Any ideas?How can I get my husband to leave?
You are completely enabling him here. Get yourself to Al-Anon and find out what other people in this situation do. If you are truly fed up you should just send him out to the store one day and when he is gone have all his stuff put outside and have all the locks changed. He is never going to clean up his act or even try as long as you keep paying the bills and providing him with a place to live. You must be paying for the booze too if he hasn't worked since last year.How can I get my husband to leave?
I think you need to get some support and confront your husband. Tell him either get gets help immediately or else, he needs to leave and you will start the divorce proceedings. If he refuses to go, you may need to get the police involved. But, if his name is on mortgage, he legally can't be removed. Definitely, I would start making plans to talk to a lawyer and to family members you can trust to be supportive during this difficult time.
If you rent then I would just move one day. I know you pay the bills but take your name of the lease and leave. If you own your home then call the law and have him removed. Im sure he has to leave the place from time to time for the liquorso when he leaves then change the locks. Its not that hard. Sorry to say that if his name is on the house you cant kick him out until your divorced and then the court will decide who can afford and deserves the home.
you have got to be really mean and stick by it are u ready for that?
call his mom and dad and ask them to talk to him about leaving. pack his stuff and put it outside.
change the locks and bar the windows and don't let him back in.( he has to go for beer sometime) i hope u don't buy it for him u said he don't work. who's name is on the house papers? get a restraning order on him he will have to leave then., if none of that works tell him budwiser is giving away free beer at the plant .. that should keep him busy and gone.
the cops can't make him leave his own house depending on where u live. check the law on that.
restraning/no contact order best way to go.
Wish I could help. Same situation in reverse. Been trying to get my wife out for 2 years and she continues to drink. Already spending a fortune on lawyers. Best I can tell you is that you're not alone.
You might also try alanon for a little support. They can't get him out but you might find someone to talk to and maybe some ideas on how to proceed.
One other thing - if he has ever gotten violent you could get the police involved but realistically that will only help as evidence in your favor when you get in front of judge.
File for divorce, and figure out with the layers how to get him out of the house... or u can tell him u found some1 else and he needs to leave... don't let him sit there and use u! ur strong.. and maybe just maybe it would b easier if u just up and left he obviosly can't pay the bills... or u can give him an ultimatum... get a job or get out! good luck, my Aunt supported my uncle and him drinking for years and he died last year, but he didn't work either she paid everything...
if the house is in ur name then u can get a barring order to remove him from the house or while out dump all his belongings in garden and change the locks, have police ready if he cause trouble. u can do anything if u really want it, if u want him out the house u would really find a way regardless, so stop been on here and kick his alco @ss out the door now.. its nothin to do with u if his parents washed their hands of him, so dont waste any more time been miserable under same roof of this low life who nothin but dead beat for a man..
simply tell him to get out. if he wont leave, call the cops. im sorry for ur situation, but if he is doing you this way then who cares where he goes. tell him that he can either get a job and go to AA or file for a divorce.
If you love him but you just can't handle the crap anymore then i would talk to him about going to AA or some type of treatment. If talking wont work then maybe speak with his family and have an intervention. They do work half the time.
Leave a trail of those little mini bar bottles out of the house. At the end of the trail have his stuff packed up and ready to go. once he starts following the trail lock the door. Problem Solved!! ;-)
get him to go to rehab for alcohol and misuse, especially if he wants to work on your marriage and building his life back together.
Tell him you want him to leave and why.
If he will not then change the locks and have a restraining order put on him if need be.
File for a divorce, or give him a change either to go to rehab or AA. If he doesn't want to loose everything, he will choose wisely Good luck
ii no some-one who has got himself in this possition! i really feel for you as ive seen the state some people get in....throw him out!
File for divorce, and make him leave. It's that simple.
If there's no solution, then there's no problem.
if he won't leave ..file for a divorce and throw him out ..but you probably need to get a lawyer
just file for divorce and tell him to go to rehab.
chance the locks when he goes out
See a lawyer.
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