I need to divorce my husband that left to Isreal 6 yrs ago quickest easiest way?

I want to get remarried, and we never consumated the marriage or anything for that matter, I should have gotten an annulment but no now I have waited so long I have to get a divorce! Anyone know a way that will not cost as much, it should be easy he is in another country!I need to divorce my husband that left to Isreal 6 yrs ago quickest easiest way?
Find out the local paper in Isreal. Put a ad in there where ppl look to find jobs, that says'; so and so'; is filing for a divorce if you contest please respond to blah blah blah. they have so many days to read the newspaper and to reply to it. If no reply? It's done!! To get more information contact your local court they should give better details. And yeah 6 years is a long time to just be starting this now.








Good LuckI need to divorce my husband that left to Isreal 6 yrs ago quickest easiest way?
You can get all the papers online:


http://diylegalinfo.com/Divorce_Links.ht鈥?/a>

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What happens if my British husband stops paying his UK student loan debts?

We live in America and my husband still has UK student debts. He has thought about not paying them for a while and then waiting until they are transferred to a collection agency over here. We are thinking that if they are sent to a collection agency we could negotiate an overall lower lump sum payment Is this a good idea? Will this ruin our credit scores if his debt is sent to a collection agencyWhat happens if my British husband stops paying his UK student loan debts?
Honestly, I don't know much about international exchanges of debt and collections (ie how long it takes, etc) But I can say that any debt that goes to collections will ruin your credit score. Even if you leave debt in a checking account unpaid, it will go to collections and that will negatively affect your credit score. With collections on your credit report, it would be very difficult to obtain credit with your husband's name associated. That may not seem like much of an issue, however his income cannot ethically be considered as a source for repaying a loan if he is not on the loan application. Mostly because if a person is not on a loan, they are not responsible for repayment. Any amount in collection can make a difference. For example, I recently heard about a coworker with a customer in great standing, however he has a collections notice on his credit report for just over 100 and he was declined for a secured loan. Just goes to show how much it counts. Simply put, it's not a good thing to even consider because of the risks. Hope this helps.

Are you comfortable allowing your husband to be your leader?

In the bible god commands husbands to lead their families


he commands wives to obey husbands and husbands to listen to wives.


I wanted to know how many women here (men can answer too) allow their husband to lead the family and obey his commands.Are you comfortable allowing your husband to be your leader?
Yes, how scary is that. But I know my husband is a godly man so yes I would feel comfortable with him leading me, however as most godly men he chooses not to act in a manner that is degrading to me and sees me as his equal.Are you comfortable allowing your husband to be your leader?
Yes, but the bible was written over 2000 years ago. It was also written in a part of the world where many would still hold that view today. What a lot of people forget is that the Bible is a product of it's time and region. It was written by men and only a handful of men in history have ever really followed the word of god.





I do not obey my husband, I respect him, there is a difference, luckily he respects me too much to expect or want me to obey. He also listens to me and I listen to him. He cannot shoulder the burden of leading the family and I wouldn't want him to have to, we are partners.
We lead in different things, and overall are equal. I honor my husband, and he honors me as well. Respect and honor need to go hand and hand. Obey, in a certain sense, is also part of respect. We both submit to God, and to each other, and in giving our 100% we know that we each gain greatly in the exchange because we are able to bring distinctive gifts to the marriage.


However, you, as many others, are misinterpreting what 'obey' means truly in the biblical sense. It is not meaning servitude, or blind obedience or taking orders, but is predicated on the faith the couple shares. It's adapting, adjusting, listening....


A husband is to love his wife as Christ loves the church. Then his wife should follow his example.


Obeying, or submission, is NOT one-sided, but both the husband and the wife yield to each other and to God. It's a two-way street, of honour and completeness.


The husband and wife submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.


“The woman was made out of Adam’s side. She was not made out of his head to rule over him, nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be loved.”


The obey issue has been misused throughout the centuries by people who thought that it meant that wives were to be treated as little more than a piece of property and that her husband is her master. That kind of thinking is how it's been misused.


It's not obey as in husband barks out orders and the wife obeys like a good dog. It's obey as in mutual respect, as in being aware of each others strengths and weaknesses and working together as a couple.
Good thing neither of us has ever owned, much less read, a bible.


We're partners, neither subservient to the other. If there's a decision to be made, we have equal weight in it.





No, he does not ';lead'; the family.


We lead it together. I would never stand for being ordered about like a servant or being made to feel that my place was beneath someone else, husband or no, and I wouldn't want him to feel as if I did that to him either.


I was raised with what I now understand is a progressive attitude for the time, and even now. I was always taught to bow to no one and that gender means nothing in terms of the respect you should have, who you can love, what you can do, what your role in life is; so was my husband and his brother, and that's how we bring up our children.
in the bible there are no good women in that book. Just bad women. it our fault we dont live in the garden of Eden. Yano you can tell that book was wrote by a man.
No I'm not. I like making my own choices and being my own person. Commands just aren't something I will take.


He doesn't own me, so I don't believe that I should have to obey everything he tells me.
A) The bible is a fictional work of literature


B) Anyone who lets someone command them is a senseless drone with nothing substantial to offer the world.
He does not command and I do not obey. We have a family together and together we decide what is best for it.
My husband isn't the commanding type.
';His house his rules';

What should we (Me, my Husband and 2 yo) visit while on vacation in Charleston, SC?

We will be there for 3 days and 2 nights. I am not sure which plantations or museums we should visit. Do you recommend the aquarium or the carriage ride? What hotel should we stay in (kid friendly)?What should we (Me, my Husband and 2 yo) visit while on vacation in Charleston, SC?
Two restaurants I can definitely recommend are:


1. Slightly North of Broad - depending on the weather eat outside. Food is fabulous


2. Cru Cafe - small, quaint, kind of hard to find but it's worth it!!





For things to do I would recommend Ed Grimballs walking tour of old Historic Charleston and also Drayton Hall is pretty interesting.


I would also recommend:


Jack Thompsons Civil War Walk


http://www.civilwarwalk.com/


Confederate museum


And for kids I would suggest the Childrens Museum of the Low Country:


http://www.explorecml.org/What should we (Me, my Husband and 2 yo) visit while on vacation in Charleston, SC?
A lot of the houses in Charleston have house tours. I would get a guide book. There are a lot of great places to eat. I'm not sure how a 2 y/o will handle the tours, etc





I recommend the aquarium
The aquarium was nice, and kids love it.

What do i get my husband for christmas for our first christmas together?

its our first christmas this year.. i know tons of things i can get him, but i want something special..what did you do or get your huband or wife for your first year?What do i get my husband for christmas for our first christmas together?
A nice picture frame or photo album with pictures of you guys together. Some frames have it to where you can record yourself, so every time he presses a button, he can see your picture and hear a cute message you recorded yourself. They also can be engraved.





Here's the link to the picture frames:


http://www.potterybarnkids.com/products/鈥?/a>





Also, more for if he's the sensitive type or he may find it obsessive... Do the 365 things I love about you. You write out the reasons either in a book, or on small pieces of paper and put them in a nice box or jar. That way he can always read some and will know how much you truly care for him. Personally, I find this idea adorable and am starting on doing it for my boyfriend soon.





Depending on the weather where you're at around Christmas, if it's warm enough outside, you could plan a couple days to a week long camping trip. It could be just the two of you and you could go hiking, fishing, and just enjoy being outside in nature. It's more creative and I'm sure he'd love it if you took time to do the more guy-ish things he loves.





You could also make him a stocking on the side full of random things he needs/wants/etc. I always do this for the person I'm dating and it's never failed me.





If you're comfortable with something more ';kinky';, maybe find a sexy corset or just a nice bra and panties set. The effort put it will really please him. You could even dress up in a Christmas-themed outfit if you wanted to get creative.





Good luck!





Merry early Christmas!What do i get my husband for christmas for our first christmas together?
typically guys aren't as sentimental as girls. get him something he will enjoy. does he have a hobby? hunting, fishing, sports? my husband will choose something like that over sentimental any day!
A savings Bond. Payable in 25 years.


I bought him one every year, we cashed them in on our 25th Anniversary and went on a cruise!!!
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What would you say to someone who went back to an abusive husband?

Would you be angry with them or be supportive.What would you say to someone who went back to an abusive husband?
A mixture of both probably. I would be a little frustrated with them. I would let her know I am here if she needs me. I wouldn't be too pushy, because then I may alienate her and she might shut me out completely. If the person still loves her husband, which she probably does if she is going back to him, it won't do much good to bad mouth him to her. Not until she can see it from your point of view. Which she probably will eventually. These things take time.





On the other hand, if you are actually afraid for her life. You may need to step in and call the authorities or anyone else that would be able to get through to her.What would you say to someone who went back to an abusive husband?
Supportive of course. If you're angry with them it will make them more likely to stay with the abusive husband. And keep them from turning to you for help the next time they want out. I would be supportive as many times as they needed it.





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Supportive as in being there for them. Not supportive as in encouraging them to stay with him.
A little bit of both actually. Keep the anger to yourself, though. Be supportive because this lady will soon need it. You don't want to do anything that would damage the relationship you have with her so that she might feel that she has someone and somewhere to go to in the inevitable crisis. Never be the I told you so! Be willing and ready to offer options, especially if there are children involved. If she is willing, I would recommend that you have an emergency plan in place so if there is danger someone will know. I had a friend whose code word was ';popcorn';. There were four of us who talked with her everyday for almost a year after she returned to him. She went back only after she found out she was pregnant for the second time. One of us always touched base with her in the evening unless previous arrangements were made or her mother-in-law was there. She used the word popcorn one evening after he beat her so bad she was almost unrecognizable. When two of showed up and were refused entry, we called the Sheriff's office, he was arrested, charged, spent 90 days in jail. She is still with him today. I pray that he won't kill her but until she leaves for good, our hands are tied. Do what you can do.
It's frustrating as hell to watch someone return to a destructive or even dangerous relationship time and time again. But battered women usually make several ';running starts'; at leaving before they actually leave for good. So the friend or family member who truly wants to help needs to just hang in there and be supportive.
I wouldn't be angry, but I'd be frustrated. But I'd support them 110%, and do everything I could to make them realize there is a much better life and that they have the strength inside them to leave. But you can't force someone to change/leave/do anything- they have to want help, to fully utilize it.
You get what you deserve.





Although I'd offer safe haven when it all goes sour again in 10 minutes.





Because it will go sour. The only thing more annoying is when they go from one abusive relationship to another...then it's time for some serious psychological help.
neither i can't get mad at someone for running their own life. i would point out some issues and state how i felt about it but frankly it's not my business.


and try to talk them out of it but i wouldn't get mad or angry and i can support someone doing something i don't agree with.
Interesting question!





If they have kids, I'd be angry, because it's selfish to drag innocent kids into this crap all in the name of ';love';.





If they don't have kids, I'd be much more supportive - not of their action, but just being there if needed.
Tell them you know how hard it is to get away, abuse never stops it only escalates. tell them who can they go to for support, they are not to be treated like that. But they have to decide when they had enough abuse %26amp; if not, for their familys safety get away.
I would say do not ever get on here or go to a friend or family in the future and boo hoo because you seem to like that situation and you deserve all that comes with it , by the way do you have the hospital on speed dial???????? Dumb as%26amp;
I would say they are making a mistake and need to seriously re-evaluate their situation. If he gets abusive again, don't say ';I told you so';. Be supportive when it gets tough.
i love you. i am here for you. anything you need. i will be an ear and i dont judge you.
They were not supportive, and most failed to realize that it is not their life and not their decision. But, they were right.
i wouldnt be happy no not at all! thats a dangerous situation and i wish the person all the best! wow
That you will be there when they need you....emphasis on the word when. Not much you can do if their mind is made up.
One always supports ones friends, but that ';someone'; should get some counseling.
He will pleasure you insanely - Reverse Psychology
It obviously wasn't that bad.
Just tell them that you are there for them if they need you.
';I am here for you and I love you.';

If I file as Married filing Separately, can I list my unemployeed husband as a dependent?

My husband and I were living together during 2006, he was unemployeed all but 3 months of the year. I would like to file separately, but if I do so, can I claim him as a dependent since he had barely any income and I supported him the entire year? Please help me, we are now separated and I am pregnant. He left me with all the bills. Thanks !If I file as Married filing Separately, can I list my unemployeed husband as a dependent?
You cannot take your husband as a dependent. Even if you could, I bet he is going to claim himself %26amp; that would cause you more problems. If you lived together for the last 6 months of 2006, you cannot file head of household. To qualify as an ';abandoned spouse';, you have to be ';abandoned'; for most of the year. It would be best if he will cooperate with filing one last joint return, but I doubt you have that option. If he will not, you are basically stuck w/ married-filing-separately. I know it stinks, but at least then you won't be responsible for anything stupid he puts on his return. I say that b/c he just doesn't sound like someone of fabulous character, in general. The good news is: As long as you don't let the worm move back in, you'll be home free for head-of-household for 2007.





Best wishes w/you baby! Take care of yourself. Living well is the best revenge. :)If I file as Married filing Separately, can I list my unemployeed husband as a dependent?
If you had children in 2006 you can file as head of household. Which would be the best option. You should look up the ';abandoned spouse rule'; on the IRS website. If you did not have children another option would be to file a joint return, was his W2 mailed to your house? If so he is unlikely to be filing on his own. All in all if you are married you can't claim his as a dependent.
Spouses are never a dependent.





If you lived apart for the last six months of the year, you may file Head of Household if you have a child.





If you lived together at any time after 6/30/06, you can file ';Married-Filing Jointly'; or ';Married-Filing Separately. If you file Separately, he would not be on the return at all.
You can never claim a spouse as a dependent. If you file separately, you can usually claim an exemption for a spouse if that person had NO income during the year - but ';barely any'; isn't ';NO income';, so you could not claim an exemption for him.





A couple of the responders imply that you can file as head of household if you didn't live together during the second half of the year - this is only true if you already have at least one child living with you - if the baby you're expecting is your first, then no you can't.





You are allowed to file a joint return with him, but only if the two of you agree and he signs it - to just file a joint return without his knowledge would be illegal and fraudulent.








Good luck though - sounds like you're in a real tough situation.
I couldn't find anything stating that you can't claim him, but I believe that you can't claim him since you are filing separately. However, if you have any other children, go ahead and claim them.

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What does Kate Hudson's husband say to her when they see Anne dance with Kate's brother at the wedding?

When Kate sees Anne dance with her brother at her wedding, she tries to say something to her husband. He stops her and says something to her instead. I am simply not getting that dialogue! What does he say to her?What does Kate Hudson's husband say to her when they see Anne dance with Kate's brother at the wedding?
(I'm watching it now so I'll just type it out)





Kate- ';Umm';


Steve- ';No baby, baby, let it happen on its own.';


Kate- ';Uh oh, did I make a horrible mistake and marry someone who is smarter than I am?';What does Kate Hudson's husband say to her when they see Anne dance with Kate's brother at the wedding?
like alicia said.. i like this movie.. a great chick flick

How do I tell my husband that I'm pregnant?

My husband was just finished telling me that he doesn't want kids for another 2 to 3 years, when I took a positive pregnancy test. I don't know how too tell him! I am only 26!How do I tell my husband that I'm pregnant?
Be really obvious about symptoms for a few days.... Make him ';figure it out';.... so then he will be the one to tell you and feel smart!How do I tell my husband that I'm pregnant?
hi,first congrats on your pregnancy!As for telling your husband, well there is no other way really but to just come out and say it to him.He is either going to be angry and take it a totally different way, or you might be surprised and he might actually be happy.Either way he needs to know.Also 26 yrs old, isn't a bad age to have a baby.Im almost 22 and i have a 11 month old baby boy and im currently 32 weeks pregnant with my second baby boy.I wouldn't change it for the world.Good luck and congrats again
If he is really your husband like you say he is than just tell him. No, he doesn't want them right now, but I am pretty sure if he found out you were pregnant now he wouldn't turn his back on you. There will never be a good time for kids because they are a lifetime investment. Here I am 27 years old and my parents still help me out from time to time and probably even more since I am having a baby in 2 mo. So, that's just how it is. He may have just said that, thinking that you don't want any.
my husband said the exact same thing to me when we were 25, when i got a positive test i was shocked. i just stareted crying, i called him at work and told him he asked why i was crying and i told him because he didnt want kids yet. he just laughed he could never be upset about becoming a father even though it wasnt his plan, plans change, hopefully yours will think the same way mine did, he will see waht a blessing it is and realize that really 2-3 years isnt a big difference. plan a special dinner and tell him. good luck
Tell him...';I know you didn't want kids for a while but...I'm pregnant.'; Maybe you could do it in a fun way, while still stating that same thing. Maybe make him a card or a cute note that says the same thing. Good luck. Men seem to change their minds sometimes about wanting a baby. Make him go with you to the first dr's appt. When they do the ultrasound and see/hear the heartbeat, he may change his mind. 26 is a good age to have kids...if you are prepared financially.
Just go to him and say that we will be starting a family much sooner than you think because I am pregnant now. I am not sure how he will take the news but do not make it seem like bad news when you are about to tell him just ease it into the conversation.
i would say ..';hey honey(or whatever your pet name is for him) rember how you said you didnt want kids for a couple of more years? i understand what you want but im afraid that your going to have to shorten that time to 9 months..........tell him you want to keep it and that your very excited about being a mother to be';.............or somthing to that effect...best of luck..and congrats on the baby to be
Well just sit down and tell him that LIFE had other plans for the both of you. 26 I think is a good age to have a baby. He may be a little freaked but he'll be okay. Good luck to you and congrats!
okay hunni calm down sit him down and be like ';hunni,i don't want to upset you but um...im pregnant and im sorry but i am and i wanna have kids';Hows that?or let him see you throwup and then say im pregnant
Your husband probably meant that he didn't want to plan having kids for another 2-3 years. If he wants kids down the road I am sure he will be thrilled to find our you are pregnant.





Guys are stupid and say stupid things. Just tell him, he will be happy!
What do you mean only 26!! that is a nice age to have a baby, just tell him your pregnant your married you should be able to talk to him, bet he will be happy xx
I agree with MK6! It takes two people to make a baby! Unless you lied to him about stopping your BC you did nothing wrong! Good luck!
you: honey......


him: yes sweetie


you: I'M PEGNANT!!
just don't call him at work like I did with our first. He'll get used to the idea, it may take some time but he's got nine months to get used to it.
Start by saying ';Look what you did to me!!!';.
Tell him. Its kind of that simple. Whats done is done.
just talk to him .. ?
just tell it to him straight
here is a video that would be a great aid in answering your question and clear everything up. Hope it helps!


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jCOtF8OV3Zo

Is it normal for a woman to have sex dreams about her husband?

Mine does and I feel extreme pressure to live up to her dreams. It's very hard competing with myself like this.Is it normal for a woman to have sex dreams about her husband?
LOL just do your best, I'm sure she will love it! The real you is always better ;)Is it normal for a woman to have sex dreams about her husband?
Don't beat yourself up over this. Be privileged she is being honest and glad it is you she is dreaming about and not someone else. Maybe it will benefit your sex life. Who knows what you both do to each other in the dream. Maybe one day she will live the dream. Good Luck mate.!!!!!!!!!!
Atleast she is dreaming about you and not the poolboy...or her boss...or your brother. ;)
I wish i could have same dreams about my husband too(not that i dream about other men, i just have a low drive and never have sexual dreams)
I believe it is. What a compliment from one so close. Don't worry about competing with the dreams-you're doing such a good job that's why she's dreaming about you. Enjoy each other!
Be glad she's only dreams about you, obviously you make her happy.
Think of it as a compliment. She's having dreams about you and wants to to fufil her dreams. You're married to her and she loves you. Sit down and have a talk with her. Ask her what exactly you did in the dream that she enjoyed so much.


Tell her you'll give it a try, but you can't make any promises. She's your wife and will love you for even trying.


Good luck! Hope that helps.

How can I get my husband to be more affectionate?

I've been with my hubby for about 2 years (just recently married however) and he's not very affectionate. Only when it comes to going to sleep that he'll cuddle with me. I've told him I need more affection and he agrees yet he's made no attempts to increase his affection. I don't feel loved most of the time..I've tried romance, sexy outfits etc...and still got nothing.


Anyone have some advice on how to get him to be more affectionate?How can I get my husband to be more affectionate?
I tried to rub my husbands' arms from behind him and put my head next to his and he told me to move that it was tickling him. I need attention too. He just doesn't get it. I'll be looking back at this one.How can I get my husband to be more affectionate?
I used to have a similar problem. My husband wasn't very affectionate either ( we have also been married about 2 years) and he's gotten VERY affectionate lately. It's like he's fallen all in love with me for some reason, way more than he ever has been. Maybe it had to do with the fact I've been very sweet to him and he realizes how good he has it because all his friends tell him so? I'm not sure the entire reason all I know is that he did change so it is possible. He massaged my feet last night, my neck, my back, arms, kissed me passionately, wants to make love all the time now...its really funny! But don't give up hope because I didn't and now I have a love ball on my hands.
i am the same way. sometimes i just don't want to be touched and and i feel so disgusted (married 2 years). just try to figure out what happened to him to make him like that. i know for me it was because my parents never showed me any affection, there was never any i love you's said around the house. that's why i was that way.





just try to figure out the root cause
Unfortunately, men and women think and act differently.


You cannot MAKE him change if he does not see how important it is to you, and unless he WANTS to.





I guess you could try talking to him - again. Try explaining to him that you need this in order to feel happy, and that you miss the times you had before. (Men cannot understand that a woman needs to feel secure and relaxed in order to want to have sex; they assume that we feel like they do.)





Good luck. Going to a therapist could also help you two out.
Sounds like he wants to show you love and affection but he doesn鈥檛 know how. Maybe his family is very unaffectionate and he never learned or he withholds his affection in fear of doing it wrong. Many men don鈥檛 get it when is comes to showing affection. A report is coming out on this very subject, to teach guys how!
Unfortunately we guys tend to be that way. We're all about the chase but once we've caught our prey and played with it for a little while we tend to be like a cat that's finished playing with the mouse they caught. We may come back and play from time to time but it's never like it first was.
tell him if you withheld sex would that affect his life and relationship with you?


tell him that affection for a woman is maybe just as important as sex is to a man and that it is something you need from your husband in order to feel connected to him.
B has a point. When you get married that doesn't mean you can change people. You rhusby may just not be the affectionate type. Stop talking about it to him and start doing to him. God bless,
I would sit on his lap facing him, with your arms around his neck, and just snuggle, this is a position he will love and you get to do a lot of snuggling, hope it helps!!!!
This won't come overnight. Try going out alot. Nice walks under a moonlit sky. You need to tell him that you love him everyday. Most of all be patient, and he'll change.
If he was this way to start with he's not likely going to change. Why did you marry the man if you weren't satisfied sexually?
You must have known this before you married him, highly unlikely he is going to change now.
Try cuddling on the couch when you watch tv.
massages


role play


lots o' oral
Yes, you must have known this before you married him. But you did marry him, so you might as well try to fix this.





First of, communicate! Don't just tell him that you need more affection and yet not explain exactly how to give it to you. He simply may not know. Instead of complaining about him not being affectionate with you, why not touch him?





A great book is ';The 7 love languages';, it explains how everyone has things that make them feel loved the most. Some need gifts, some need acts of service (doing the dishes, cleaning his car, etc), some need physical touch, etc. I am a physical touch person. Physical touch makes me feel the most loved. It does include sex, but also other touch too. He may feel most loved when you make dinner for him, and yet expects that you will feel most loved when he does the dishes...





Another great book is ';Love %26amp; Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs'; It uses a bible verse as a premise to explain that just the way women NEED unconditional love. Men NEED unconditional respect. Trust me, when you offhandedly say ';I was thinking today, that there is a lot of things I respect about you, I just thought you should know that I respect you very much.'; A man listens. He even comes back and asks ';What things?'; You have to be prepared with a few things to tell him too. :) It also explains that when a man is treated with respect, he reacts with love, and when a man is treated with disrespect, he reacts unlovingly. It is a cycle that you CAN stop.





Good Luck. Remember that the only thing you need to fix ANY problem in marriage is communication and compromise.
Get him a girlfriend!
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How do I get my husband and I to agree on how to raise our children?

My husband and I have very different parenting styles. I need a little order and I am stuck being the disciplinarian because my husband feels that they should be allowed to do as they want when they want. I shouldnt be so hard on him, but he allows them snacks and drinks before bedtime and they wet the bed. He excuses it by saying that it is because they are like him and have to eat when they are hungry. The problem with this is that they dont want to eat meals, only snacks and he will give it to them because he says ';well at least they are eating something.'; I have to make a second diner sometimes. I cant establish a bedtime because he doesnt calm down and it affects the whole house. I am at my wits end. The kids (there are 4 of them) will settle down at night for me when he works late. They are okay when he is not home but when he is life is complete chaos.How do I get my husband and I to agree on how to raise our children?
Have you ever seen a programme called Nanny 911? If not, I would recommend that you try to buy a DVD from Amazon and show it to your husband.





You are absolutely right. Children need order and discipline otherwise they will take over the house. They will also grow up to be spoilt and selfish adults. I would tell your husband that your children do not need snacks and drinks before bed. He is giving them these because he believes this is a sign of his affection for them. But what he is doing is making a rod for both your backs because eventually, they will not go to sleep without them. Not to mention the fact that their teeth will rot and, as you say, they wet the bed. Oh, and obesity will become a problem.





In my experience, it is best not to argue with him about the way he treats the kids in front of your children. Otherwise they will tap into this and start to play you off against each other - it sounds like they are doing this already on the chaotic nights. I would explain to him that when he is on the late shift, you do not give them snacks and drinks and they go to sleep just fine without them. This is because they do not need them. If he wants to display his affection, it would be better if he cuddled them and played with them when they are awake. And the best display of affection he could give them is to be a loving and affectionate father.How do I get my husband and I to agree on how to raise our children?
First let me start off by saying that there are rules or books.(alot of the authors,don't have childern).By that I mean, If how you want your childern to grow up to be functioning people, contribute to society,and live a long and healthy life, they need to to know how. Not to be out spoking, but your husband is wroug. It is easier for him to say it's alright, because in that, he won't have to deal any of the real problems that are in his face. It seem to me that your husband has alot of growing up to do him self. Childern must have structure and disipline. They need it and beleive it or not they want it. Don't back down, if all else fails, the both might think about counsling, for his own good, and the kids.
I SUGGEST THIS MY SON WAS LIKE THAT well in the night my son eat also before go to bed aso what i did if i ask my son do you want to eat dinner now or later if and i give them a food when they hungry dont push them to eat when they dont want, for a snack dont always give them every minute or second put some time on it like in the morning if dont want breakfast food give them a breakfast ceral bar you see kids like to eat something fun to eat like chocolate so make it fun,give them some food and put some fun things that will attract them to eat in time so they dont get hungry in after dinner, back to drinking in night and food feed them dinner in time and when they finish tell them that the kitchen is close and be open again in the morning in dringking in the night before go to bed make sure each of them go to the bathroom and pee first before lying in bed
in order to be effective you have to come to some kind of compromise children can tell if your not on the same page and will play you against each other
I would first of all make it clear that that you cannot make two dinners ever no matter what. What is for dinner is there at dinner time and that's it. Ask your husband if you can come to some kind of agreement you comprimise a little and he compromise a little. Like they can have a fruit or veggie snack before bed but no drinks because of the bed wetting. Also maybe so he doesn't think they are thirsty have a water bottle available at all times for them to get on their own. and then at like 6 or 7PM or whatever time you want it to stop you take them away and tell your husband they drank so many 8oz glasses of liquid today so he knows they've had enough. Let the kids know to that if they ask you for a second dinner that you won't get it for them they have to eat dinner when it is served. They might not believe you at first but when they come to you and you say I am sorry but dinner was at such and such time you knew that they will soon stop skipping dinner.
3 wurds girl talk it out!!!
Welllll, you have a few choices here. Talk to your husband and explain how serious this problem is(which it sounds like you have) and I know how hard it can be convincing males.But let him know you just can't go on like this.





Or just except the fact you are going to have to be the sole disciplinarian and make the kids do as you say. Rules made will be followed.

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What do you think of husband and wife watching porn?

....to get in the mood and eventually do ';it'; together.





thanks in advance.What do you think of husband and wife watching porn?
It's fun. works every time. just don't do it EVERY time you have sex! ;)What do you think of husband and wife watching porn?
To each his own when my husband and i were younger we would watch porn together. After 30 years of marriage we have done it all sexually that is. Watching porn together isn't exciting as it once was so we stopped. My husband has an office in our home he goes in there and watches porn he thinks i don't know. He thinks he is getting away with something but i sneak in the hall and i see him in there watching it. Of course i don't like him watching it because I'm not young anymore and him looking at young pretty bodies really isn't fair to me. I deserve better then that after all the years of taking care of him and this is what i get for it him sneaking off hiding behind closed doors.
I think it's a great way to experience something different together. If both people are 100% sure they will enjoy it without insecurities, that is. Otherwise, it's more trouble than it's worth. An ex of mine and I used to do that once or twice a month or so, and it was fun. I've mentioned it to my current guy and he hasn't gone for it yet... I know he watches porn without me and I would much prefer he watched it with me and didn't hide it. When it causes a guy to lie and hide it, then it becomes a problem, especially if it affects ME getting some.
if it works for you and him at the same time and you two don't have any bad feelings towards each other such as jealousy when you are watching then it is ok. but if one person is jealous or hurt then it will not work out. you don't want it to lead to anything outside of porn, so try to componsate so that both are happy in all ways. communicate with your partner! =)
Porn is a slow seductive POISON in your relationship. Those that believe otherwise are just fooling themselves. Sorry but there should be no need to ';get in the mood'; to have sex with your spouse. At least not in a healthy and loving relationship!
My fiance and I watch porn together sometimes.. It's interesting.. its gets us in the mood.. and we learn new things to try with each other.


I would say stick to soft-core porn (like HBO and Cinemax) and be light-hearted about it.. its just for fun.
You can get in the mood by watching each other and playing with each other. You don't have to watch porn. It is only selfish gratification





Husband will think of another woman instead.
If both are comfortable with it, there's no problem. My wife doesn't really get turned on by porn--she prefers to do it rather than watch somebody else have sex. I'm quite happy to accommodate her :)
I think it's great. My husband and I have done it and we've immitated the actors in the film. I'd rathe watch it with him than watch it alone.
My man and I watch porn together all the time. Not only that but we watch it alone too. I don't have a problem with him watching without me. It gives us ideas to try and spices our relationship up!
If that's what works for them, then it's fine.





Neither my husband or I like it so we don't watch it. That's what works for us.
awesome
DO you need to just to get in the mood every time, that might be a problem
If thats what they choose to do, then it should be ok. To each his/her own.
me and my husband watch it together and then we have really hot kinky sex it turns us on more
I don't have a problem with this at all, if they both enjoy it then it is fine.
If both parties agree, there's no harm in it.
It spices things up. I have no problem doing it.
To each their own.





I personally see no harm in it, as long as both people involved are OK with it.
I think its fun once in a while

How can I get my husband to help me when it comes to housework?

duh ask himHow can I get my husband to help me when it comes to housework?
Well that all depends. Are you both working? If you are a stay at home wife, I think you are obligated to do the house work. If you are both working, I think you should hold out on sex until he starts helping. I know that would make me help and I am a pretty lazy guy when it comes to house work.How can I get my husband to help me when it comes to housework?
whatever you do, don't nag him. it will only make matters worse. start with little things, and small rewards. here's an excellent article you'd probably want to apply to your husband.
I have been married to my husband for 8 years and in that time I have probably mopped our kitchen and bathroom 8 times. Why? He does it for me with no questions asked. How did I get so lucky? I convinced him he does so much better at the mopping that anyone I have ever seen mop a floor! Something along the lines of ';Oh honey, those floors look so great! You know when I mop 30 minutes later the floors look dirty again but when you do them the floors stay shiny for weeks!'; And I don't just say it to him - whenever the opportunity arises in conversations with family %26amp; friends I just ';brag'; on him! He also does an awesome job on bathtubs!!!


I suggest you pick the few chores you hate most and convince your husband he is so much better at those chores than you are!
let some stuff go and he will then see how much you do do around the house. but if you dont work and he does, i would not complain.
Stop doing it %26amp; show him what it's like when no one does it. Maybe then he will start helping. Go visit someone for a few days %26amp; let him deal with the housework. Just a couple of suggestions.

I want to surprise my husband and need advise?

I just found out I am pregnant with our first child and I would like to surprise my husband in a romantic way. Any suggestions?I want to surprise my husband and need advise?
Take him out for dinner and tell him..get him in a good mood.I want to surprise my husband and need advise?
That's Great! Whats I think would be relay cool, is if you take him on a date, Like a normail date out to eat and talk to him. Say your a daddy, and make it romantic and something he'll remember.
By a baby t-shirt that says ';I 鈾?my daddy';, cook him a nice dinner, then give it to him as a present.





You might even slip it on a teddy bear and have the teddy bear holding the cigar saying ';it's a boy/girl'; or something.
Lots of Men put engagement rings in their wives wine, champagne etc. I had hear of a friend that poured her husband a beer and put on of the old fashioned baby pins in it. with the Big Buckles???
my cousin had this done to him!





his wife cut right to the chase.. he was sleeping in the middle of the night like most of us do!


and she decided to tell him by saying!





Steve wake up i'm pregnant.. He said he will never forget it !!!





but you want to do it romantically!


i would cook a dinner light a candle and at the bottom of his plate have some sort of laminated card saying i'm pregnant!!!


then have the card say flip!!!


when he flips it over You want to see how that happend meet me up stairs! naked!


lol that would be dessart!





just an off the wall idea!


Congrates and good luck!
When I told my husband I made a candle light dinner at home with the cornish hens, a salad with baby corn in it and the small white potatoes. The center peice was baby roses that I had bought from the store and a blank card in which I wrote, ';congratulations daddy!';. Congratulations to you!
Mmm how about a funny card one that says something like ';You finally came thru and Knocked up Your wife. Whew it took So Long...';





Or how about that romantic candle lit dinner with his favorites. Before you server supper you bring out a plate with the Results from the doctor or the ept test... give'em a big hug %26amp; a kiss....
buy a onesie that says i love daddy. wrap it up and let him open it!
I don't know about romantic ways but I with my son I wrote Hi Daddy See you in October on my belly ..Asked him to come upstairs to help me with something we started messing aroun and he saw it. Next time you're intimate you could tell him it's too late for protection?? You can make a dinner with baby carrots, baby peas, etc etc and see if he gets it. Congrats!!
Here's what I was going to do if I hadn't been so darn excited this time and just blurted out :(





I wanted to buy BABY-back ribs and BABY carrots with BABY potatoes for dinner and see if he could guess the theme





:P Silly I know
the babyback ribs with baby carrots and new potatoes is a great idea actually, seen people do that one. Also, why dont you look into a maternity nighty. Some of them are quite nice.
Buy a shirt that says ';I'm Going To Be A Daddy'; and buy yourself a shirt that says ';I'm Going To Be A Mommy!'; When he comes home from work (or wherever) be wearing your shirt and tell him, ';I bought you a new shirt today.'; Have it put into a clothing box and give it to him like a present. He'll see his shirt, recognize what your shirt says and he'll get it. That's what I plan to do, if we ever get pregnant. Congratulations, by the way! A baby is a blessing!

How do I make my husband power of attorney in IL?

If you are already in hospital or have planned surergy ect they will give the the papers neccessary. Also, alot of bookstores have do it yourself packets for such things. Hope this helps!How do I make my husband power of attorney in IL?
depends on what POA you need. If you mean a general durable poa, you can probably download one from the net. If you are looking for a specific one for a transaction in particular, you may need to see an atty. If you are talking about in a medical sense, talk to your admitting office at the hospital; and if you mean in the sense of an administrator for a will, ask the probate clerk. Check with the county clerk in advance about reviewing these for recording.How do I make my husband power of attorney in IL?
I'm not certain this is true in Illinois, but if you phone any bookstore and ask ';Do you have Nolo Press books?'; or look them up on the web, you will find that they publish legal self-help books with all the appropriate forms inside. In fact, these days they put them on a CD-ROM.





Power of attorney is one of those you can USUALLY do by yourself. Some states require they be notarized; others just want the signatures of two witnesses. There are also loose legal forms in many stationary shops (look in the one closest to the courthouse), but the book will walk you through it, and tell you when something is sufficiently tricky that you should ask a lawyer.





If you do need a lawyer, having as much as possible completed yourself may make it so easy they won't even bother to bill you. At the very least, you'll save money.
In CA your local office supply stores sell Power of Attorney forms. You need to determine for what you want him to have power over and get the proper form. It needs to be notarized and this should appoint him power over what you need.

How should I tell my husband I am pregnant?

I just took a home pregnancy test and it came out positive very quickly, I have also had other symptoms and have not had my period in about a month. I need some good ideas on how to tell him that I am pregnant. We have talked about kids and he wants them someday, but not yet. We decided we would wait a few more years as I am 21 and he is 22. I am looking for a way to tell him so that he will not freak out on me to bad.How should I tell my husband I am pregnant?
If you guys are happily married, and you want kids someday, then being pregnant shouldn't be the end of the world. Most men gauge their reactions based upon what the woman feels. If you act excited, he will too. Father's day is just around the corner. Get something cute that says ';World's greatest Dad!'; I'm sure he'll love it, and he'll be happy. Planning to have kids is stressful. I think the surprise babies are always the best! congrats!How should I tell my husband I am pregnant?
Stand in front of the mirror and practice saying it, pretty soon you will have it memorized and it will be a piece of cake.
just show him the preg test he will get and you are probably worried too much about his reaction. Just tell him.
Say to him, baby theres a bun in the over!
I always thought it was a good idea to have kids later in life, untill I heard this one little gem:





If you know you are going to have kids, you might as well do it.





After all your life is going to be turned upside down anyways, so what does it matter? It's a whole new adventure.





As for the telling:


1. Make sure you're really, really behind this.


2. Do not wait too long. He deserves to know.


3. I get creepy about romantic settings. You get your own hopes up because of the artificial hollywood-style setting you create, and you're unprepared for when he reacts slightly un-hollywood-like.


4. The actual telling: Dear %26lt;insert name of man%26gt; I am pregnant.
I wrapped the pregnancy test up in wrapping paper and gave it to him. I said, ';Hear I made something for you.'; When he opened it he was speechless. He wasn't ready to have a baby, but eventually he came around and he loves our son very much.
do sumthin relly nice n romantic wit him n den sit down n talk 2 him about im sho hell be happy even if he didnt want it yet it is HIS kid n im sho hell be a proud daddy =)xoxoxoxoxo


wuteva u do dont stress cuz dat wuld just mak it worse ait mama!!!!!!!!!!





CONGRATS
freak out on you too bad? He's the one who knocked you up.





Tell hiim to make sure he has some vacation days available in eight months.
Throw up on...lol
take him to a movie ...Have a romatic dinner and then tell him or you could have a themed dinner and tell him then tell him there you go... that is how you tell him
I am sorry you are worried about how you husband will take the pregnancy. I am sure he won't be to upset. Just tell him and if he freaks out just tell him it will all work out. Don't worry!
first decide what u want to do. then sit him down alone and tell him you took a pregnancy test and it showed up positive. the quicker you tell him the better.





if u decide you will keep it, give him a ';congratulations'; card!! haha, i wanted to do that =P i just told mine flat out.
I've seen those cute little cards that you can record you own message....I wanted to do that while I was preg. with my daughter...say something like ';Guess what honey'; and if you can wait long enough you can record the heart beat at your first ultrasound and put that on the card...so ';guess what honey....~heart beat~ we are having a baby!'; good luck! and congrats!
Well I have an idea...since its almost fathers day get a jewlery box, the kind used for bracelets, and put the test in it as a ';gift'; for fathers day, of course he isnt a father so he wont be expecting anything so he'll be very surprised!! Hopefully he will be excited like you are.





God bless and good luck!

How do I find my husband in jamaica?

My husband has disappeared. Not that I care but I am not trying to get a divorce and need to know where he is. We have not spoken in over 2 years and I dont want to either. Need to know where he is though and the solicitors are quoting me insane prices to help, but I need to prove to the divorce judge (evil man lol) that I have tried. Help?!How do I find my husband in jamaica?
**open your eyes and look or call his name and see if you find him**How do I find my husband in jamaica?
It would appear to me that if your husband has literally disappeared and you have had no contact in over 2 years, that is an exceptionally good reason to give anyone an divorce. But I'm not the judge ! In fact, for all you or anybody else knows, your husband could be dead - not a nice thought, but a possibility. Perhaps suggest that one to the judge if you think there are going to be problems. And as for having to provide proof of trying to locate him, there must be some guidelines to follow in order to satisfy what it is the judge requires. So ask what it is that you need to do and endeavour to fulfil the requests to the best of your ability in order to satisfy the judge and get the outcome you desire.
Call Jamaica..You should have his name, ss# (if you were married), former addresses etc..


Look up on Yahoo. www.freepeoplesearch.com, I did this and eventually found my ex and his family.





Call the Jamaican news people, they may be able to help you or at least they can run an ad in the paper for you, that could help too. Save all these documents and phone conversations to present to the judge.





good luck
You need to report it to the authorities.
walk around the island shouting his name out.
ask sean paul

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Could a woman win a divorce is she were to frame the husband in a setup?

I've been set up by an ex-girlfriend who use a fake personals profile to get evidence that I would sway from her, using instant messaging. : ) I know - I'm a bad boy. Anyway, with that in mind, couldn't a woman set up her husband with a prostitute or pay someone to tempt him and frame him - then win in a divorce?Could a woman win a divorce is she were to frame the husband in a setup?
oh yes,.....Could a woman win a divorce is she were to frame the husband in a setup?
Yup. What do you think PI's use to find out if a man is capable of cheating. They use a woman decoy! If your ex went to the extreme to test you and she found her answer, then so be it. You could have been honest with her and let her know you were a bad boy. But, it's a 2-way street. A guy can have his wife set up too.
Yes, I would say so. It doesn't matter who was on the other end. You thought it was not your wife and were willing to engage. Therefore, you are guilty. She ain't the cops and it ain't entrapment. Sorry. Keep it in your pants next time.

What do I do? My husband of 25 years has cheated on me for the third time?

I have been married for 25 years and blessed with 6 lovely children and I am 40 years old. I forgave my husband because of our children and now I can not face this situation any longer. What should I do? I need some advice from people with such personal experiences please.What do I do? My husband of 25 years has cheated on me for the third time?
You two married at 15? Jeez, well that explains the infidelity. You forgave one and two, so I am sure you will three. Since this is for the kids, stay with him until they are 18 and maybe leave.What do I do? My husband of 25 years has cheated on me for the third time?
Your husband has cheated on you for the third time because he knows that he can and you will put up with it. You need to let the other woman know that she can come and get him and she can pack his clothes for him. Your children should not be growing up like they do and it is time to start thinking of yourself one time in your life.
Ask him why is the second woman important than you are. Is the second woman worth it? Ask your husband what is he missing that you can give him. Because you deserve a man who wants to live long time and not have to worry about being messed around on. I never been married, I can feel the pain that it hurts like heck. I want to express the sorrow that this happened. Ask him what is he missing that you need to make up for. If he doesn;t answer, then he is the one guilty. Ask him kindly to pack up his bags, and relocate. Then go to work for yourself and your kids.
Once is bad enough, have you heard the saying once a cheater always a ------ right! you should have ended it then, but three times I think you should start getting the picture now. You got married when you were 15? wow...Just move on, you're still young, never sacrifice anything for the sake of children, you and your happiness count too you know. After all, most kids nowadays are ungrateful. Good luck sweetie..
Third time?





I would have kicked him out after the SECOND time.





One time can be a ';mistake'; and can be worked through.





Two times isn't - two times is a conscious decision and a disregard for the pain that you KNOW it causes to your partner.





Three? No excuse for it. He doesn't respect YOU, he doesn't respect your MARRIAGE, and he doesn't respect your FAMILY.





But then... if the math is right you got married when you were about 16, and there's a lot to be said about ';Growing up BEFORE you get married';.
There are two ways you can go with this. Either continue to live your life as a doormat and keep forgiving. Or you can remember that kids learn from their parents' example and show them you are a strong woman by kicking your cheating dog to the curb. Seriously, do you want your son(s) to grow up to be scum like their father, and your daughter(s) to grow up to be victims like yourself?
Time for you to kick this guy to the curb. Cheaters do make good life partners. At 40, you can move on. Just get a lawyer, file for divorce, and make a decent life for yourself and your children. You should not live with a husband who betrays you and shows no concern for your emotional well being.
Forgive him, this is happening because you do not have God in your life, same as a lot of married couples. They go though adultery,masturbation,abuse,hatred, rage, anger issues,divorce, financial problems, gambling, drinking, drug abuse....on and on.


But if they only said this simple prayer, and follow His rules, stop sinning,worship Him and Him alone(Father/ Jesus/Holy Spirit). only.


all other prayers are sins called idolatry(prayers to Mary/Saints or any statue of any kind).


Then He will make your life and families life Heaven on Earth, He worries about all, He helps with all, He loves us so much it grieves me so much that people go to their graves without knowing His UNFAILING LOVE! GOD IS THE MOST AWESOME THING ANY HUMAN COULD EVER EVEN HOPE TO EXPERIENCE EVER!


I urge all families to all hold hands and ask together. : say this prayer


you will never regret it.


Put aside your unbelief and Say this prayer so God can come into your life, He is right there waiting, hoping You will make this choice %26amp; say it.


He has a plan for your life He can and will help you with everything. He wants you to be the best you can be. He loves you and gave You free will to choose having His unfailing love in your life or not He loved you first and left the door open for you. Its up to you to walk through into His loving arms.


God can help you, If only you ask Him.


If you want to accept Christ as Savior and turn from your sins, you can ask Him to be your Savior and Lord by praying a prayer like this:


';Lord Jesus, I believe You are the Son of God. Thank You for dying on the cross for my sins. Please forgive my sins and give me the gift of eternal life. I ask You in to my life and heart to be my Lord and Savior. I want to serve You always.'; Amen


He helped me and I want you to feel his Love too.


Then pass on this prayer to others so they can get to know Gods unfailing love too!
3rd Time? Enough is enough. This is not something that is a one time deal this is a problem. You have the kids and the power either lay the law down to him and let him know thats it he is fixin to be alone in life with half his stuff and his check going to the kids!
First and foremost, DON'T EVER DO IT FOR THE KIDS IN THAT REGARD!!!!!! I have seen it....and lived it, the only ones hurt are the kids. What would your kids say when/if they are older and know/see what has and is happening? Be strong for yourself and your kids will follow. Good luck....remember.. forgiving and forgetting are 2 separate issues. My heart goes out to you.
i grew up watchin my mom go threw it and it hurt!! i know you should stay with him because of your kids but this time you should do what my mom did and think of your self!! it turned out good for us %26amp;%26amp; its gonna turn out good for you to!
Talk to a lawyer first, but you should for sure leave. Enough is enough. I know it has to be very hard with kids. Good luck to you, but I feel you must leave.
Get up some courage and leave him. He will not change. You are showing your children that this is what a normal relationship looks like. Is that what you want to teach them?
I think divorce is your best choice of action. This guy doesn't deserve you or your children.
What you do is up to you. I wouldn't have taken him back the first time.
give him one more chance.
It will be hard,, especially with 6 children but you need to leave.. Actually you should ask him to leave.. This man has cheated 3 times!!! What a PIG!!!
who and the hell let you get married at 15 years old ?

How Can I Get My Husband to Be More Romantic?

I have told my husband that I would like him to be more romantic, but he just hasn't made any effort. He claims he is tired and just never thinks about it. I don't know if this is common (I think it is), so maybe there is nothing I can do. I do romantic and caring things for him (because I hope he will return the favor, but he never does). Any advice or ideas on how I can get him to be more romantic?How Can I Get My Husband to Be More Romantic?
I just have to say that a relationship is not a bartering system. you cannot give freely and expect a receipt-- ';i do for him... hope he will return the favor';. Romance is different things to different people. i had to learn my husband's idea of romance and let me tell you, it was touching and loving, and simple. Romance is not what they show on TV nor grand standing. it is the loving thoughtful little gestures that tell you he was thinking of you. listen to him, watch him, look for those things that say he has considered you and then praise him lovingly. brag on him to your family and friends. encourage him. learn his language of love. How Can I Get My Husband to Be More Romantic?
I am so glad to hear this. I hope you find greater happiness in this new language of love.

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Romance doesn't have to be dinner and flowers all the time. Romance can be found in the little things. Does he do little things for you? If not, sit him down and request a little more attention. Men get complacent in relationships, so we as women tend to have to remind them of what we need and what we want.





Is he stressed out? Mine has an extra heavy workload lately, so I try not to add to his stress level. Men have different needs than we do.





One more thing, don't keep a scorecard, it will ruin your relationship. Do romantic things for him because you WANT to, not because you think he will return the favor. He may be feeling obligated, and that may be part of the problem.
look, im a romantic guy, poetry, love letters, text messages just to say I love you and im thinking of you, candlelit dinners, surprise holidays. For me its inbuilt and I love it, it gives me such a buzz.


For some men though it just isn't something they are comfortable with and I don't know if you can make them change, we generally don't.





Has he ever been a romantic? Is this someone who has changed from an over doting caring husband to his current status?





We all need romance in our lives, I mean it just makes you feel so good so if things have changed then you need to find out why and deal with those first.


If he has always been indifferent to romance, sweetheart, sit down and pour your heart out. get him to see what it means to you.
1) pick up the book the five love languages.





People usually speak the language they want rather the language they need. So your idea of romantic may not float his boat.





Too tired? Need to explore. Probably too tired to get on the internet.


Schedule time together.


Once you have done this and are able to have a discussion, find out what he likes. Tell him what you like. Be specific. We don't and cant read minds. But he did it before we got married? Yeah, and we all used to wear diapers. What is the point. Things change. Either you find a way to work it out in a smart way. Women sometimes don't understand that their best tool is their brain. Looks and beauty don't bring a mind blowing experience
if he was not that way going into the relationship, you will most likely have little success at this point, especially if you have been together for a long time. a person must be willing to change in order for change to occur.





could seek therapy together or if that is not plausible, write down your fantasies and ideas and eventually show or read that to him aloud and see if he is willing to make a change that way.
Some guys need help with figuring out what romance really is. Give him a clue by saying something like, ';I'd love to go out to dinner just the two of us. My sister told me about this great Italian place called...';





Also be sure to praise him when he does do something romantic. When my guy first gave me flowers, I told him how much it meant to me and how sweet it was. After that, he would buy me flowers from time to time.





Good luck!
Presentation is a big thing. A clean body, skimpy outfits, bubble baths, special cooked meals, certain movies, and attention to his needs may help a little.





He may have a medical problem, high blood pressure, diabetes, certain medications all affect the libido.





Remember giving doesn't always lead to receiving!
Talk talk talk with him . Not to him. Give him examples of your ideas of romance. Additionally, romance is an act of creativity. The more creative an individual is the more they麓ll find ways of acting romance out. Be creative and respectful to the needs of each other
i don't think you can at this point...if he was like this before ..than even less...just try to remember why you love him and see his positive sides ..without the romance...i have the same problem...talk to him..e-mail him about how you fell....good luck
Wear sexy lingerie. Give him a massage after working so hard when he is tired. Maybe he just needs a little extra sleep.
maybe you need time to be with each other, just the two of you...try to have a vacation and enjoy each other's company..if this does not work then something's really wrong with him.
lol,, i asked this last week,,lol


i cant leave it up to him,, so ive been making the effort lately,, gets me some,,lol xxxxxxxxxxx
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I have the same problem...thats not even funny. I am actually suffering from lack of romantis in our relationship pretty bad. If you find an answer, please, let me know


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no when you find out let no . their a few men are but my dont all my cares about his self
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Is it wrong for a husband to watch porn?

For anyone who wants to answer this question. I am not a married woman with the problem. In fact, it will be a while before I settle down but I have heard a lot of controversy on this topic. Is it wrong for a husband of what pornographic movies? Or is it like cheating? State your opinion!Is it wrong for a husband to watch porn?
Frankly, I do think it's wrong. It's not because I think it's ';cheating';, but I think it's cheating in the sense that it cheats both you and him out of something very important in a relationship - contentment and security respectively. If he watches porn, he is creating an ideal in his mind - an ideal that normal women cannot live up to. Porn is just like any other sort of acting. It's done in the absence of love and in the absence of reality. It is a show, just like in Hollywood. But this fake ideal that he's creating in his head becomes larger and larger than life and that ideal is what he desires. This ideal makes it only natural for him to grow discontented with you and what you can provide and it makes it easier and easier for him to eventually cheat, for real.





It also cheats you out of the security you should be getting from your relationship with him. How should you expect to feel fulfilled in your relationship with him when you know that when he has sex with you he is really imagining someone else, some ideal in his head you can't live up to? We as women tend to be insecure about our bodies and what we can give to our husbands anyway. If I knew my husband or boyfriend were watching porn, it would make me feel very insecure because even though I'm a size 6, I know I don't look like and don't act like the women in those videos.Is it wrong for a husband to watch porn?
Its Entertainment geeze you people are way to insecure what are you 13?

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My husband and I fought about this a few times. I hated feeling that he would look at this stuff and then come to me and be so horny that he couldn't hear what I was telling him. We finally sat down and I explained to him that it felt as if he would rather look at that and then use me then come to me and experience things together. I don't necessarily think it's cheating, it depends on your view, and your trust level. If you think that porn is a gateway towards more unwanted behavior then be very vocal about that and explain your reasoning. I don't necessarily think that it is a slippery slope into more unsavory activities.
No, I don't think it's like cheating, but I do think if it becomes a frequent habit, it can be a blow to a wife's self esteem.....sending the impression that he would either rather watch porn than be with her or that he needs it in order to be aroused.





I compromise with my hubby and we watch it together whenever he wants to, although I have found that as he's gotten older, he's in his late thirties now, his desire to watch it has grown less and less. Can't tell you the last time we pulled out those DVD's, lol.
I advise you search on the web the consequences of pornography, the addiction and mind sickness effects. I have observed that approximately and very close to 50% of relationship/marriage problems are a result of pornography addiction. I know that before people try and get hooked on cocaine they don't do research to find out what the substance is made of and the consequences. Pornography should be treated the same way as cocaine, deceitful, harmful and very destructive. Please read on this subject and you can then draw up your own conclusion. My conclusion is that I could never be with a man that needs to look at another woman to get ';excited';, much less watch a couple having sex, I would interpret that as a gay instinct looking at another man naked. There is no psychological explanation that will ever convince me that a man or a woman that enjoys and gets excited by watching other couples doing sex is not a homosexual. It would turn my stomach inside out to see another woman's private parts.
I dont think its wrong, but many would disagree with me. Atleast, I dont think porn in and of itself is wrong. The problem comes in I think when things arent going well in the relationship. When things were great with me and my husband and we were having sex regularly I didnt care, even encouraged it by sending him porn and watching together and things like that. But now that things arent so great.... It drives me NUTS. But I dont think porn is wrong and I dont think its wrong for him to watch it or even masturbate to it... I DO, however, think its wrong to only be interested in porn and never your spouse.
Not cheating, not wrong, not illegal (assuming the material itself is legal).





On the question of morality things change. Some up tight people would have a real problem with it and some laid back folks will not. My suggestion in your life, know how YOU feel about it and hook up with a man that agrees with you.





Don't let strangers decide what is right, you are a big girl and already know that!
uhhh I watch porn. I dont think he knows, but he wouldnt care. He watches porn. He told me that he wouldnt if I didnt want him too..but thats just dumb so I dont care if he does. Hes just looking. Its natural for a man to be curious and want to see boobs and stuff. They are gonna do it eventually whether you want them to or not so its better to just come to terms with it instead of letting it get to you.





But thats just my own opinion.
In our relationship, yes, it is wrong.





We have watched it once together and that was fun, but I think that doing it alone is unnecessary.





Neither spouse should go out of their way to look for satisfaction from other men or women, whether they're in movies or not!
you dont want my opion on this subject trust me! but really this is something that should be left up to you to decide. everyone is different, so go with ur own beliefes here. some love it n watch it together and dont mind if the other watches alone and they do it as well. some just want to know about it and when it takes place, mayb so they know not to interupt. some only want it done when there together. some dont want it done at all. some go as far as to thinking or feeling like its cheating. it depends on what that individual has been thro, to determine the standerds of porn watching. me personally, i dont like it at all, unless we watch it together so we have like, ';an instruction'; video as to what we want, or want to try and the ';proper'; way to do it. lol. but ive been thro a lot when its come to porn. imyself have had to deal with an addict, and that makes u see things differently and think differently. but use ur own judgement here and go with what u know think and feel.
I'm my opinion it is not wrong for either of us to enjoy porn occasionally. To me it is nothing like cheating. Cheating involves 2 (or more) participants and you can't cheat on anyone w/ and inanimate object. Porn is a sex toy, a very graphic sex toy, but a sex toy none the less.
It's a matter of opinion. I don't think it's wrong, and I watch it with him on occasion. I'd much rather him watch it at home than go somewhere else and watch it where there are holes in the walls and the floors are sticky, know what I mean?
I believe 100% that is is wrong. I would consider it cheating. Its an addiction that many have and it ruins any relationship...whether they admit it or not, its not healthy and it destroys trust, intimacy and respect.
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Actually my husband and I had this discussion just a few months ago. We both feel it is equally cheating or disrespectful if we are watching it separately, but okay if we are together its cool.
It's ok, and they all (well, 99%) do it. Talk about it once you are in a relationship so you aren't one of those sad women who think it reflects on them. It doesn't.
What the problem?? will having dreams about other women be considered cheating also??





After all....when he done its better and harder for you isnt it??
I would mostly feel cheated if he hid it from me. I'd rather him watch porn than go out and pleasure himself with another woman. :)
ok i dont think porn is like cheating. i would much rather my husband watch porn than go to a strip club or stare at other women.
Its not cheating, but it can become a problem. When a husband would rather jack off to porn than have sex, then yea.
I actually watch it with him, but for some reason i get mad if he watches it by himself, which is not often
I watch it him so I guess it is ok for us.
I don't think there's anything wrong with it.
If he is watching the ones I made its even more OK
it gives you new way of making love ..
i don't think it is cheating...when i told my man i llike to watch it too we watch it together...often! lol
Of course it's not wrong. He's a grown man and his sexuality is his business -- married or not. That's just like asking ';Is it wrong for me to use a toy if I'm married?'; Of course not. It's your body and your business. If you start hounding him about porn, he'll turn to someone else that much quicker.

Can I come with my husband under his work visa to Canada?

We're from Italy. My husband has a possible employer in Canada. He's a sous chef. He hasn't met yet with the recruiter. Can I come with him under his work visa as his dependant.Can I come with my husband under his work visa to Canada?
No. You will need your own passport and visa. Check with Canadian Embassy for details when traveling with a spouse.Can I come with my husband under his work visa to Canada?
As long as your husband's employer sponsor's you too.

How similar is your Husband and your Father?

I heard that a woman subconsciously chooses a man who resembles her father. How true do you really think this is?





What are the major SIMILARITIES and DIFFERENCES between your Father and your HUSBAND?How similar is your Husband and your Father?
Actually my boyfriend and my dad don't have much in common. They both have dark hair and eyes but that's about it.


My boyfriend sees Aisling every day. Meanwhile my dad has been in and out of my life since the start. Almost seeming like he acknowledges me when it's convenient to him. I'm not complaining though, I've learned over the years, that I'm better off without him.


Plus my boyfriend did the typical experimenting with drugs as a teenager while my dad is a 42 year old stoner.


I'll admit that he has gotten better since I was born but there is no way I would compare my boyfriend to him. Their similarities stop at the same eye and hair colours.How similar is your Husband and your Father?
My husband and my father are identical in personality.





The only difference is my husband is dark skinned and my dad is white Hubby tall and skinny, Dad well rounded and tall. LOL.





Every single thing that my mum complains about with my dad, I complain about with my hubby.





* Everything will be done ';tomorrow';.


* If something is brought inside, it is dumped in the closest doorway.


* They both do things for others even when they don't want to.


* They both take a lot to push into a temper, but when they do, boy do they go off.


* They don't listen when you are talking to them.





I had 5 long term relationships before my husband, and none of the ex's were anything like my dad - guess that is why they never became my husband : )





I have to say, I never looked for a man like my dad and didn't even realize how alike they were before we married, but now that I have found him, I wouldn't trade him for the world and when I get upset with my hubby, I stop myself, think of how alike he is to my dad and then remember why I love them both so much... I consider myself a very lucky girl to have them both in my life and hope that my son grows up to be half the man that his daddy and grandpa are : )
Honestly, the only thing that popped into my head was that they are both hard working men. They provide for their family and take pride in that. Well, they also both have a sense of humor. My husband is just more ';open'; about his, I guess.





My dad did teach me what to look for in a husband, though. Him and my mom have been married for 31-32 years.. I cannot remember exactly. He taught me by actions: He has always put his family first and is the type of person that would give you the shirt off his back if you needed it. I knew I wanted a man in my life that had those qualities, and I have found him. So I guess, in a sense, what you heard is true about me.
My Dad and my Husband are very similar, there birthday is only two days apart also. They share a similar personality (although my Husbands hates to admit that) and they both think they're Peter Pan and that they'll live forever, adult children comes to mind. They both work harder then anyone I know in order for their families to have the best life possible. They both like a sleep in the afternoon and they both adore my Daughter. Differences? 30 years, lol
well...my hubby and father have a few things in common....the both keep steady jobs, they both have a bunch of daughters, both do carpentry work(when they want). but my daddy is a drunk and my hubby has a 6 pack that has been in there for a month, my dad used to hit my mom and my hubby hasn't laid a hand on me in 13 years. same in little ways different in MAJOR ways
My husband and my father have very little in common other than the fact they are both good and decent men. HOWEVER, truth be told, I actually married a man very similar to my uncle Rick. Tall, lanky, computer nerd, highly intelligent, goofy sense of humor, and a wiz in the kitchen.
Actually, I chose my boyfriend(fiance) because he was nothing like my father, because honestly, my father is the kind of man that I can't STAND! Every other word is a curse word, he's loud and dirty, doesn't wash his hands after he pees (Lol), and ugh, just annoying lol!





My boyfriend on the other hand...


is a little more conservative and he can watch his language :) I love him so much!
Both my fiance and my dad have the habit of telling totally long unnecessary stories to get to a not so important point!


They both lose their temper very easily while attempting DIY


They would both do anything in the world for me





They aren't really any major differences!
Actually they're nothing alike. I've heard that alot, but my husband's nothing like my dad, or none of most of my stepdads. He's only somewhat simlar to my mom's husband Dan, only because they both like video games. Lol!
They're opposites.


My dad ( and I love him to bits) is a very lazy man. My husband is a workaholic.


They're both very loving and generous men, but certainly have different priorities in life.

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How to make my husband go to work & look after us properly?

Iam married for 3 yrs, but my husband is not caring for me %26amp; kid. he doesnt go to work or bring us anything. for him marage is just to keep nights happy. I want to make him go to work regularly, earn something %26amp; look after us. I want to stay with him, have life of ours. how can I get him do so?How to make my husband go to work %26amp; look after us properly?
Maybe you should appreciate his good qualities if he has any.





Why focus on the negatives in this?How to make my husband go to work %26amp; look after us properly?
Cut him off... the ';benefits of marriage'; are not for someone who isn't earning them by being a breadwinner. Make it clear that this is a two-way street. If he wants something from you, he has to work and pay the bills. Lock the bedroom door and let him sleep on the couch. Hopefully that will motivate him.





Sounds like you need to get out there and start working for your own benefit. Find a friend, neighbor or family member to look after the kid, and go to work... even if working means two part-time jobs right now. Get your own bank account(s) and save your money. Don't let the husband know how much you are making... bring home a pittance, but the majority goes into the bank account.





When you get enough savings built up, you need to confront the husband and tell him you want a divorce and to pack his bags NOW.
Are you serious? You cant make someone go to work!


You cant change someone else. You can only change yourself. Starting with putting your feelings for him aside. Your children's feeling should always come over yours or anyone elses ( within reason ) until they are old enough to care for themselves. Your children deserve and need to be cared for by both parents.


You are supposed to make decisions as a unit. And he has chosen to make a decision, on his own, to stay home. SO I think its time for you to make a decision on your own. You either except the situation and make the best of it or get out of the situation. Those are your two options.


Unless the two of you as a couple have made the choice for him to stay home, then he as a man, should be caring for his family.


You cant change him!!!!!!!!


Besides there are some perks to him staying home...childcare is expensive! I assume he does the cleaning and cooking too right? I mean anyone ( male or female )who is not working should at least do that much!!
If it has been 3 years the chances of him changing and being a supportive husband sounds pretty slim. I guess you could tell him he has x amount of time to get his crap together and mean it. If he does not live up to the agreement boot him out. Life is to short too and your kids are too important to live unhappy
If nothing has change in 3 years chances are things aren't going to any time soon. The only thing you could do is give him an ultimatum. He needs to realize that its his duty to be a husband and a father and take care of his family. If he doesn't simply move on its hard but its better in the long run.
Unfortunately, you picked the wrong BOY to be the father and husband of your family. He's not a man - he's not responsible, dependable, or even respectful.


Sorry, but you can't FORCE a boy to become a MAN.


You chose wrong.
Instead of trying to change your husband, it would be easier to just change husbands.

What kind of recipes for goulash does anyoneout there use? My husband says his family always put cheese?

in there recipe for the dish but ours never has. What do you all think?What kind of recipes for goulash does anyoneout there use? My husband says his family always put cheese?
i think the very essence of making goulash is the fact that it's a barrage of whatever ingredients you want to put in it. i don't make it, really, ever. my mom used to. she'd put tomato sauce, hamburger, noodles. kind of like spaghetti. she'd also put corn in it. sounds strange but it wasn't bad. i don't think she put cheese but we all put parmesan on it.What kind of recipes for goulash does anyoneout there use? My husband says his family always put cheese?
Goulash recipes are sort of like chili recipes, everyone has their favourite, but most folks get too fancy with the various ingredients and forget that it's mainly a 'meat' dish.





My mom came from the 'old country' and always made it like this:





Saute diced onions until golden in oil, sprinkle liberally with Hungarian paprika, add salt, pepper and some caraway seeds. Add cubed meat (venison, beef) moose etc) and brown . Add water or broth if you have it and simmer for 1-2 hours until meat is very tender.





Thicken if desired with flour/butter mixture (roux) and serve over gnocchi, potatoes or rice. Enjoy!
I think Goulash can be almost anything. Mine has no cheese and is served over noodles. My husband's has cheese and is made with potatoes!





C's Goulash





2-1/2 pounds beef round steak


1/4 cup cooking oil


1 cup chopped onion


1 clove garlic, minced


1/4 cup all-purpose flour


4 teaspoons paprika


3/4 teaspoon dried thyme, crushed


1/2 teaspoon salt


1/4 teaspoon black pepper or cayenne pepper


1 28-ounce can tomatoes, cut up


2 bay leaves


1 8-ounce carton dairy sour cream


4 cups hot cooked noodles





Cut meat into 1/2-inch cubes. In a Dutch oven brown meat, half at a time, in hot oil, cooking the onion and garlic with the second batch of meat. Drain fat. Stir in the flour, paprika, dried thyme, salt, and pepper. Add undrained tomatoes and bay leaves. Bring to boiling; reduce heat. Simmer, covered for 1 to 1-1/4 hours or until meat is tender. Remove bay leaves. Stir in the sour cream. Heat through; do not boil. Serve over hot noodles. Makes 8 servings.








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1 pound lean ground beef


1/2 of a 28-ounce package frozen loose-pack diced hash brown potatoes with onion and peppers (about 3-1/2 cups)


1 15-ounce can tomato sauce


1 14-1/2-ounce can diced tomatoes with basil, garlic, and oregano; undrained


1/2 cup shredded cheddar cheese (2 ounces)





In a large skillet cook ground beef over medium heat until brown. Drain off fat. In a 3-1/2- or 4-quart slow cooker combine meat, frozen potatoes, tomato sauce, and undrained tomatoes. Cover and cook on low-heat setting for 6 to 8 hours or on high-heat setting for 3 to 4 hours. Remove liner from cooker or turn off cooker. Sprinkle meat mixture with cheese. Let stand 5 minutes or until cheese melts. Makes 4 servings.
500g/1lb sirloin steak, trimmed and cut in strips


olive oil


1 medium onion, peeled and sliced thinly


陆 red pepper, de-seeded and sliced


陆 green pepper, de-seeded and sliced


25g/1oz butter


sea salt and black pepper


2 tbsp tomato pur茅e


200ml/7fl oz beef stock


3 tbsp paprika


small bunch flatleaf parsley


100ml/3陆fl oz soured cream











Method


1. Warm a frying pan on the stove until very hot, then brown the steak (in batches) in a little olive oil.


2. Colour the onions and peppers in the butter and season. Place in one large pan, together with the browned steak.


3. Pour in the tomato pur茅e, stock and paprika, season and bring to the boil. Cook for between 20 and 40 minutes. Garnish with sour cream and the flatleaf parsley.











We don't use cheese!!

How often does your husband shower?

I make him take a bath or shower every day, if i didnt he would do it every 2-3 days and to me that is nasty so i tell him inorder to get into our bed he goes into the bath or shower first, it works and we are all happy...How often does your husband shower?
Every dayHow often does your husband shower?
At least once per day sometimes 2.
considering that he comes in from work absolutley minging it has to be at least once a day.
When I was married we'd shower twice a day......That was the good ole days...........lol
Minimum once or more per day depending on the weather up to three times a day
Not often enough. He works outdoors at his job and doesn't shower when he gets home and sometimes doesn't even shower at night before going to bed. I get after him about it.
My honey and I must be dirt balls, cause we don't always shower every day. Especially on saturdays. As a matter of fact - not any of my friends shower every day. And none of us are dirtyballs or poor. We just don't. Saves water. I mean, I change my underwear and wash my face, teeth etc.





We are also going thru a severe drought here, and alot of people's wells are drying up





I guess you do what you have to.
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I shower twice daily
also, daily.. Usually after work....
Daily - sometimes twice a day.





He always smells loverrrrrly.
Everyday!
daily unless i have practice then twice per day.
Why is this question in the ';Cleaning and Laundry'; category?





My hubby showers twice a day. In the morning and again after exercising in late afternoon; he always smells ';yummy.';





How often does YOUR husband shower?
at least once a day sometimes twice have showered three times depending on what a guy has been doing
This falls under '; If you have to ask........';
Everyday day sometimes twice a day.
I don't keep up with his showers and after 49 years of marriage he hasn't started stinking yet. So, it must be often, cause old men can surely stink. LOL
I'm not married, but my bf showers 1-2 a day.
1-2 times a day....every day.
I being a husband to my magnificent wife shower 3 times a day. The second interval is only a run down to freshen up.


This is what I call personal hygiene!
my bf showers once to twice daily
It must be my smutty mind here but I assume we are talking clean here?





He showers every day, if he goes to the Gym then twice a day, we share a bath together once a week as well. He shaves every other day (as he has a goatee)
Im a husband i shower every day
I think that when you're dating someone you definitely HAVE to have good hygiene. there's nothing more that i hate than a sweaty dirty guy rubbing all over me while we make out. both the people should but in the effort into being clean for each other and even for them self...i mean you feel better when you're clean. sometimes i find that men don't like showering...i had a few boy friends that didn't know the meaning of soap and water! it was nasty hence that is why i am no longer with them. :)
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I need ideas for throwing a surprise 30th birthday for my husband. . . I refuse to do an over the hill party!!

Please help me come up with ideas for the party. We are new to the area, so many of the guests will be my husband's colleagues. I plan to host at our home, and will limit it to 30-40 people.


THANKS for the help!I need ideas for throwing a surprise 30th birthday for my husband. . . I refuse to do an over the hill party!!
Just an FYI. An ';over-the-hill'; party is for someone that is turning 40...not 30.I need ideas for throwing a surprise 30th birthday for my husband. . . I refuse to do an over the hill party!!
ORDER A RESTURANT AND BOOK IT OUT. YOU AND HIM GO AWAY FOR A WEEK AND LET A PARTY SET UP TEAM TO DO IT ALL FOR YOU THEN COME BACK AND GO TO THE RESTERANT. SIMPLE
You have another 10 more years to do a over the hill party.





Have a multi themed food party. Like have a small sushi station/table, a small burrito station/table, another station/table with periogis, maybe a station/table for ';american food with mini cheeseburgers and mini hotdogs. At every little station/table have a few small decorations from that country with a card with some intresting fact about their food.
It sounds like there are two issues here: Your husband's birthday and the fact that you are new to the area and wish to make a good impression (naturally).





First; your guest will take their cue from you. If you are a relaxed, prepared hostess you will have relaxed, fun guests. Don't try to do anything too ambitious. Surprise parties can be challenging so go easy on yourself.





You have a couple of options depending on whether you are intending to just have drinks and ';munchies'; or a dinner. This will depend, in part, on what time the party will commence. If it is before 7:00 I would recommend a ';heartier'; spread.





Why not do a pasta buffet? You could serve a large, decorative bowl of tri-colored penne (in light olive oil with a touch of garlic) surrounded by choices of toppings in smaller bowls: sliced black olives, steamed and cut asparagus, diced chicken, grated parmesan cheese, sliced pepperoni, pesto sauce, sun-dried tomatoes, marinated artichoke hearts, hearts of palm, onions, capers...etc. All of this can be served at room temperature and prepared in advance. I would also set out a large bowl of interesting mixed salad ';greens'; in addition, with a couple of dressing choices: perhaps a rasberry viniagrette and something more ';creamy';. The toppings will work on the salad as well. If the weather is particularly cold, you could also set out chafing dishes of marinara and alfredo sauces for your guests to choose on their pasta. I would also include a pre-sliced loaf of french bread or two. This would be colorful, festive and interesting for your guests as they compare choices of food. A good conversation starter which leaves you time to mingle. To continue the ';Italian'; theme, you could also offer your guests small glasses of Lemoncello on a tray near the door as they enter to establish the theme. Other beverages could be close at hand as well, but as always, keep it simple: wine, beer, soft drinks, bottled water. I serve my guests the ';first round'; and then set out the choices for them to help themselves. Remember to separate (if possible) the food and the drinks to further encourage your guests to ';travel'; and mingle.





Above your buffet table you can have a large, floating bunch of helium-filled balloons with colorful streamers hanging down to further enhance the ';party'; atmosphere. Have you ever had an Italian ';wedding'; cake? Just the bestest birthday cake as well.





Remember to have a good time at your own party.....and best wishes.
Why not a barbecue? Its quick and easy, and it keeps everyone outside [less mess for you!], not to mention, it costs peanuts to do :) That's if you had casual in mind.





I wouldn't recommend doing anything too formal. Cooking for 30-40 would be ridiculous. You'd be cooking 3 days in advance :P





As long as there's a nice cake, and nice booze, i think your husband would love it!
How about a ';I Don't Want to Grow Up!'; party? The birthday boy gets to wear a giant baby bib that says just that, plus one of those silly pointed birthday hats. Have a large one layer cake in his favourite children's theme (ie: 30 Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles or whaever). Have hot dogs, ice cream, bowls of smarties and colour all the alcoholic beverages Koolaid colours. Everyone brings joke presents and, if you want, ask your guests to come dressed as a kid. Or just hand out paper hats and noise makers to everyone as they arrive. I know this sounds kind of corny, but it really is amazing how absolutely everyone at a party like this will just let their hair down and have fun. You can also adapt some typical kid's party games for adults, with some hilarious results - just use your imagination.
choose a theme based on what his favorite foods are, for my husband 30th I did a tex-mex theme, and cooked up some of his favorite foods, tacos, fajaitas, with lots of toppings so guest could choose what they wanted, I decorated with the theme and we drank margaritas and I went to a specialty shop and bought mexican beer.
So I wud suggest you to throw a party..over a hill party is a good idea...
Throw an 80's party - complete with music, have guests dress up in their fave 80's gear and have fun. 30 isnt old at all and we are the 80's babies anyway..
I would have to try to get him when least expected.


May you could tell him you car needs service and have him meet you after work to drop it off. Then, on the home as you pass a pre-determined spot ask to stop in for dinner 'cause you forgot to plan dinner at home today.


Have friends %26amp; family waiting.


He'd never expect it.
Give him the money and have him hit a strip bar.