How can I get my husband to be more affectionate?

I've been with my hubby for about 2 years (just recently married however) and he's not very affectionate. Only when it comes to going to sleep that he'll cuddle with me. I've told him I need more affection and he agrees yet he's made no attempts to increase his affection. I don't feel loved most of the time..I've tried romance, sexy outfits etc...and still got nothing.


Anyone have some advice on how to get him to be more affectionate?How can I get my husband to be more affectionate?
I tried to rub my husbands' arms from behind him and put my head next to his and he told me to move that it was tickling him. I need attention too. He just doesn't get it. I'll be looking back at this one.How can I get my husband to be more affectionate?
I used to have a similar problem. My husband wasn't very affectionate either ( we have also been married about 2 years) and he's gotten VERY affectionate lately. It's like he's fallen all in love with me for some reason, way more than he ever has been. Maybe it had to do with the fact I've been very sweet to him and he realizes how good he has it because all his friends tell him so? I'm not sure the entire reason all I know is that he did change so it is possible. He massaged my feet last night, my neck, my back, arms, kissed me passionately, wants to make love all the time now...its really funny! But don't give up hope because I didn't and now I have a love ball on my hands.
i am the same way. sometimes i just don't want to be touched and and i feel so disgusted (married 2 years). just try to figure out what happened to him to make him like that. i know for me it was because my parents never showed me any affection, there was never any i love you's said around the house. that's why i was that way.





just try to figure out the root cause
Unfortunately, men and women think and act differently.


You cannot MAKE him change if he does not see how important it is to you, and unless he WANTS to.





I guess you could try talking to him - again. Try explaining to him that you need this in order to feel happy, and that you miss the times you had before. (Men cannot understand that a woman needs to feel secure and relaxed in order to want to have sex; they assume that we feel like they do.)





Good luck. Going to a therapist could also help you two out.
Sounds like he wants to show you love and affection but he doesn鈥檛 know how. Maybe his family is very unaffectionate and he never learned or he withholds his affection in fear of doing it wrong. Many men don鈥檛 get it when is comes to showing affection. A report is coming out on this very subject, to teach guys how!
Unfortunately we guys tend to be that way. We're all about the chase but once we've caught our prey and played with it for a little while we tend to be like a cat that's finished playing with the mouse they caught. We may come back and play from time to time but it's never like it first was.
tell him if you withheld sex would that affect his life and relationship with you?


tell him that affection for a woman is maybe just as important as sex is to a man and that it is something you need from your husband in order to feel connected to him.
B has a point. When you get married that doesn't mean you can change people. You rhusby may just not be the affectionate type. Stop talking about it to him and start doing to him. God bless,
I would sit on his lap facing him, with your arms around his neck, and just snuggle, this is a position he will love and you get to do a lot of snuggling, hope it helps!!!!
This won't come overnight. Try going out alot. Nice walks under a moonlit sky. You need to tell him that you love him everyday. Most of all be patient, and he'll change.
If he was this way to start with he's not likely going to change. Why did you marry the man if you weren't satisfied sexually?
You must have known this before you married him, highly unlikely he is going to change now.
Try cuddling on the couch when you watch tv.
massages


role play


lots o' oral
Yes, you must have known this before you married him. But you did marry him, so you might as well try to fix this.





First of, communicate! Don't just tell him that you need more affection and yet not explain exactly how to give it to you. He simply may not know. Instead of complaining about him not being affectionate with you, why not touch him?





A great book is ';The 7 love languages';, it explains how everyone has things that make them feel loved the most. Some need gifts, some need acts of service (doing the dishes, cleaning his car, etc), some need physical touch, etc. I am a physical touch person. Physical touch makes me feel the most loved. It does include sex, but also other touch too. He may feel most loved when you make dinner for him, and yet expects that you will feel most loved when he does the dishes...





Another great book is ';Love %26amp; Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs'; It uses a bible verse as a premise to explain that just the way women NEED unconditional love. Men NEED unconditional respect. Trust me, when you offhandedly say ';I was thinking today, that there is a lot of things I respect about you, I just thought you should know that I respect you very much.'; A man listens. He even comes back and asks ';What things?'; You have to be prepared with a few things to tell him too. :) It also explains that when a man is treated with respect, he reacts with love, and when a man is treated with disrespect, he reacts unlovingly. It is a cycle that you CAN stop.





Good Luck. Remember that the only thing you need to fix ANY problem in marriage is communication and compromise.
Get him a girlfriend!
have u tried a diet