Is it ok for my husband to buy a birthday gift and card for another woman?

This is a woman he used to work with, but hasn't for over a year. They continue to have lunch together every three months and he recently bought her a gift. I got really hurt, but he says that he is allowed to have women friends.Is it ok for my husband to buy a birthday gift and card for another woman?
I think that depends on a lot of things. Seeing as how they are just keeping in touch now and again, it seems totally innocent and appropriate for old friends. There is nothing wrong with having and maintaining relationships with those of the opposite sex when you are married, as long as you are just friends. I had several male friends before I met my husband, in fact most of my friends were men. I still see them every now and then when they come into town, and I always buy them a little something for their birthdays or for Christmas because at one time, we were all very close. I also have an old male coworker who I was friends with, and I see him very rarely but we do call one another to chat so we don't loose touch.





Perhaps your husband is one of the few who values the friends he makes a connection with? The only thing you would need to be concerned about is if he didn't tell you in advance his plans, and if the gift was rather expensive or very personal, which would be a little innapropriate in my opnion.Is it ok for my husband to buy a birthday gift and card for another woman?
I don't see anything wrong with him having a female friend, as long as he's not hiding it from you. If he tells you that he's having lunch with her, why are you worried? So he bought her a gift, don't you buy B-Day gifts for your friends? If he was trying to be sneaky about it then that would be wrong. Sounds like maybe you just don't trust him (has he given you reason not to trust him?), if that's the case, then maybe you should end the relationship and move on.
Would he be ok with you tagging along for lunch? Would he be ok with you joining the friendship? I mean, he does have a point, he should be allowed to maintain friendships with women... especially if he'd be ok with you being around. If he keeps you at a distance with her.. I'd begin to wonder on what level they were friends. Also, what was the gift? Was it something really ';gift-like'; and impersonal or was it a personal gift? Basically, if he's just treating her like a FRIEND, don't stress it. If he's overstepping boundaries, you need to have a good long talk with him and make sure y'all are on the same page.
Yes it is ok, If you say it isn't then it's going to drive a wedge between you. Its like him saying you can't see a certain friend or saying you can't get your friend a present. He is a grown man and you can't tell him who to be friend's with or whether to buy those friends presents. Trust your husband and If he cheats then divorce him. I Have more friends that are girls than those who are guys and I am a straight man in my 20's and I have bought them presents. It's natural to feel jealous, maybe tell him you feel a little jealous and you want him to spend a little quality time with you, maybe a picnic or go for an italian?
No, I do not buy birthday gifts for my friends.


I do not want nor expect birthday gifts from my friends.


I do not want other men to buy gifts for my wife unless it's her brother or father. If her close guy friend bought her a card or something simple or silly that's fine, but not an expensive gift nor a personal gift.


If another woman did that to me, I would refuse the gift.
wow you're about as smart as a box of rocks. First of all your stupid for even letting your husband have lunch with another woman. Second of all, HELLO, they no longer work together and are still having lunch and then he's buying her things. Yeah I think your probably one of the most naive women I've ever met. Get your head together! No it's not okay for your husband to have female friends that you are not also friends with and anyways, it sounds like she's more than just a ';friend';.
I honestly don't see what the problem is. As long as the friendship is just that a friendship then no problem. If he bought her a car then it would be but I'm sure it was a token. I have lots of guy friends that I go hang out with and my husband doesn't mind because he trusts me. He's not keeping her a secret from you.
i guess its ok but i see why you are getting upset. ask yourself would you do the same with one of your guy friends. offer to help him buy the present so you know what hes getting her. and before he goes to work every day say i love you with a huge smile on your face. it'll make a difference and he'll think about what hes doing if hes really cheating.


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its okay. he should be allowed to have friends.


friends give gifts to friends.





I would be hurt if he didn't give you a gift and only to his friends.





need to ask yourself, why are you really hurt?


is it because its a woman? its a gift?
From my view yes it is ok. If they only meet for lunch every three months then it is just friends. I work in auto parts and I am still friends with a male from where I worked last and yes my husband knows we talk on occasion but it is just IMs.
I mean you are upset about the gift what about the lunch dates that he has been going on. I would put a stop to all of it. Lunch and the gifts. You might need to remind him that he is a married man.
Hummm not really a lot of info here but I'll say no, it's not ok. I have several male friends and I only tell them happy birthday, no card, no gift. I think anything further than that would upset my boyfriend.
He is right.





If they have maintained a friendship, there is no reason why he can't buy her a birthday gift. If you don't trust him enough to have female friends then you need to talk to him about it.
No, this is not good and I would be worried. If he is buying her gifts and meeting her he must have deep feelings for her. She too should no better to be spending time with a married man. I would confront her.





Good luck
Women friends yes, this sounds like an affair though. Which is not okay.





Not only that but I feel strongly that friends are great as long as there is no harm done to the relationship. If it bothers you, he should curb it.
Would I like my missus to have a meal with another guy? I don't think that I would give it to much thought. Mind you if he finished up shagging her I might get a bit miffed.
I don't see the harm in it. I'm sure you have a few males friends.


Trust is very important in a relationship.
You do the same way like him. Buy gift and have lunch and have male friends as many as him has and let see what he react and feeling?
It is ok! but make sure the gift he get her is never better than any gift he give you! not even close! as a matter of fact you pick the gift.
There is nothing wrong with him having a female friend or buying her a gift and a card...who does he get into bed with at night? Grow up. Get over your jealous self.
Um...are you allowed to have the same type of relationships with males??? If not, then it's not okay for him to do it.
No he isnt allowed to have women freinds not unless you are freinds with her too and get to go to lunch too,
My wife was very open minded and trusting, I don't think it would have run to the extent of women friends though.
Of course he is allowed to have a female friend, but more likely than not, they are more than friends.
It depends on what the gift was, how expensive and how close of friends they are. So basically what I am saying is it depends
Since I don't know the depth of their friendship, I would say no. Not to be the pssimist but to me it sounds like he's buying his mistress a gift.
i believe no women can take this,doesn't it dig your thought more interior about their relationship?
What a jerk!


Hon, where is your male friend at?!


I think it's time to have lunch w/ an old high school buddy if you ask me ;)
He is an idiot.





No it is NOT okay.
you are his wife and life partner. have faith in him. having a friend is not bad. our thought should be fair.
Get a male friend and see how he likes it.