Uh?!? Is it reasonable? HE** YES IT IS REASONABLE...How were you before you were married? I ma a woman and NO I am not gorgeous every day but I do try to look nice and smell nice all the time...If you dont it sends the signal that you were only trying to catch him and now that he is caught you can let yourself go...DONT BE THAT WOMAN! I am a woman so I feel I can say that men are gross...sorry guys you know most of you are...there is no need for you to fall into that category. Clean yourselves up...smell nice dress nice...these little things can show your man that you still value what he thinks of you...I wear makeup almost every day no matter if I am at home or going out...it takes little effort and you will get the reward...Dont be lazyIs it reasonable for a husband to expect his wife to dress nicely and wear makeup if they never go out?
I think that a woman should not let herself go!! I am not saying that you have to be dressed up, but I think that you should wanna look nice for your guy, and I am sure that he would also really appreciate this. I have several male friends who are married , and their number one complaint is that their wives let themselves go, and also that they stop having sex with them, but that's a whole different issue.
So I would say that it's not un reasonable for your husband to want you to look nice for him. If I were you I would be happy that he's telling me about it rather than looking for a different woman who does keep herself up.
Good luck!
Well it depends on what he means by ';dressing up.'; No, it's not right to expect someone to dress as if they're going out on the town when they are just sitting at home. But you need to realistically assess the way you present yourself at home. Even though it's your home where you relax and can be yourself, it's important to continue ';dating'; your husband.....impressing him, making an effort to look pretty for him. Too many women after a few years of marriage stop trying and go around the house in sweatpants and their hair up 24/7. You really expect your husband to stay attracted to that forever? It's unrealistic. I'm not saying that if he cheated, it would be your fault. Far from it. I'm saying that in order to keep a r'ship romantic, it's important BOTH people continue impressing each other and not taking each other for granted. When I'm at home, I have relax clothes that are cute. I'm still relaxed and comfortable, but I don't look like a slob. You can find alot of cute coordinating outfits in the exercise section of clothing. Their stuff is always coordinated and so comfy. Just a suggestion.
Well, if you were dressed up before you got married then you need to continue that. Just always remember that what it took to get him is what it is gonna take to keep him. If you were not dressed up before the marriage and now he wants you to change, then you can do one of two things. You can either try to accommodate his needs or let him know that you were this way before the marriage. But always remember..........there is always some woman out there that will give your man what he wants if you are not willing.
My wife and I just had a talk about this not too long ago.
The thing is, I remembered before we were married when my wife (then girlfriend) would put on makeup and dress nicely for me just because I was coming over. We didn't have to go anywhere, it was just the fact that she wanted to look nice for me.
Once we were married, she stopped, and I let it go for a while, until I got tired of seeing her looking like she had just woken up...all day.
She came with a similar argument that she doesn't see the point in doing all that if were not going out. Little things like that remind us of the days when we were once special and important enough for you to put on makeup just because we were coming over, where now we're coming home.
It bothers me that so many women believe the only person that should be courting during a marriage is the man...
Can you find a neighbor to watch the kid(s) for a couple of hours? If so, dress up and have a ';date night'; with a nice dinner at home, flowers, romantic music, etc. Show him how good you look and he'll want to take you out more often.
Keep you relationship fresh by paying attention to each other, not just the day-to-day stuff with the kids. Good luck and have fun!
I don't go around all ';dressed up'; all the time at home, BUT, I do try my best to at least look decent every single day. I myself feel so much better just knowing I look decent, %26amp; do my hair %26amp; make up actually for myself, but I know I also do it for ';him'; too. I don't know of anyone who wants to look at someone who looks like an ';unmade bed'; so to speak. So I do my best to look my best for us both. NO, I do not call it getting all dressed up, but I do know that at any given time if he wants to go somewhere, all I have to do is grab my pocketbook %26amp; I feel as tho I'm at least presentable %26amp; feel good about myself in turn. It really does make me feel better about myself when I KNOW I at least look half way decent the majority of the time. Try it, you just may like it yourself, %26amp; see if it doesn't make you feel better about yourself too...Best to you...:)
You both need to get up on your game it sounds like. HE needs to make more time to make you want to dress up, and you need to make him WANT to take you out. I suggest calling him at work one day and saying ';I've got a sitter for tonight and a really hot dress with a smoking pair of heels. Where are we going to take this new sexy outfit?'; Married couples get lazy, and it's sad, but you BOTH need to make a little effort. Spice it up and maybe things'll get better.
I know what you mean. I am a stay at home mom of three. 2 go to school and my youngest is a toddler. I don't wear makeup at home. I cook, clean, take care of the kids and my husband. Plus I babysit a 2 month old every day 9-5. Sometimes I barely get a shower. But on Fridays, that's OUR day. When I get to look hot and go out with my family. Maybe you two should consider a ';date night';. When just the two of you once or twice a month get to go out an rekindle that love that the two of you share. So there is no right or wrong answer here. Just try and make the most out of what you can. Even if you don't go out like you said, spice it up in the bedroom by making yourself up and putting some naughty lingerie on and some mood music in the background. Hope this helps!!!
It is reasonable to want it and to request it. It is unreasonable to demand it or believe that life is unbearable without it.
It seems very impractical to get all dressed up to stay at home. But if he really enjoys it, what is the harm? I say do it but only as often as you feel comfortable.
Are you living in sweats or something ? Does he really expect you to be dressed to the nines ? Sometime its really easy to get more sloppy than we realize when we have kids and all the stuff to do that goes with it. Make the time to get a sitter and dress up and go out. You can either be right or happy.
Yes. No one wants to come home to someone who hasn't showered in three days and is bumming around in sweats. I work from home and I still get ready for the day, even if it's not until right before my husband is coming home.
So what if you're not going out? Don't you want to look attractive for your husband?
ok...what are we talking about here? are you going around the house with your jogging pants on? if yes please have some mercy on the man and get a couple of sexy jeans and blouses.
He's asking something of you. Don't completely ignore him, he's your husband. So many men on here ignore their wives at least yours is telling what he would like from you.
Tell him to dress up also, in a suit and tie. If he refuses...then you would have a reason to also refuse.
He sounds like a cheap retard.
Uhhh hell naw. If I want to sit around in my hair rollers with a BBQ stained wife beater and PJ pants eatin ribs and drinkin beer, I sure as hell will.
It's my HOME, not the prom.
Normally, people make plans to go out first, and then dress up according to the occasion.
Hell, I don't even ';dress to the nines'; when we do go out. Sounds like your husband is more in love with your makeup than he is with you.
people should have enough self respect to look presentable insteqd of like typical american walmart trashy slobs
Hell no. Not unless he is walking around the house in a tie 24/7.
its fine
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