What would you say to someone who went back to an abusive husband?

Would you be angry with them or be supportive.What would you say to someone who went back to an abusive husband?
A mixture of both probably. I would be a little frustrated with them. I would let her know I am here if she needs me. I wouldn't be too pushy, because then I may alienate her and she might shut me out completely. If the person still loves her husband, which she probably does if she is going back to him, it won't do much good to bad mouth him to her. Not until she can see it from your point of view. Which she probably will eventually. These things take time.





On the other hand, if you are actually afraid for her life. You may need to step in and call the authorities or anyone else that would be able to get through to her.What would you say to someone who went back to an abusive husband?
Supportive of course. If you're angry with them it will make them more likely to stay with the abusive husband. And keep them from turning to you for help the next time they want out. I would be supportive as many times as they needed it.





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Supportive as in being there for them. Not supportive as in encouraging them to stay with him.
A little bit of both actually. Keep the anger to yourself, though. Be supportive because this lady will soon need it. You don't want to do anything that would damage the relationship you have with her so that she might feel that she has someone and somewhere to go to in the inevitable crisis. Never be the I told you so! Be willing and ready to offer options, especially if there are children involved. If she is willing, I would recommend that you have an emergency plan in place so if there is danger someone will know. I had a friend whose code word was ';popcorn';. There were four of us who talked with her everyday for almost a year after she returned to him. She went back only after she found out she was pregnant for the second time. One of us always touched base with her in the evening unless previous arrangements were made or her mother-in-law was there. She used the word popcorn one evening after he beat her so bad she was almost unrecognizable. When two of showed up and were refused entry, we called the Sheriff's office, he was arrested, charged, spent 90 days in jail. She is still with him today. I pray that he won't kill her but until she leaves for good, our hands are tied. Do what you can do.
It's frustrating as hell to watch someone return to a destructive or even dangerous relationship time and time again. But battered women usually make several ';running starts'; at leaving before they actually leave for good. So the friend or family member who truly wants to help needs to just hang in there and be supportive.
I wouldn't be angry, but I'd be frustrated. But I'd support them 110%, and do everything I could to make them realize there is a much better life and that they have the strength inside them to leave. But you can't force someone to change/leave/do anything- they have to want help, to fully utilize it.
You get what you deserve.





Although I'd offer safe haven when it all goes sour again in 10 minutes.





Because it will go sour. The only thing more annoying is when they go from one abusive relationship to another...then it's time for some serious psychological help.
neither i can't get mad at someone for running their own life. i would point out some issues and state how i felt about it but frankly it's not my business.


and try to talk them out of it but i wouldn't get mad or angry and i can support someone doing something i don't agree with.
Interesting question!





If they have kids, I'd be angry, because it's selfish to drag innocent kids into this crap all in the name of ';love';.





If they don't have kids, I'd be much more supportive - not of their action, but just being there if needed.
Tell them you know how hard it is to get away, abuse never stops it only escalates. tell them who can they go to for support, they are not to be treated like that. But they have to decide when they had enough abuse %26amp; if not, for their familys safety get away.
I would say do not ever get on here or go to a friend or family in the future and boo hoo because you seem to like that situation and you deserve all that comes with it , by the way do you have the hospital on speed dial???????? Dumb as%26amp;
I would say they are making a mistake and need to seriously re-evaluate their situation. If he gets abusive again, don't say ';I told you so';. Be supportive when it gets tough.
i love you. i am here for you. anything you need. i will be an ear and i dont judge you.
They were not supportive, and most failed to realize that it is not their life and not their decision. But, they were right.
i wouldnt be happy no not at all! thats a dangerous situation and i wish the person all the best! wow
That you will be there when they need you....emphasis on the word when. Not much you can do if their mind is made up.
One always supports ones friends, but that ';someone'; should get some counseling.
He will pleasure you insanely - Reverse Psychology
It obviously wasn't that bad.
Just tell them that you are there for them if they need you.
';I am here for you and I love you.';