Thursday, July 29, 2010

What do I do? My husband of 25 years has cheated on me for the third time?

I have been married for 25 years and blessed with 6 lovely children and I am 40 years old. I forgave my husband because of our children and now I can not face this situation any longer. What should I do? I need some advice from people with such personal experiences please.What do I do? My husband of 25 years has cheated on me for the third time?
You two married at 15? Jeez, well that explains the infidelity. You forgave one and two, so I am sure you will three. Since this is for the kids, stay with him until they are 18 and maybe leave.What do I do? My husband of 25 years has cheated on me for the third time?
Your husband has cheated on you for the third time because he knows that he can and you will put up with it. You need to let the other woman know that she can come and get him and she can pack his clothes for him. Your children should not be growing up like they do and it is time to start thinking of yourself one time in your life.
Ask him why is the second woman important than you are. Is the second woman worth it? Ask your husband what is he missing that you can give him. Because you deserve a man who wants to live long time and not have to worry about being messed around on. I never been married, I can feel the pain that it hurts like heck. I want to express the sorrow that this happened. Ask him what is he missing that you need to make up for. If he doesn;t answer, then he is the one guilty. Ask him kindly to pack up his bags, and relocate. Then go to work for yourself and your kids.
Once is bad enough, have you heard the saying once a cheater always a ------ right! you should have ended it then, but three times I think you should start getting the picture now. You got married when you were 15? wow...Just move on, you're still young, never sacrifice anything for the sake of children, you and your happiness count too you know. After all, most kids nowadays are ungrateful. Good luck sweetie..
Third time?





I would have kicked him out after the SECOND time.





One time can be a ';mistake'; and can be worked through.





Two times isn't - two times is a conscious decision and a disregard for the pain that you KNOW it causes to your partner.





Three? No excuse for it. He doesn't respect YOU, he doesn't respect your MARRIAGE, and he doesn't respect your FAMILY.





But then... if the math is right you got married when you were about 16, and there's a lot to be said about ';Growing up BEFORE you get married';.
There are two ways you can go with this. Either continue to live your life as a doormat and keep forgiving. Or you can remember that kids learn from their parents' example and show them you are a strong woman by kicking your cheating dog to the curb. Seriously, do you want your son(s) to grow up to be scum like their father, and your daughter(s) to grow up to be victims like yourself?
Time for you to kick this guy to the curb. Cheaters do make good life partners. At 40, you can move on. Just get a lawyer, file for divorce, and make a decent life for yourself and your children. You should not live with a husband who betrays you and shows no concern for your emotional well being.
Forgive him, this is happening because you do not have God in your life, same as a lot of married couples. They go though adultery,masturbation,abuse,hatred, rage, anger issues,divorce, financial problems, gambling, drinking, drug abuse....on and on.


But if they only said this simple prayer, and follow His rules, stop sinning,worship Him and Him alone(Father/ Jesus/Holy Spirit). only.


all other prayers are sins called idolatry(prayers to Mary/Saints or any statue of any kind).


Then He will make your life and families life Heaven on Earth, He worries about all, He helps with all, He loves us so much it grieves me so much that people go to their graves without knowing His UNFAILING LOVE! GOD IS THE MOST AWESOME THING ANY HUMAN COULD EVER EVEN HOPE TO EXPERIENCE EVER!


I urge all families to all hold hands and ask together. : say this prayer


you will never regret it.


Put aside your unbelief and Say this prayer so God can come into your life, He is right there waiting, hoping You will make this choice %26amp; say it.


He has a plan for your life He can and will help you with everything. He wants you to be the best you can be. He loves you and gave You free will to choose having His unfailing love in your life or not He loved you first and left the door open for you. Its up to you to walk through into His loving arms.


God can help you, If only you ask Him.


If you want to accept Christ as Savior and turn from your sins, you can ask Him to be your Savior and Lord by praying a prayer like this:


';Lord Jesus, I believe You are the Son of God. Thank You for dying on the cross for my sins. Please forgive my sins and give me the gift of eternal life. I ask You in to my life and heart to be my Lord and Savior. I want to serve You always.'; Amen


He helped me and I want you to feel his Love too.


Then pass on this prayer to others so they can get to know Gods unfailing love too!
3rd Time? Enough is enough. This is not something that is a one time deal this is a problem. You have the kids and the power either lay the law down to him and let him know thats it he is fixin to be alone in life with half his stuff and his check going to the kids!
First and foremost, DON'T EVER DO IT FOR THE KIDS IN THAT REGARD!!!!!! I have seen it....and lived it, the only ones hurt are the kids. What would your kids say when/if they are older and know/see what has and is happening? Be strong for yourself and your kids will follow. Good luck....remember.. forgiving and forgetting are 2 separate issues. My heart goes out to you.
i grew up watchin my mom go threw it and it hurt!! i know you should stay with him because of your kids but this time you should do what my mom did and think of your self!! it turned out good for us %26amp;%26amp; its gonna turn out good for you to!
Talk to a lawyer first, but you should for sure leave. Enough is enough. I know it has to be very hard with kids. Good luck to you, but I feel you must leave.
Get up some courage and leave him. He will not change. You are showing your children that this is what a normal relationship looks like. Is that what you want to teach them?
I think divorce is your best choice of action. This guy doesn't deserve you or your children.
What you do is up to you. I wouldn't have taken him back the first time.
give him one more chance.
It will be hard,, especially with 6 children but you need to leave.. Actually you should ask him to leave.. This man has cheated 3 times!!! What a PIG!!!
who and the hell let you get married at 15 years old ?

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