quit. They end up making your stomache queasy and nauseuos whenever you try to light up a new cigarette. They are expensive but they helped both my long time smoking mom and my older sis both quit! Good luck
Read the information here and it may give you some help as to how you can quit. I know it's harder than most think but I also know you can do it if you want. Make the decision to quit today.
Chantix...ask your dr for a script! It's awesome!
I can tell you a way to help you quit smoking without using drugs. I have several friends that have successfully quit without having the usual ill effects usually associated with quiting (like gaining weight). See the Peggy Fleming video at http://www.12weeks.info
I don't know exactly why this works but it does. Not only will you have the benefits of quiting but your health will improve so rapidly, you may choose to keep using this great natural product from now on. If I can help more, write back to boatclub@go.com
Hello,
I do not smoke. I have been told that Wellbutrin is great for quitting. This is an Anti-Depressent, but it is used for this purpose to(Quit Smoking). The great thing is you should not gain weight with wellbutrin.
Please contact your Doctor/Nurse for further information. The doctor may have samples in the office free of charge to you.Your doctor is your best source of any health questions you may have.
my wife used the patch system. I think it took six weeks. three different strengths, each one weaker than the other. You may need a prescription and it is not cheap. Your insurance may pay for most of it if you are serious.
You can't do it unless you are really motivated. good luck.
Only experience I have is using Wellbutrin to quit. I smoked for 14 years and tried this medicine and quit the first time I used it. The only side effect I experienced is a dry mouth every once in a while. I didn't experience any cravings. I am still on the medicine until the end of next month. I haven't had any cravings or a smoke since Jan 9th. I wish you both lots of luck.
Read this book:The Easy Way To Stop Smoking by Alan CarrEx smokers only please My husband and I want to quit smoking?
motivate each other, and encourage one another so you can live happier longer! the gum helped me
It has been a year last october since I had my last cigarrette. I smoked for 13 yrs.
Quitting is hard... but I think its the hype of how hard it is that plays a mental game on us. Its worth a few weeks of Hell to quit, you will save alot of money and help your health.
How I did it?? Well, I know you don't want to hear this but the only way to do it is cold turkey. you need to distract yourself from the cravings. STRONG minty gum, will help you get the ';breathy'; feeling. I also reccomend hot tea and coffee to distract you... I had to go outside and sit with my coffee for 5 min brakes to soothe my mind.
I have tried other methods.. its just prolonging the inevitable... remember this, it takes only a few days to get away from the physical addiction, the mental addiction is what would cause you to smoke again. That helped me not give in to my weak brain too.
Smoking is one of the most difficult addictions to overcome. You can expect some severe stress, headaches, irritability, dizziness, edginess, and hunger. Some people experience diarrhea, abdominal cramps, and trouble sleeping.
Having said all that, you CAN kick it. A lot depends on how long you've been smoking and how strong your resolve is to quit. I smoked for MANY years. I found that the patch coupled with nicotine gum helped me. I know, the directions tell you not to mix the two. I'm telling you what worked for me. The patch took care of most of the normal cravings but a couple times a day in the first week it was either gum or a cigarette.
Also, think of when you smoke most and try to avoid those activities or places. For example, alcohol and cigarettes go well together. I avoided all alcohol and bars for the first two weeks.
There's lots of help on line, from your doctor, and maybe the local lung cancer association.
Good luck. It's tough but you can do it one hour at a time.
Well I personally have never smoked but I am the daughter of a smoker and also the younger sister of a smoker and the best thing out there to help you quit are the new prescription drugs that are on the market to help you quit. They end up making your stomache queasy and nauseuos whenever you try to light up a new cigarette. They are expensive but they helped both my long time smoking mom and my older sis both quit! Good luck
Read the information here and it may give you some help as to how you can quit. I know it's harder than most think but I also know you can do it if you want. Make the decision to quit today.
Chantix...ask your dr for a script! It's awesome!
I can tell you a way to help you quit smoking without using drugs. I have several friends that have successfully quit without having the usual ill effects usually associated with quiting (like gaining weight). See the Peggy Fleming video at http://www.12weeks.info
I don't know exactly why this works but it does. Not only will you have the benefits of quiting but your health will improve so rapidly, you may choose to keep using this great natural product from now on. If I can help more, write back to boatclub@go.com
Hello,
I do not smoke. I have been told that Wellbutrin is great for quitting. This is an Anti-Depressent, but it is used for this purpose to(Quit Smoking). The great thing is you should not gain weight with wellbutrin.
Please contact your Doctor/Nurse for further information. The doctor may have samples in the office free of charge to you.Your doctor is your best source of any health questions you may have.
my wife used the patch system. I think it took six weeks. three different strengths, each one weaker than the other. You may need a prescription and it is not cheap. Your insurance may pay for most of it if you are serious.
You can't do it unless you are really motivated. good luck.
Only experience I have is using Wellbutrin to quit. I smoked for 14 years and tried this medicine and quit the first time I used it. The only side effect I experienced is a dry mouth every once in a while. I didn't experience any cravings. I am still on the medicine until the end of next month. I haven't had any cravings or a smoke since Jan 9th. I wish you both lots of luck.
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