Are dating women that give custody of their kids to the ex husband a red flag to the relationship?

I was dating a woman going through a divorce. She knew I didn't want kids of my own and not a fan of kids in general She gave custody of both to her soon to be ex-husband in another state. Is that a red flag for her in general and a sign that she probably wouldn't stick with me either? Or is it a sign that she realizes they would be happier with her ex and she can't be there for them the way he can?Are dating women that give custody of their kids to the ex husband a red flag to the relationship?
This sounds like a question you need to ask her. There are millions of reasons why women give up custody of their children, just the same as it is with men. If the ex isn't a loser, but someone that she just couldn't live with anymore...didn't want to go through the hastle of dragging kids into the middle of an already ugly situation...more opportunities for them in the other state... The reasons are endless, so ask your girl.





P.S. If she left one man for you, she'll leave you for another man...Are dating women that give custody of their kids to the ex husband a red flag to the relationship?
That depends on the woman. Some women just don't have that mommy instinct and should probably never have had kids in the first place. And some women realize that the children will be better off with their ex due to job, finances, travel schedule or whatnot...


But as you have written this, it sounds like she gave away custody because you did not want children...that is a huge red flag. That sounds like a mother that is always going to put the guys first in her life...and that is fine for the guys if you can have it on your consciense that the children are being neglected for you. And more than likely that woman is not going to be staying with one person for very long at a time.
Any women who give up on their children for a man is not worth dating. But it is just my opinion.


She should lay all her cards on the table, and say ';Hey, this is the situation, I am a mom first, accept me for whom I am, love me and accept and love my children.'; There are many men can love and accept her and her children at the same time. She's an insecure loser. You have every right to wonder. Run
Well it could be for any of those reasons you mentioned.





I know some people that will leave their kids with just anyone so they can go out and party.





I know a couple of girls that have just let their parents take the kids and have no clue or care how the kids are.





How would you say she is as a person? Maybe ask her, or talk to her about it some.
that's a big red flag... I would never give up my daughter (my husband, her stepdad, loves her to death, btw) if a man I was dating said he didn't want kids... she must not care about them to just hand them over so easily... you'd have to kill me and pry my child from my arms for me to give her up
That is not a red flag, that is a hurricane warning. That tells you something about who she is inside, and that is not looking too pretty right now. It is apparent that she is selfish and only cares for herself. I would say, run, don't walk.
It is a red flag alright. Red flag that she is very very insecure. She will do anything for the happiness of a man including give up her own kids. Very sad. You should stay away from her. You should also tell her not to give up her kids just for you.
I would not, could not ever willing just sign custody over to my ex. I love my son with all my heart and when he is not around I hurt. Even when he is just gone visiting his daddy for the summer. RED FLAG. I would NEVER date a man who was not a fan of kids!
Definite red flag. It's bad when either parent gives up their children willingly, but for a mother to just hand her kids over without a fight, is absolutely horrible.
She gave them up after learning you don't want kids?





That's a sign of desperation. (Getting rid of her kids to keep you.)





Run away. This woman doesn't have any convictions at all.
Personally, I feel if she gave them up because YOU didn't want kids...than she's a puke. If she gave them up because they'd have a better life with her ex, then she's a caring mom.
Depends on her situation. I hope she didn't give up her kids for you though because that would be horrible
I would say that is a TOTAL RED FLAG.





What kind of a mother WILLINGLY gives up their children?





Think about it
Yes. You never EVER..Give up your kids!
almost always - big red flag!!!!