Forget subtlety. Tell him outright you don't like it and if it happens again you will tell your husband. He doesn't sound like much of a friend to your husband, and hubby would probably be better off without this jerk for a friend.
Protect your marriage, protect eachother.How can I tell my husband's friend to back off, politely?
Definately tell him you don't appreciate or want his attention and if he doesn't back off you'll tell your husband what is going on!
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The next time it happens you should say ';Let's check with my husband, first- HONEY!!!';
tell your husband in a sudle way about his friend trying thing's with you also tell him to promise not to tell him that you will handle it on your own and if after you tell the friend that he makes you feel uncomfortable and to back off if he does not back off then tell your husband so he can let this moron know
Your hubby's friend is the one causing problems -- not you. Just tell him to stop it or you're gonna tell your husband. What kind of friend is he to your husband if he hits on you?
ask him if he wants you to find him a date with someone
just as politly as possible, the next time he does this, tell him that you don't appreciate it and if he could not do so in the future. trust me if he gets mad and tells your husband, he'll be the one who looks like an ***.
He is no friend to your husband that's for sure. I would try and get him out of both your lives. He might try inducing your husband to cheat on you. Guys are like that. That way it gives him a reason to tell you, ';Well, your husband cheated on you';. He's a snake, even if he is a nice guy. Tell him to, ';Back off, Bozo!!!';.
tell it to him straight, and I would tell the boy friend
hey brother, mind teaching me bingo rather than this?
Geez what a jerk! And he is supposed to be your husbands friend?
Tell him your married, love your husband and not interested and if he continues to bother you you will tell you husband.
What a jerk!
You should tell your Husband immediately. This so-called friend has not an ounce of respect for you nor your Husband. If he did he would not do such a thing. It is normal for him to be attracted to you etc. however as a friend and a gentleman, he should subdue his passions and keep them to himself. Your Husband does not need a friend like this. If it were happening to my Wife. I'd be upset that she had not told me when it first occurred. Don't wait for suspicion to arise before you say something. A loss of trust in any relationship and is tragic, also very hard if not impossible to regain.....
Just tell him if he has something to say to u then make the comments infront of ur husband. Let him know u dont appreciate disrespecting ur husband or u.
Tell your husband, otherwise it will carry on, and you do not want the tables turning and him telling your husband. If he truly was a friend of your husband he wouldn't be saying these things
You should inform your husband about his ';friend';, but don't let him take action, you should do the job by your self.
It's important to be honest with your hubby and it's good for him to know what kind of friends he has. Then let him decide what he's going to do with him.
Your family it's way more important than any friend.
I would hide a mini-recorder in your pocket, and record 2-3 instances of what happens. Each time though, make sure you are assertive with your ';no'; before you walk away. It'll happen again, record it, and when your husband returns, pull it out and tell your hubby you have something interesting for him to hear. You guys don't need crap like him interfereing in your marriage! If he were a real friend to your husband, then he would have an ouce of respect for him in the first place. I mention the tape recorder, because then there is no 'he said, she said' where your husband can feel torn between the two of you. I guarantee the dude would not admit it and call you a liar, or downplay the situation by saying you misunderstood him. It'll be right there in black and white if there's proof. Then it's up to your husband what he wants to do.
First, don't say I will tell my husband if you don't stop, tell him I am going to tell my husband that you are saying inappropriate things to me and I am very uncomfortable by this. Then, tell your husband that when you are not in the room with us or can't hear what he is saying, he is saying things that make me very uncomfortable and you need to check him on this or get a new friend and stop disrespecting both of us.
no need to be polite just be honest.
yeah like well innit he could be a poofter an all that innit an you dun wan aids or summit do ya so jus give the bloke a slap and tell him to get lost! i would an i dun even know nuffin about it like right.
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