I just have to say that a relationship is not a bartering system. you cannot give freely and expect a receipt-- ';i do for him... hope he will return the favor';. Romance is different things to different people. i had to learn my husband's idea of romance and let me tell you, it was touching and loving, and simple. Romance is not what they show on TV nor grand standing. it is the loving thoughtful little gestures that tell you he was thinking of you. listen to him, watch him, look for those things that say he has considered you and then praise him lovingly. brag on him to your family and friends. encourage him. learn his language of love. How Can I Get My Husband to Be More Romantic?
I am so glad to hear this. I hope you find greater happiness in this new language of love.
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Romance doesn't have to be dinner and flowers all the time. Romance can be found in the little things. Does he do little things for you? If not, sit him down and request a little more attention. Men get complacent in relationships, so we as women tend to have to remind them of what we need and what we want.
Is he stressed out? Mine has an extra heavy workload lately, so I try not to add to his stress level. Men have different needs than we do.
One more thing, don't keep a scorecard, it will ruin your relationship. Do romantic things for him because you WANT to, not because you think he will return the favor. He may be feeling obligated, and that may be part of the problem.
look, im a romantic guy, poetry, love letters, text messages just to say I love you and im thinking of you, candlelit dinners, surprise holidays. For me its inbuilt and I love it, it gives me such a buzz.
For some men though it just isn't something they are comfortable with and I don't know if you can make them change, we generally don't.
Has he ever been a romantic? Is this someone who has changed from an over doting caring husband to his current status?
We all need romance in our lives, I mean it just makes you feel so good so if things have changed then you need to find out why and deal with those first.
If he has always been indifferent to romance, sweetheart, sit down and pour your heart out. get him to see what it means to you.
1) pick up the book the five love languages.
People usually speak the language they want rather the language they need. So your idea of romantic may not float his boat.
Too tired? Need to explore. Probably too tired to get on the internet.
Schedule time together.
Once you have done this and are able to have a discussion, find out what he likes. Tell him what you like. Be specific. We don't and cant read minds. But he did it before we got married? Yeah, and we all used to wear diapers. What is the point. Things change. Either you find a way to work it out in a smart way. Women sometimes don't understand that their best tool is their brain. Looks and beauty don't bring a mind blowing experience
if he was not that way going into the relationship, you will most likely have little success at this point, especially if you have been together for a long time. a person must be willing to change in order for change to occur.
could seek therapy together or if that is not plausible, write down your fantasies and ideas and eventually show or read that to him aloud and see if he is willing to make a change that way.
Some guys need help with figuring out what romance really is. Give him a clue by saying something like, ';I'd love to go out to dinner just the two of us. My sister told me about this great Italian place called...';
Also be sure to praise him when he does do something romantic. When my guy first gave me flowers, I told him how much it meant to me and how sweet it was. After that, he would buy me flowers from time to time.
Good luck!
Presentation is a big thing. A clean body, skimpy outfits, bubble baths, special cooked meals, certain movies, and attention to his needs may help a little.
He may have a medical problem, high blood pressure, diabetes, certain medications all affect the libido.
Remember giving doesn't always lead to receiving!
Talk talk talk with him . Not to him. Give him examples of your ideas of romance. Additionally, romance is an act of creativity. The more creative an individual is the more they麓ll find ways of acting romance out. Be creative and respectful to the needs of each other
i don't think you can at this point...if he was like this before ..than even less...just try to remember why you love him and see his positive sides ..without the romance...i have the same problem...talk to him..e-mail him about how you fell....good luck
Wear sexy lingerie. Give him a massage after working so hard when he is tired. Maybe he just needs a little extra sleep.
maybe you need time to be with each other, just the two of you...try to have a vacation and enjoy each other's company..if this does not work then something's really wrong with him.
lol,, i asked this last week,,lol
i cant leave it up to him,, so ive been making the effort lately,, gets me some,,lol xxxxxxxxxxx
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I have the same problem...thats not even funny. I am actually suffering from lack of romantis in our relationship pretty bad. If you find an answer, please, let me know
Thanks
no when you find out let no . their a few men are but my dont all my cares about his self
go on a honeymoon
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