Frankly, I do think it's wrong. It's not because I think it's ';cheating';, but I think it's cheating in the sense that it cheats both you and him out of something very important in a relationship - contentment and security respectively. If he watches porn, he is creating an ideal in his mind - an ideal that normal women cannot live up to. Porn is just like any other sort of acting. It's done in the absence of love and in the absence of reality. It is a show, just like in Hollywood. But this fake ideal that he's creating in his head becomes larger and larger than life and that ideal is what he desires. This ideal makes it only natural for him to grow discontented with you and what you can provide and it makes it easier and easier for him to eventually cheat, for real.
It also cheats you out of the security you should be getting from your relationship with him. How should you expect to feel fulfilled in your relationship with him when you know that when he has sex with you he is really imagining someone else, some ideal in his head you can't live up to? We as women tend to be insecure about our bodies and what we can give to our husbands anyway. If I knew my husband or boyfriend were watching porn, it would make me feel very insecure because even though I'm a size 6, I know I don't look like and don't act like the women in those videos.Is it wrong for a husband to watch porn?
Its Entertainment geeze you people are way to insecure what are you 13?
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My husband and I fought about this a few times. I hated feeling that he would look at this stuff and then come to me and be so horny that he couldn't hear what I was telling him. We finally sat down and I explained to him that it felt as if he would rather look at that and then use me then come to me and experience things together. I don't necessarily think it's cheating, it depends on your view, and your trust level. If you think that porn is a gateway towards more unwanted behavior then be very vocal about that and explain your reasoning. I don't necessarily think that it is a slippery slope into more unsavory activities.
No, I don't think it's like cheating, but I do think if it becomes a frequent habit, it can be a blow to a wife's self esteem.....sending the impression that he would either rather watch porn than be with her or that he needs it in order to be aroused.
I compromise with my hubby and we watch it together whenever he wants to, although I have found that as he's gotten older, he's in his late thirties now, his desire to watch it has grown less and less. Can't tell you the last time we pulled out those DVD's, lol.
I advise you search on the web the consequences of pornography, the addiction and mind sickness effects. I have observed that approximately and very close to 50% of relationship/marriage problems are a result of pornography addiction. I know that before people try and get hooked on cocaine they don't do research to find out what the substance is made of and the consequences. Pornography should be treated the same way as cocaine, deceitful, harmful and very destructive. Please read on this subject and you can then draw up your own conclusion. My conclusion is that I could never be with a man that needs to look at another woman to get ';excited';, much less watch a couple having sex, I would interpret that as a gay instinct looking at another man naked. There is no psychological explanation that will ever convince me that a man or a woman that enjoys and gets excited by watching other couples doing sex is not a homosexual. It would turn my stomach inside out to see another woman's private parts.
I dont think its wrong, but many would disagree with me. Atleast, I dont think porn in and of itself is wrong. The problem comes in I think when things arent going well in the relationship. When things were great with me and my husband and we were having sex regularly I didnt care, even encouraged it by sending him porn and watching together and things like that. But now that things arent so great.... It drives me NUTS. But I dont think porn is wrong and I dont think its wrong for him to watch it or even masturbate to it... I DO, however, think its wrong to only be interested in porn and never your spouse.
Not cheating, not wrong, not illegal (assuming the material itself is legal).
On the question of morality things change. Some up tight people would have a real problem with it and some laid back folks will not. My suggestion in your life, know how YOU feel about it and hook up with a man that agrees with you.
Don't let strangers decide what is right, you are a big girl and already know that!
uhhh I watch porn. I dont think he knows, but he wouldnt care. He watches porn. He told me that he wouldnt if I didnt want him too..but thats just dumb so I dont care if he does. Hes just looking. Its natural for a man to be curious and want to see boobs and stuff. They are gonna do it eventually whether you want them to or not so its better to just come to terms with it instead of letting it get to you.
But thats just my own opinion.
In our relationship, yes, it is wrong.
We have watched it once together and that was fun, but I think that doing it alone is unnecessary.
Neither spouse should go out of their way to look for satisfaction from other men or women, whether they're in movies or not!
you dont want my opion on this subject trust me! but really this is something that should be left up to you to decide. everyone is different, so go with ur own beliefes here. some love it n watch it together and dont mind if the other watches alone and they do it as well. some just want to know about it and when it takes place, mayb so they know not to interupt. some only want it done when there together. some dont want it done at all. some go as far as to thinking or feeling like its cheating. it depends on what that individual has been thro, to determine the standerds of porn watching. me personally, i dont like it at all, unless we watch it together so we have like, ';an instruction'; video as to what we want, or want to try and the ';proper'; way to do it. lol. but ive been thro a lot when its come to porn. imyself have had to deal with an addict, and that makes u see things differently and think differently. but use ur own judgement here and go with what u know think and feel.
I'm my opinion it is not wrong for either of us to enjoy porn occasionally. To me it is nothing like cheating. Cheating involves 2 (or more) participants and you can't cheat on anyone w/ and inanimate object. Porn is a sex toy, a very graphic sex toy, but a sex toy none the less.
It's a matter of opinion. I don't think it's wrong, and I watch it with him on occasion. I'd much rather him watch it at home than go somewhere else and watch it where there are holes in the walls and the floors are sticky, know what I mean?
I believe 100% that is is wrong. I would consider it cheating. Its an addiction that many have and it ruins any relationship...whether they admit it or not, its not healthy and it destroys trust, intimacy and respect.
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Actually my husband and I had this discussion just a few months ago. We both feel it is equally cheating or disrespectful if we are watching it separately, but okay if we are together its cool.
It's ok, and they all (well, 99%) do it. Talk about it once you are in a relationship so you aren't one of those sad women who think it reflects on them. It doesn't.
What the problem?? will having dreams about other women be considered cheating also??
After all....when he done its better and harder for you isnt it??
I would mostly feel cheated if he hid it from me. I'd rather him watch porn than go out and pleasure himself with another woman. :)
ok i dont think porn is like cheating. i would much rather my husband watch porn than go to a strip club or stare at other women.
Its not cheating, but it can become a problem. When a husband would rather jack off to porn than have sex, then yea.
I actually watch it with him, but for some reason i get mad if he watches it by himself, which is not often
I watch it him so I guess it is ok for us.
I don't think there's anything wrong with it.
If he is watching the ones I made its even more OK
it gives you new way of making love ..
i don't think it is cheating...when i told my man i llike to watch it too we watch it together...often! lol
Of course it's not wrong. He's a grown man and his sexuality is his business -- married or not. That's just like asking ';Is it wrong for me to use a toy if I'm married?'; Of course not. It's your body and your business. If you start hounding him about porn, he'll turn to someone else that much quicker.
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