Is it fair that my husband wants to have children and?

My husband and i have been talking about kids for quite sometime now and he says he's ready and i just don't think i am. Is it fair for me to make/ask him to wait if he is ready and i am not?Is it fair that my husband wants to have children and?
yes it is fair for you to ask to wait, better be ready and convinced since life changes completely after having a childIs it fair that my husband wants to have children and?
Yes, it is absolutely fair to ask him to wait. It may only be a few months before you feel ready. If you do this when you dont feel ready it could come back to haunt you later. You wouldnt want any resentments or anything else negitive to happen over having a child. Raising a child is 100 times more difficult than anything you can come up with. I believe even when you feel you are ready, it's the hardest job you'll ever have. I had 2 beautiful children, I was lucky they were healthy and smart and pretty well behaved, but it was still the most difficult thing I've ever done, raising them.
If you jump into having kids when you're not ready just because he's ready, then later you're going to resent him for it. You need to talk to him. Tell him you don't feel it's the right time and tell him why. Tell him what's holding you back and the things you'd like to accomplish first. Just don't be unrealistic (like you want to win the lottery first) and remember that it's never exactly the perfect time to have kids. There's always going to be reasons not to but both of you need to agree when it comes time. Good luck!
dear frnd,





its not only fair but necessary also to discuss with him this matter.. as it is related both of you... and plzz remember one thing dt when you ask him don't become harsh or dont be in complaining mood.. just tell him your attitude towards having childeren and den ask him is it ok for him..





i am sure he will respect your feelings.. so no need to worry.. go ahead








regards,


neha
You're ready when you think you're ready and not when he is.


After all you are the one who are going to carry the child for 9 months and likely take care of it the first 6 months so I think it isn't unfair to say that you are not ready yet to your husband.
Trouble, if it does not troubles your husband because you both are two wheels of the family, if one is in trouble other will also be in trouble. So talk to him in detailed about your plan and if he agrees, no trouble, otherwise, do what is necessary for a lovable bond.
if you dont think you are ready then wait. having a baby isnt something that you should try for unless you are positive that you are ready. he will probably understand, it is your body and i dont think he would be so ready if he was the one that had to have it
Tell him you don't want kids yet. Or if you want to do it the fun way, tell him your redy for kids just secretly stay on the pill... hahah that would be funny as hell
hello!? its ur body! ur the one whos gonna be giving birth, gaining weight, and doing all of the other pregnacy things. you have the final say so he has to except that