Any tips on helping my husband during labor and delivery?

My husband is rather nervous about the labor and delivery. He is also squimish.





He has seen video and read some literature. We are also going to classes in a few weeks, but I think that he feel rather at a loss on exactly what he's supposed to do and how to handle it well.





Any suggestions on his preparing for the labor, his role during labor, or at the actual point of birth to help him?Any tips on helping my husband during labor and delivery?
Honestly, just let him experience it. I had the same feelings when my wife was in labor and i came through it great. After all we have the easy part.Any tips on helping my husband during labor and delivery?
Funny, when I was pregnant with our first, I was the one who was terrified. I quit the birth class because I did not want to see any videos of birth. the big day came, of course you have no choice but to give birth, my husband was awesome...He just about pushed the nurse and doctor aside to delivery the baby himself! If hubby is squirmish, I suggest he stand above your waisline. I am sure he will be fine. Good luck!
just tell him all he has 2 do is b there. when the moment comes he will do great. he has jitters. have him breathe with u and keep calm so u can keep calm.
I am still trying to convince my boyfriend to be in the room...he's so worried about seeing something gross..lol





I guess have him go to some classes with you about the labor and delivery...that could help him. Have him talk to other fathers that have been in the delivery room when the baby was born. Most of the time once it starts happening the adrenaline just kicks in and he forgets all about being squimish and just about becoming a dad. :)
Just have him stay up by your head. He can be there to support you without getting in on the action.
Give him something to actively do while you are in labor. He will need paper, pen and a stop watch and he can time the distance between your contractions. He can be in charge of the ice chips, lollipops, hairbrush (your hair will get tangled), music, books, and whatever else it will take to comfort you. Lots of luck, both of you are in for one of life's most amazing experiences!!!
I agree with the first poster-- it's just nerves, when the time comes he will be so excited that he'll want to see and help with everything (my husband watched my c-section and my son's circumcision)! You need to worry about you. You are the one whose going to need the support on that day and the best thing you can do for yourself is relax.
I've heard loud curse words work.
Have him breath breath breath and then push. If he participates in your process he won't have time to be squeamish. Congrats to you both and good luck SMILE
If he thinks he's too weak to help you during labour, then perhaps you should find a different person to help you in the labour/delivery room, such as your mother.





When it came down to it and I had to have someone in the operating room with me while I had my c-section, I chose my mom to be in there rather than the baby's dad, because I thought she could handle it better, and he couldn't.





Can your mom be present during the delivery, along with your hubby? If not, then the nurses will coach your husband while your husband is supposed to be coaching you.





Cheers and best of luck to you, hun.
Tell tell him to concentrate on JUST you.. talking to you while having a contraction... patting your head down with cool rag.. Like i said on my reply to someone else earlier my husband was my savior during labor with my 3 kids. Everyone else in the room didnt matter it was his and only his voice i listen too.. especiall in those painful moments.
LOL!! When I had my last child the doctor thought I might have to have a ceasarean so we went to see the video. My husband passed out watching the video!! Out cold!!! I did not end up having a ceasarean but had natural childbirth and he did just fine - no problems at all. Tell your husband that the videos are worse than the actuality. His main role is support- he will try not too flinch when you are gripping his hand in a death grip, he should say ';it's ok'; when you are trying really hard, he should rub your back and give you ice chips and he should cut the cord when the baby is born.
have a back up coach, and get some smelling salts.
Usually, the husband isn't the person needing help.





The classes are good. And keep in mind that there will be a doctor and nurses in the delivery room as well. He doesn't have to remember everything perfectly. If finds everyone else is yelling something other than what he's yelling, then just join the crowd and try to say the same thing everyone else is saying. There's not a lot of choices - ';Push, push, push'; or ';Blow, blow, blow';. He'll figure it out.
Husbands are under a lot of pressure during labor, and we women tend to forget this because labor is always all about us! :)


Many men simply aren't cut out to be a labor coach. So if you have any doubts about what he will be able to handle, I would recommend hiring a doula for labor support. Then, all your husband has to do is be there physically and provide emotional support to you, he doesn't have to stress out over trying to remember all the breathing techniques and relaxation exercises, etc.





Doula's cost about $300-$500, but are WELL worth the investment!





As for his squeamishness, he doesn't have to look at the business end of things. ;) If he stays near the head of the bed and focuses on your face, he will do just fine.
I'm sure that in your classes, they have spoken about using a focal point to focus on when you're in pain. You could use the same thing with him. Find something in the room for him to focus on or tell him to just look straight into your eyes :)


He'll be nervous but it's such a wonderful experience that hopefully he'll forget his fears %26amp; be a great partner %26amp; helper to you :)


Good luck!
A woman I met at my ante natal class who is a phsychoanalyst said it's really difficult for men because their instinct is to protect you and to control and fix things, and it is one situation where they can't do anything.


I'm single so my mum is my birthing partner and I think she feel kind of the same because I guess the parental instinct is to protect and fix things as well, and she's pretty powerless in this situation.


I guess the best you can do is to reassure him that all he has to do is be there for you. Maybe it would help him to have some responsibility like making all the phone calls to your family and friends to announce the birth, or maybe he could do some research into massage and stuff like that so that he can help you be more comfortable and make himself feel more useful. You could suggest that he learns to cook a few meals or something (if he can't already!) so that he can look after you when you come out of hospital.


I have a great book called ';Conception, Pregnancy and Birth'; by Dr Miriam Stoppard that has a whole section for fathers-to-be. Maybe worth a look?


Good luck with everything, and I guess just let him know that he can talk to you about any worries, and also that by listening to your worries and just being there he's really helping you too!
better practice his focus and cocentration on things... and let him think fast in that kind situation. the reason of too much nervous its bec. of we dont know what to do in such things..
Tell him to stay at the top end, an just peek when he feels he can, tell him what he is feeling is normal explain he helped put the baby there so he has to help you get it out, just being there an reassuring you is the best he can do, an don't let him watch any more video's!! its not the same. he will be fine
If he's that stressed about it, let him skip it, better for your stress too.
Dont forget to tell him of all the possibilities, too. Emergency c-section, Too late for pain meds (that was me), pooping when pushing *giggles*. Make sure there arnt any weird surprises.
It's normal. Don't worry he will get over it when he's there.
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1) last week of delivery use cloistral oil, you can buy it from SM, or local stores, twice daily, ask your husband or mother in law give you a miner massage on you abdomen,do it smoothly,


2)when you are in labour room, don't use injection, do natural, take 3 to 4 time deep breath, and push it at once, it will gives you less pain and natural birth of your kid, it is good for you both..... any more help mail me


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