Maybe you should appreciate his good qualities if he has any.
Why focus on the negatives in this?How to make my husband go to work %26amp; look after us properly?
Cut him off... the ';benefits of marriage'; are not for someone who isn't earning them by being a breadwinner. Make it clear that this is a two-way street. If he wants something from you, he has to work and pay the bills. Lock the bedroom door and let him sleep on the couch. Hopefully that will motivate him.
Sounds like you need to get out there and start working for your own benefit. Find a friend, neighbor or family member to look after the kid, and go to work... even if working means two part-time jobs right now. Get your own bank account(s) and save your money. Don't let the husband know how much you are making... bring home a pittance, but the majority goes into the bank account.
When you get enough savings built up, you need to confront the husband and tell him you want a divorce and to pack his bags NOW.
Are you serious? You cant make someone go to work!
You cant change someone else. You can only change yourself. Starting with putting your feelings for him aside. Your children's feeling should always come over yours or anyone elses ( within reason ) until they are old enough to care for themselves. Your children deserve and need to be cared for by both parents.
You are supposed to make decisions as a unit. And he has chosen to make a decision, on his own, to stay home. SO I think its time for you to make a decision on your own. You either except the situation and make the best of it or get out of the situation. Those are your two options.
Unless the two of you as a couple have made the choice for him to stay home, then he as a man, should be caring for his family.
You cant change him!!!!!!!!
Besides there are some perks to him staying home...childcare is expensive! I assume he does the cleaning and cooking too right? I mean anyone ( male or female )who is not working should at least do that much!!
If it has been 3 years the chances of him changing and being a supportive husband sounds pretty slim. I guess you could tell him he has x amount of time to get his crap together and mean it. If he does not live up to the agreement boot him out. Life is to short too and your kids are too important to live unhappy
If nothing has change in 3 years chances are things aren't going to any time soon. The only thing you could do is give him an ultimatum. He needs to realize that its his duty to be a husband and a father and take care of his family. If he doesn't simply move on its hard but its better in the long run.
Unfortunately, you picked the wrong BOY to be the father and husband of your family. He's not a man - he's not responsible, dependable, or even respectful.
Sorry, but you can't FORCE a boy to become a MAN.
You chose wrong.
Instead of trying to change your husband, it would be easier to just change husbands.
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