Where do you apply, to find a job working as a roughneck for a pipeline?Pipeline jobs, where can my husband apply as a roughneck?
South Louisiana has many openings for oilfeild personel.Pipeline jobs, where can my husband apply as a roughneck?
These may help. www.midwestpiperebar.com www.summitpipeline.com
It totally depends on where you live. Roughnecks are usually rig workers, not on the pipeline. Need more information.
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
How can I forgive my husband?
Three weeks after my husband came home from Iraq I found out that he has been having an affair for the past five years with a girl fourteen years younger than us. He even took her to meet his mother and sister. He says he's sorry and ashamed of himself now. He broke things off with this girl and has quite drinking. I don't know how to let it go.How can I forgive my husband?
It has only been three weeks. It's far to early to 'let go'. This was a major emotional trauma and will take time and lots of energy from both of you to rebuild trust and recover. It is not realistic to think you can just forget, this was real and it has to be dealt with. He betrayed your trust and lived a lie for five years. Something within HIM was lacking and he needs to address his own problems.
At three weeks, you are lucky to be able to even think straight, still in shock from such a heartbreaking discovery. You must be on a major emotional rollercoaster at this point.
Your husband needs to start this recovery process by removing the third party from your marriage completely. Ending all contact with her.
If he had a drinking problem, then he needs to seek help to keep himself from falling to those temptations again. Individual counseling and joint/marriage counseling may be helpful. It may take trying more than one counselor to find one that is experienced and has the goal to help save your marriage. (Not all do). It will take time to rebuild trust. Your husband will have to earn that trust by being open and honest with you.
There is no quick fix. Marriages can survive this horrible trauma, but it takes lots of work from both to rebuild from the damage.
Some resources that might help:
A good book:
';Not Just Friends'; by S. Glass
A yahoo group that has many helpful articles and links in FILES about affair recovery. Not a good support board, not very active. But, loads of stuff in files.
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/AffairsTal鈥?/a>
A few other helpful sites:
http://www.dearpeggy.com/
http://marriagebuilders.com/
http://betrayedspouse101.tripod.com/
Some support groups for those dealing with infidelity that you may find very helpful:
http://www.lifesaviors.com/SI/
http://survivinginfidelity.com/
An ebook written for the former wayward spouse, to help them understand what is needed to help the betrayed spouse and earn trust again.
http://aftertheaffair.net/How can I forgive my husband?
Girl that's something that no one can ever replace you cant forgive that for 5 yrs hell na. He made vowels to you he broke them. Am sorry but if you love someone you would not cheat on them once a cheater always a cheater remember that and if he's been with her for 5 yrs I promise that things are not left alone with them. They still have some unfinished things.
That's something that you cant forgive and forget. I would leave him I know it will be hard but it's the right thing to do. If you don't than your just a doormat to him am sorry for what's happen to you.
You don't need to let ';it'; go ... you need to let ';him'; go. Five years, five minutes, it doesn't matter. The trust is gone, with no trust there's nothing else. He's ashamed now that he's home, but where was the shame for five years? Where was the shame when this girl met other members of his family? You can do SO MUCH BETTER if you allow yourself to walk away. I've heard of this situation a few times now. These guys think because they're overseas, fighting for our country, they are allowed some extra-curricular activities. NO WAY!! Would you forgive him if he were working close to home at a regular job? Just because he was overseas doesn't give him any special right. Vows are vows and he broke them, and not just once. Five years while you were here keeping everything together for him and being faithful to him. That's the thanks you get? Have some self-respect and walk away with some dignity.
im sorry to say but i would leave him . i have told my husband many time that i love him but the only 2 things that would make me leave him is abuse or cheating. wow having an affair for 5 years is nothing to just get over . its not like it was a 1 time stupid thing .... 5 years! i know i would have to let him lose cause even if i tried i would never want him to touch me again cause everytime we would say something sweet or touch me i would be thinking.... ';did he say or do that to her?';. my heart hurts for you but hopfully you can move on. and how dare he have her meet his mom and her not tell you i would be more than p*ssed!
For the past 5 years? I don't think so, screw that! I would have left, and the fact that mom and sis didn't say anything to you in 5 years is just disrespect! Don't, that's unforgivable, that's not some fling, that's dedication to a lie. But if you want to, forgive him, you'll never be able to fully let it go. That's a steep betrayal.
I have no advice for you because I wouldn't be able to let it go either. Do you have to let it go? I guess if you love him %26amp; want to stay together I would recommend some intensive individual and couples therapy. My sister %26amp; her husband were separated for a year. They've been back together for 2 years and I know she still has angry feelings toward him. How could you ever trust him again?
my hubby cheated on me before we got married i let it go but my story is much different he only had 1 affair and did not want to make the little slut apart of his family. in your situation i would honestly say its going to be really hard to get past the facts like it was most likley an emotional affair, he introduced her to his parents, and it went on for 5 years! and your were married while he was doing this witch means hes got no respect for your vows
Well, that depends on whether you still want him.
Ask yourself what is more important your hurt feelings
or your husband.
If you still want him then you need to get into marriage
counseling immediately. And that means both of you together.
If you don't find a release for the hurt and the pain you will
eventually kill this relationship anyway.
Maybe you can both go to marriage counseling. Sounds like he was really planning on making this lady part of his life permanently. Perhaps he realized what a mistake he made then changed his mind. Perhaps he is lying to you still. Check into it. For that, in my personal opinion, I'm not sure I could forgive.
Hi
I know what you are going threw my husband did the same thing but for me its been 7 years for me you will never forget and you will never trust my life was full of pain this person was 22 years old we had been married for 21 years when he did this to me my daughter help her dad I can't trust her either now we are going on 26 years of marriage and the pain is gone but I will never be able to trust him 100 per cent
I guess what help me was I need all my question answer.
I know some of it would be painful but I couldn't go on with out knowing I fought for our marriage because some little young person was not going to take my life I gave up alot to be with this man.
I love him. so for your question you have to ask your self is your marriage worth fighting for if not then go out and fine you again
we seem to lose our self in our married life.
I take care of my self more and know that if this ever happen again I could leave this man and not look back so good luck on your marriage and if you want to talk just e-mail
deseriefernandez@yahoo.com
i'm sorry he did this
he can't love you and treat you like this, he knew you would find out, so he confessed
i cant tell you how to ';forgive him';, because there's not a good way to do it... my advice is divorce him, because i know from experience, Once a Cheater ALWAYS a Cheater
If an affair lasted for 5 years, including introduction to his family, it may be time to walk away. If you forgive him, you will always wonder if he will stray or lie again. On his behalf, he did go to war and he may have changed so it may be worth another try.
WHAT IS UP WITH ALL THESE MILITARY MEN CHEATING ON THIER WIFE?!? CAN YOU MEN NOT CONTROL WANTING ANOTHER FEMALE WHEN YOU ARE AWAY FROM YOUR WIFE?
pinto drivin' SOB: Dang your dumb. That's not a smart excuse to use. But you are one of those military guys that just doesn't know any better. Whatever! Don't try, and defend the cheaters on here! They have no respect for thier wife!
Leave him!!
Just ME: you should look at it from both points of view, not your egotistical feministic direction. a guy leaves for 4-15 months and he comes home to a dear john letter.
WHAT IS UP WITH ALL THESE MILITARY MEN CHEATING ON THIER WIFE?!? CAN YOU MEN NOT CONTROL WANTING ANOTHER FEMALE WHEN YOU ARE AWAY FROM YOUR WIFE?
Wow that is a lot to swallow. The affair is one thing taking her to meet his family is another. Are you sure they are broken up? How about some counseling. You may be able to forgive but may not be able to forget. Good luck!
EXCUSE ME!!!! Let ';it'; go! I think you need to let ';HIM'; go!
you don't!
listen to your heart. it's the only way.
It has only been three weeks. It's far to early to 'let go'. This was a major emotional trauma and will take time and lots of energy from both of you to rebuild trust and recover. It is not realistic to think you can just forget, this was real and it has to be dealt with. He betrayed your trust and lived a lie for five years. Something within HIM was lacking and he needs to address his own problems.
At three weeks, you are lucky to be able to even think straight, still in shock from such a heartbreaking discovery. You must be on a major emotional rollercoaster at this point.
Your husband needs to start this recovery process by removing the third party from your marriage completely. Ending all contact with her.
If he had a drinking problem, then he needs to seek help to keep himself from falling to those temptations again. Individual counseling and joint/marriage counseling may be helpful. It may take trying more than one counselor to find one that is experienced and has the goal to help save your marriage. (Not all do). It will take time to rebuild trust. Your husband will have to earn that trust by being open and honest with you.
There is no quick fix. Marriages can survive this horrible trauma, but it takes lots of work from both to rebuild from the damage.
Some resources that might help:
A good book:
';Not Just Friends'; by S. Glass
A yahoo group that has many helpful articles and links in FILES about affair recovery. Not a good support board, not very active. But, loads of stuff in files.
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/AffairsTal鈥?/a>
A few other helpful sites:
http://www.dearpeggy.com/
http://marriagebuilders.com/
http://betrayedspouse101.tripod.com/
Some support groups for those dealing with infidelity that you may find very helpful:
http://www.lifesaviors.com/SI/
http://survivinginfidelity.com/
An ebook written for the former wayward spouse, to help them understand what is needed to help the betrayed spouse and earn trust again.
http://aftertheaffair.net/How can I forgive my husband?
Girl that's something that no one can ever replace you cant forgive that for 5 yrs hell na. He made vowels to you he broke them. Am sorry but if you love someone you would not cheat on them once a cheater always a cheater remember that and if he's been with her for 5 yrs I promise that things are not left alone with them. They still have some unfinished things.
That's something that you cant forgive and forget. I would leave him I know it will be hard but it's the right thing to do. If you don't than your just a doormat to him am sorry for what's happen to you.
You don't need to let ';it'; go ... you need to let ';him'; go. Five years, five minutes, it doesn't matter. The trust is gone, with no trust there's nothing else. He's ashamed now that he's home, but where was the shame for five years? Where was the shame when this girl met other members of his family? You can do SO MUCH BETTER if you allow yourself to walk away. I've heard of this situation a few times now. These guys think because they're overseas, fighting for our country, they are allowed some extra-curricular activities. NO WAY!! Would you forgive him if he were working close to home at a regular job? Just because he was overseas doesn't give him any special right. Vows are vows and he broke them, and not just once. Five years while you were here keeping everything together for him and being faithful to him. That's the thanks you get? Have some self-respect and walk away with some dignity.
im sorry to say but i would leave him . i have told my husband many time that i love him but the only 2 things that would make me leave him is abuse or cheating. wow having an affair for 5 years is nothing to just get over . its not like it was a 1 time stupid thing .... 5 years! i know i would have to let him lose cause even if i tried i would never want him to touch me again cause everytime we would say something sweet or touch me i would be thinking.... ';did he say or do that to her?';. my heart hurts for you but hopfully you can move on. and how dare he have her meet his mom and her not tell you i would be more than p*ssed!
For the past 5 years? I don't think so, screw that! I would have left, and the fact that mom and sis didn't say anything to you in 5 years is just disrespect! Don't, that's unforgivable, that's not some fling, that's dedication to a lie. But if you want to, forgive him, you'll never be able to fully let it go. That's a steep betrayal.
I have no advice for you because I wouldn't be able to let it go either. Do you have to let it go? I guess if you love him %26amp; want to stay together I would recommend some intensive individual and couples therapy. My sister %26amp; her husband were separated for a year. They've been back together for 2 years and I know she still has angry feelings toward him. How could you ever trust him again?
my hubby cheated on me before we got married i let it go but my story is much different he only had 1 affair and did not want to make the little slut apart of his family. in your situation i would honestly say its going to be really hard to get past the facts like it was most likley an emotional affair, he introduced her to his parents, and it went on for 5 years! and your were married while he was doing this witch means hes got no respect for your vows
Well, that depends on whether you still want him.
Ask yourself what is more important your hurt feelings
or your husband.
If you still want him then you need to get into marriage
counseling immediately. And that means both of you together.
If you don't find a release for the hurt and the pain you will
eventually kill this relationship anyway.
Maybe you can both go to marriage counseling. Sounds like he was really planning on making this lady part of his life permanently. Perhaps he realized what a mistake he made then changed his mind. Perhaps he is lying to you still. Check into it. For that, in my personal opinion, I'm not sure I could forgive.
Hi
I know what you are going threw my husband did the same thing but for me its been 7 years for me you will never forget and you will never trust my life was full of pain this person was 22 years old we had been married for 21 years when he did this to me my daughter help her dad I can't trust her either now we are going on 26 years of marriage and the pain is gone but I will never be able to trust him 100 per cent
I guess what help me was I need all my question answer.
I know some of it would be painful but I couldn't go on with out knowing I fought for our marriage because some little young person was not going to take my life I gave up alot to be with this man.
I love him. so for your question you have to ask your self is your marriage worth fighting for if not then go out and fine you again
we seem to lose our self in our married life.
I take care of my self more and know that if this ever happen again I could leave this man and not look back so good luck on your marriage and if you want to talk just e-mail
deseriefernandez@yahoo.com
i'm sorry he did this
he can't love you and treat you like this, he knew you would find out, so he confessed
i cant tell you how to ';forgive him';, because there's not a good way to do it... my advice is divorce him, because i know from experience, Once a Cheater ALWAYS a Cheater
If an affair lasted for 5 years, including introduction to his family, it may be time to walk away. If you forgive him, you will always wonder if he will stray or lie again. On his behalf, he did go to war and he may have changed so it may be worth another try.
WHAT IS UP WITH ALL THESE MILITARY MEN CHEATING ON THIER WIFE?!? CAN YOU MEN NOT CONTROL WANTING ANOTHER FEMALE WHEN YOU ARE AWAY FROM YOUR WIFE?
pinto drivin' SOB: Dang your dumb. That's not a smart excuse to use. But you are one of those military guys that just doesn't know any better. Whatever! Don't try, and defend the cheaters on here! They have no respect for thier wife!
Leave him!!
Just ME: you should look at it from both points of view, not your egotistical feministic direction. a guy leaves for 4-15 months and he comes home to a dear john letter.
WHAT IS UP WITH ALL THESE MILITARY MEN CHEATING ON THIER WIFE?!? CAN YOU MEN NOT CONTROL WANTING ANOTHER FEMALE WHEN YOU ARE AWAY FROM YOUR WIFE?
Wow that is a lot to swallow. The affair is one thing taking her to meet his family is another. Are you sure they are broken up? How about some counseling. You may be able to forgive but may not be able to forget. Good luck!
EXCUSE ME!!!! Let ';it'; go! I think you need to let ';HIM'; go!
you don't!
listen to your heart. it's the only way.
What would happen if my husband and i just walked away from our mortgage and debts? What's the process and?
would we be able to rent a property or would we be blacklisted. Thanks in advance for answers!!What would happen if my husband and i just walked away from our mortgage and debts? What's the process and?
If you walk away (and hand the keys over), your mortgage lender and other lenders who lent you money can persue you for up to 6 (and in some circumstances 12 years).
With regards to renting, it depends on if the letting agent / landlords carry out credit file checks. If they do, than they might say no. You do have several options available to you regarding your situation, and you should seek help before you the drastic step of walking out as you have nothing to lose.What would happen if my husband and i just walked away from our mortgage and debts? What's the process and?
Actually this is done everyday - by companies that walk away from their creditors and debts. It's called liquidation and perfectly legal. But in their case they walk away and can start another company the same day - debt-free and apparently free to trade again. But for an individual, you will get a bad credit record and that will tell against you when you try and get credit or a mortgage. Many people have declared themselves bankrupt when things get too much for them.
seriously...join the club.
I'm in the states, but look into renting your home out and moving into a smaller place. This way the rent you receive will cover most of or all of your mortgage. You will then be saving money by cheaper monthly housing payments so you can start catching up on bills. You can also consider both working a side job temporarily to get you out of the hole.
Other than the above, you may want to look into the different chapters of bankruptcy.
Good Luck....and remember...you're not the only one...AT ALL.
UK Advice
Firstly, there is absolutely no such thing as a blacklist - this is something that is invented by loan sharks and companies trying to sell you 'clean your credit file' services - pointless and unnecessary.
If you were to walk away from your debts, leave your home and ignore the mortgage - obviously at some stage, the mortgage company will repossess the house and your unsecured creditors will chase you for balances owed.
Repossession would remain on your credit file for 6 years from the point of entry.
Defaults and CCJs from your unsecured debts would remain on your credit file for 6 years from the point of entry.
Creditors will find you unless you're exceedingly clever and can avoid leaving any form of paper / electronic trail to your current address - and they will continue to chase for any outstanding money owed on the mortgage after they've sold your home (which they do quickly to raise capital - usually at a loss). CCJs can be made against you even if the creditor doesn't have your new address - a court judge will expect you to have updated your details with the creditor - which is reasonable, unless you are attempting to avoid your debts of course. So you may find you have CCJs without even knowing it because the paperwork never came to you.
With these things in mind, your credit rating will list all of these things for a period of 6 years from the point of entry, and therefore any potential landlord who does a credit check on you, will realise that you are a high credit risk - and may use this as part of their decision to rent their property to you - or not. Local Authorities won't have such concerns - unless you owe Council Tax of course.
Bankruptcy may well be a good option - but if you have a good income, the Official Receiver may take a portion of this from you for a period of 3 years in the form of a monthly payment which will then be distributed to your creditors.
Bankruptcy remains on your credit file for a period of 6 years too, but you will always have to declare the fact you went bankrupt for credit applications in the future above 拢750, applying for a mortgage or when asked (by an employer for example)
For help with your debts you could try:
http://www.payplan.com - Payplan
http://www.nationaldebtline.co.uk - NDL
http://www.adviceguide.org.uk - CAB
Hope this answers a few questions!
Best wishes
Peter
Your house would be repossessed and sold for a loss, and you would then owe all of the remainder, which they would then chase you for. You could try bankruptcy, but it is a hard road from there.
You'd be blacklisted hell join the club.
If you walk away (and hand the keys over), your mortgage lender and other lenders who lent you money can persue you for up to 6 (and in some circumstances 12 years).
With regards to renting, it depends on if the letting agent / landlords carry out credit file checks. If they do, than they might say no. You do have several options available to you regarding your situation, and you should seek help before you the drastic step of walking out as you have nothing to lose.What would happen if my husband and i just walked away from our mortgage and debts? What's the process and?
Actually this is done everyday - by companies that walk away from their creditors and debts. It's called liquidation and perfectly legal. But in their case they walk away and can start another company the same day - debt-free and apparently free to trade again. But for an individual, you will get a bad credit record and that will tell against you when you try and get credit or a mortgage. Many people have declared themselves bankrupt when things get too much for them.
seriously...join the club.
I'm in the states, but look into renting your home out and moving into a smaller place. This way the rent you receive will cover most of or all of your mortgage. You will then be saving money by cheaper monthly housing payments so you can start catching up on bills. You can also consider both working a side job temporarily to get you out of the hole.
Other than the above, you may want to look into the different chapters of bankruptcy.
Good Luck....and remember...you're not the only one...AT ALL.
UK Advice
Firstly, there is absolutely no such thing as a blacklist - this is something that is invented by loan sharks and companies trying to sell you 'clean your credit file' services - pointless and unnecessary.
If you were to walk away from your debts, leave your home and ignore the mortgage - obviously at some stage, the mortgage company will repossess the house and your unsecured creditors will chase you for balances owed.
Repossession would remain on your credit file for 6 years from the point of entry.
Defaults and CCJs from your unsecured debts would remain on your credit file for 6 years from the point of entry.
Creditors will find you unless you're exceedingly clever and can avoid leaving any form of paper / electronic trail to your current address - and they will continue to chase for any outstanding money owed on the mortgage after they've sold your home (which they do quickly to raise capital - usually at a loss). CCJs can be made against you even if the creditor doesn't have your new address - a court judge will expect you to have updated your details with the creditor - which is reasonable, unless you are attempting to avoid your debts of course. So you may find you have CCJs without even knowing it because the paperwork never came to you.
With these things in mind, your credit rating will list all of these things for a period of 6 years from the point of entry, and therefore any potential landlord who does a credit check on you, will realise that you are a high credit risk - and may use this as part of their decision to rent their property to you - or not. Local Authorities won't have such concerns - unless you owe Council Tax of course.
Bankruptcy may well be a good option - but if you have a good income, the Official Receiver may take a portion of this from you for a period of 3 years in the form of a monthly payment which will then be distributed to your creditors.
Bankruptcy remains on your credit file for a period of 6 years too, but you will always have to declare the fact you went bankrupt for credit applications in the future above 拢750, applying for a mortgage or when asked (by an employer for example)
For help with your debts you could try:
http://www.payplan.com - Payplan
http://www.nationaldebtline.co.uk - NDL
http://www.adviceguide.org.uk - CAB
Hope this answers a few questions!
Best wishes
Peter
Your house would be repossessed and sold for a loss, and you would then owe all of the remainder, which they would then chase you for. You could try bankruptcy, but it is a hard road from there.
You'd be blacklisted hell join the club.
I received a check from insurance that is made out to my husband and/or myself and/or mortgage. How do I cash?
What do I or my husband need to do to get check cashed to pay roofers.I received a check from insurance that is made out to my husband and/or myself and/or mortgage. How do I cash?
You call your mortgage company.
Look on your payment statement - there should be an 800 number. Call it.
Tell the mortgage company that you have an insurance check and they are listed on it. You may have to get transferred a few times before you end up speaking with the correct department. But the mortgage company will tell you what to do to get the check endorsed by them.
Everyone who files a homeowners claim and has a mortgage on their house....gets a check with the mortgage company listed on it.
That's because your policy has a loss payee clause that requires the insurance company protect the mortgage companies interest in the property. The insurance company does this by listing the mortgage company on the check.I received a check from insurance that is made out to my husband and/or myself and/or mortgage. How do I cash?
If the check says and or then you can sign it. But since you have a mortgage make sure you repair the issue and pay the provider or the mortgage company can seek reinbursement. In the state where I live if the check is 1500 or more it has to go to the mortgage company first.
I had the same thing for roof repair. I had the mortgage co. endorse it. Then I cashed it. Still paid for the roof.
You call your mortgage company.
Look on your payment statement - there should be an 800 number. Call it.
Tell the mortgage company that you have an insurance check and they are listed on it. You may have to get transferred a few times before you end up speaking with the correct department. But the mortgage company will tell you what to do to get the check endorsed by them.
Everyone who files a homeowners claim and has a mortgage on their house....gets a check with the mortgage company listed on it.
That's because your policy has a loss payee clause that requires the insurance company protect the mortgage companies interest in the property. The insurance company does this by listing the mortgage company on the check.I received a check from insurance that is made out to my husband and/or myself and/or mortgage. How do I cash?
If the check says and or then you can sign it. But since you have a mortgage make sure you repair the issue and pay the provider or the mortgage company can seek reinbursement. In the state where I live if the check is 1500 or more it has to go to the mortgage company first.
I had the same thing for roof repair. I had the mortgage co. endorse it. Then I cashed it. Still paid for the roof.
How can I stop my husband scratchin his stubble every 4 seconds?
He has very sensitive skin, when he shaves, a day or 2 later, he scratches his face non-stop. He will not try any creams that I buy to minimise the itching. help?!How can I stop my husband scratchin his stubble every 4 seconds?
Only worry when he starts scratching his nut bag every 4 seconds!How can I stop my husband scratchin his stubble every 4 seconds?
I have very sensitive skin, as well. I use a shave cream designed for sensitive skin. It usually has aloe vera in it. I also get a clean washcloth, and soak it in cold water, squeeze out the excess, and then lay it on the area just shaved. I now have a full beard, so I only shave underneath my chin.
I'm assuming you buy MEN'S aftershave products, etc, or products labeled ';FOR MEN';, and not products with women as their target group. Perhaps he thinks that ANYTHING that even remotely smells like perfume is unmanly, even if it IS made for men, and he's trying to avoid that. You could try sneaking up on him, after he's shaved, with a small amount on your palms, and rubbing it on his cheeks. My guess is that you're just going to have to let him be a bozo in this area, and suffer. Too much scratching, however, could lead to an infection, if there are germs on his face, or he doesn't immediately wash his face after it gets dirty.
If another guy he knows and respects, has the same problem with sensitive skin, and he uses something to control the itch, maybe your husband would listen to HIM.
You're a great lady; your husband is lucky to have such a caring wife.
He can shave again.
Only worry when he starts scratching his nut bag every 4 seconds!How can I stop my husband scratchin his stubble every 4 seconds?
I have very sensitive skin, as well. I use a shave cream designed for sensitive skin. It usually has aloe vera in it. I also get a clean washcloth, and soak it in cold water, squeeze out the excess, and then lay it on the area just shaved. I now have a full beard, so I only shave underneath my chin.
I'm assuming you buy MEN'S aftershave products, etc, or products labeled ';FOR MEN';, and not products with women as their target group. Perhaps he thinks that ANYTHING that even remotely smells like perfume is unmanly, even if it IS made for men, and he's trying to avoid that. You could try sneaking up on him, after he's shaved, with a small amount on your palms, and rubbing it on his cheeks. My guess is that you're just going to have to let him be a bozo in this area, and suffer. Too much scratching, however, could lead to an infection, if there are germs on his face, or he doesn't immediately wash his face after it gets dirty.
If another guy he knows and respects, has the same problem with sensitive skin, and he uses something to control the itch, maybe your husband would listen to HIM.
You're a great lady; your husband is lucky to have such a caring wife.
He can shave again.
How can I tell my husband Im unhappy with our sex?
I always give and receive NOTHING, I wish he would do more to me but without me asking, I always tell him I want good sex but he seems to not understand... Also Im an attractive girl so I don't get it...I know he's always too tired for everything! What could be his reasons? Also he's deploying soon so why can't he atleast enjoy these last few weeks together, I don't know what to say or do anymore...Advice and Opinions Please!How can I tell my husband Im unhappy with our sex?
From personal experience I can tell you that the deployment is weighing heavily on his mind, and you should keep that in mind when you approach him about your sex life. This can be a touchy subject under normal circumstances, so please make sure to talk in a nice even calm tone. If you are showing that you are as frustrated as you really are then chances are he will get either defensive or depressed over not being able to please you. When he is deployed he will be worrying about this conversation a lot, not because he thinks that you will cheat but because one of his buddies will undoubtedly receive a letter from their loved one saying that it is over. The only advice I can give you is to talk, don't accuse or complain. Tell him that you read about something or that you would like to try something as a change of pace. Look up new positions with him or even read up on all the pleasure centers of the body together pointing out which ones you would love. You may have to ask him a few times but after showing him how much it works he should start going for it on his own. Communication is the key, tell him that you would like for him to surprise you instead of you asking because you don't want to ask too much of him. Just remember to be calm or even just in a good mood when you bring this up so that it isn't doomed from the start. I hope this helps.
---- The following is from my husband who is also military--------
On the other side of the relationship my husband says; its tough for men to deploy, a lot goes through our mind. We worry about many useless things for example, if you say I'm not happy with sex right now ( or anything of the such) we are possible to think '; She's going to cheat on me.'; or '; I'm worthless.'; Sex is a valuable subject to men. I cannot begin to explain how we MUST be the best you ever had, or at least think so. In saying so, new things may be tried, but they must come from you and not from your past.
................ now face it ( my husband stated this) ';Some men suck';, but we can be trained; if ANY sex has ever been good then it can be good again. Stress is something that we react poorly to in bed. Deployment IS stress.
Try not to worry about sex at this time, show him that you love him, but don't over do it because then he could start thinking that something is wrong. Follow these words of advice and things should improve, but of course it is also dependent on his stress level. Good luck.How can I tell my husband Im unhappy with our sex?
you have to be specific. Give him a road map to your body or at least be his gps system. Tell him where and how you like it. Make sexy noises when he does something good. Dont tell him he is doing it wrong or he loses his confidence. ........
If all else fails break out the old vibrator in front of him and do it yourself in front of him. Let him know he is not needed if he refuses to learn. .
You can also fake the orgasm quickly and leave him high and dry a few times. Maybe he will understand how you feel then.
If you are constantly telling him that what you are getting is not as good as you want it to be, he may have a bruised ego. Try focusing on what he does do right and giving a lot of positive feedback when something feels good.
Touch yourself where you want to be touched while he's watching. He's likely to join in. Take the pressure off of him to ';perform.';
If all you are saying to him is you want good sex, that is pretty vague, especially for a guy. And when you are giving ';directions'; the right approach and how you word things can make a big difference. Some guys are turned off by a woman who seems ';demanding'; (i.e. ';Do THIS; DON'T touch THERE) If you say something more like ';I really love it when you...'; or ';... would make me really hot'; Give him compliments. Tell him he's hot.
Hope That Helps. Good luck :-)
I like that last post....get a porno and play';lets do everything they do';....or just come right out and tell him that you need more without hurting his ego. Say is something like ';honey it makes me so randy when you ........'; That may remind him what you really like. Most guys are just oblivious...they want to make you feel good but go about it their way...sometimes if I know what i want before we get started I get myself to that point so we can just have a 10 minute quickie and both feel satisfied...i take longer to go so i just have to start without him and then jump his bones once I'm there...its truly awesome...but if i left it all up to him....yeah none of that would happen and i'd be getting nuttin....Be assertive lady and seduce him. :)
hey why dont you get some karma sutra books or if you are into a porno movie show him what you want. im not into that so i suggest you take him and say tonight we are not talking and you are going to be my toyboy and do what i want you to do and go from there .but you got to make him beg for it otherwise there is no point i reckon.he he.have fun go get some toys whips chains from an x rated shop and enjoy him and show him what he will be missing dress up in a really skimpy outfit oh have a look on the inet at the strippers they have things you can buy online and much beetter than in x rated shops.
With men you have to be very straightforward. Say it like it is; You may have to draw him a picture of where...well, you get hte idea. But your best bet is to just talk to him when you're both relaxing and be nonconfrontational about it.
He's probably stressed about leaving again. He may be worried that he won't make it back and that's why he's acting the way he is but you won't know unless you talk to him about it.
Good luck to you and thank him for serving our country.
Hi! I think communication is the problem. U say that he gets tired. Why dont you look at his physical health first? Give him some tonics, vitamins and stuff. If he has mental pressure, that also might be the cause of his tiredness. Ease his tensions and maybe u might get what u want.
If that is also not the case, then try to be explainatory to him, what exactly u want... Your husband is a man not a superman.... Try to see his point too.
Best Wishes!
You give nothing? Try making his time left with you memorable - give him the ride of his life, and see if that inspires him to greatness. If it doesn't, then you know you're onto a dud, and either you find someone else, or you learn to live with it.
Just make sure you decide it BEFORE he leaves.
It's always about you, you you girls. The poor guy is probably freaking out! I bet he's going threw a change and it's not about you. He's becoming a man like it or not he is changing and he knows it. Try to support his feelings and thoughts. He will need it. Good luck!
The first thing is might be you're very good person.....
The second thing is for sure, your husband is an idiot.
The last thing, these stuffs occur when someone is getting used, abused or f***ed for fun....
My advice-Develop rock-solid attitude!!!
He lacks the stamina right now to accomplish such thing. I don't think you're the problem, just his sex drive.
I suggest Viagra and Vegetables. They always help the impossible (Good sex) become possible.
You are dealing with the most delicate subject in the known universe - sex - and the most delicate object known to man - the male ego. No matter what you say or do you will not win.
just tell him that he has to give you orgasm.
Since he is your husband (I'm not sure how long you been with him), but tell him straight forward what is on your mind!!
just ask him whats going on. its your husband and your sex life!
u need to grab him by both ears hun,
I AM IN THE PLAYPEN WITH SWEET MILDRED
maybe he doesn't like anchovies on his pizza.
just wait til he is gone and then call mebeauty eye rimmel
From personal experience I can tell you that the deployment is weighing heavily on his mind, and you should keep that in mind when you approach him about your sex life. This can be a touchy subject under normal circumstances, so please make sure to talk in a nice even calm tone. If you are showing that you are as frustrated as you really are then chances are he will get either defensive or depressed over not being able to please you. When he is deployed he will be worrying about this conversation a lot, not because he thinks that you will cheat but because one of his buddies will undoubtedly receive a letter from their loved one saying that it is over. The only advice I can give you is to talk, don't accuse or complain. Tell him that you read about something or that you would like to try something as a change of pace. Look up new positions with him or even read up on all the pleasure centers of the body together pointing out which ones you would love. You may have to ask him a few times but after showing him how much it works he should start going for it on his own. Communication is the key, tell him that you would like for him to surprise you instead of you asking because you don't want to ask too much of him. Just remember to be calm or even just in a good mood when you bring this up so that it isn't doomed from the start. I hope this helps.
---- The following is from my husband who is also military--------
On the other side of the relationship my husband says; its tough for men to deploy, a lot goes through our mind. We worry about many useless things for example, if you say I'm not happy with sex right now ( or anything of the such) we are possible to think '; She's going to cheat on me.'; or '; I'm worthless.'; Sex is a valuable subject to men. I cannot begin to explain how we MUST be the best you ever had, or at least think so. In saying so, new things may be tried, but they must come from you and not from your past.
................ now face it ( my husband stated this) ';Some men suck';, but we can be trained; if ANY sex has ever been good then it can be good again. Stress is something that we react poorly to in bed. Deployment IS stress.
Try not to worry about sex at this time, show him that you love him, but don't over do it because then he could start thinking that something is wrong. Follow these words of advice and things should improve, but of course it is also dependent on his stress level. Good luck.How can I tell my husband Im unhappy with our sex?
you have to be specific. Give him a road map to your body or at least be his gps system. Tell him where and how you like it. Make sexy noises when he does something good. Dont tell him he is doing it wrong or he loses his confidence. ........
If all else fails break out the old vibrator in front of him and do it yourself in front of him. Let him know he is not needed if he refuses to learn. .
You can also fake the orgasm quickly and leave him high and dry a few times. Maybe he will understand how you feel then.
If you are constantly telling him that what you are getting is not as good as you want it to be, he may have a bruised ego. Try focusing on what he does do right and giving a lot of positive feedback when something feels good.
Touch yourself where you want to be touched while he's watching. He's likely to join in. Take the pressure off of him to ';perform.';
If all you are saying to him is you want good sex, that is pretty vague, especially for a guy. And when you are giving ';directions'; the right approach and how you word things can make a big difference. Some guys are turned off by a woman who seems ';demanding'; (i.e. ';Do THIS; DON'T touch THERE) If you say something more like ';I really love it when you...'; or ';... would make me really hot'; Give him compliments. Tell him he's hot.
Hope That Helps. Good luck :-)
I like that last post....get a porno and play';lets do everything they do';....or just come right out and tell him that you need more without hurting his ego. Say is something like ';honey it makes me so randy when you ........'; That may remind him what you really like. Most guys are just oblivious...they want to make you feel good but go about it their way...sometimes if I know what i want before we get started I get myself to that point so we can just have a 10 minute quickie and both feel satisfied...i take longer to go so i just have to start without him and then jump his bones once I'm there...its truly awesome...but if i left it all up to him....yeah none of that would happen and i'd be getting nuttin....Be assertive lady and seduce him. :)
hey why dont you get some karma sutra books or if you are into a porno movie show him what you want. im not into that so i suggest you take him and say tonight we are not talking and you are going to be my toyboy and do what i want you to do and go from there .but you got to make him beg for it otherwise there is no point i reckon.he he.have fun go get some toys whips chains from an x rated shop and enjoy him and show him what he will be missing dress up in a really skimpy outfit oh have a look on the inet at the strippers they have things you can buy online and much beetter than in x rated shops.
With men you have to be very straightforward. Say it like it is; You may have to draw him a picture of where...well, you get hte idea. But your best bet is to just talk to him when you're both relaxing and be nonconfrontational about it.
He's probably stressed about leaving again. He may be worried that he won't make it back and that's why he's acting the way he is but you won't know unless you talk to him about it.
Good luck to you and thank him for serving our country.
Hi! I think communication is the problem. U say that he gets tired. Why dont you look at his physical health first? Give him some tonics, vitamins and stuff. If he has mental pressure, that also might be the cause of his tiredness. Ease his tensions and maybe u might get what u want.
If that is also not the case, then try to be explainatory to him, what exactly u want... Your husband is a man not a superman.... Try to see his point too.
Best Wishes!
You give nothing? Try making his time left with you memorable - give him the ride of his life, and see if that inspires him to greatness. If it doesn't, then you know you're onto a dud, and either you find someone else, or you learn to live with it.
Just make sure you decide it BEFORE he leaves.
It's always about you, you you girls. The poor guy is probably freaking out! I bet he's going threw a change and it's not about you. He's becoming a man like it or not he is changing and he knows it. Try to support his feelings and thoughts. He will need it. Good luck!
The first thing is might be you're very good person.....
The second thing is for sure, your husband is an idiot.
The last thing, these stuffs occur when someone is getting used, abused or f***ed for fun....
My advice-Develop rock-solid attitude!!!
He lacks the stamina right now to accomplish such thing. I don't think you're the problem, just his sex drive.
I suggest Viagra and Vegetables. They always help the impossible (Good sex) become possible.
You are dealing with the most delicate subject in the known universe - sex - and the most delicate object known to man - the male ego. No matter what you say or do you will not win.
just tell him that he has to give you orgasm.
Since he is your husband (I'm not sure how long you been with him), but tell him straight forward what is on your mind!!
just ask him whats going on. its your husband and your sex life!
u need to grab him by both ears hun,
I AM IN THE PLAYPEN WITH SWEET MILDRED
maybe he doesn't like anchovies on his pizza.
just wait til he is gone and then call me
Is it normal for my husband to often go directly to his parents after work instead of coming home 1st?
He could come to our house first and invite me to join him in his visit but he doesn't They are active independent people so he is not there to perform chores for them.He also refers to his parents house as ';his house';.He claims that is because he was there for a long time.He is now 45 yrs. old we have been married for almost 6yrs,I feel ';his house ';should be his home where he lives with .Am I overblowing this? .Is it normal for my husband to often go directly to his parents after work instead of coming home 1st?
Way Over Blowing this, relax its His ParentsIs it normal for my husband to often go directly to his parents after work instead of coming home 1st?
hate to say this but my EX-husband did the very same thing. We lived next door to his parents for the first six months of our marriage and he would go straight over there before coming in the house....and then he wondered why I was mad when he spent an hour over there and I'm sitting at the table with dinner ready.
We are no longer married. This wasn't the only issue but his mother especially definitely didn't help our marital problems and it was due to the lack of ';cutting the cord'; that caused a lot of them.
I don't think you're overblowing it but after six years I'm not sure what you can do to get it to stop.
No, you're right, but you're fighting a losing battle. If you haven't mentioned that you want to go with him, you might do that. Otherwise, there's not much you can do without his resenting it. I know a woman who got out the Bible and showed her husband where it says something to the effect of a man shall leave his parents and be with his wife, and Wow! the husband and his parents both got really mad and it caused lots of problems.
You have to pick your battles; I'm not sure this is one I'd pick. But this is just my opinion. Hopefully, someone will have a solution.
No, you're not overblowing the situation. He should come home. He is unaturally attached. If you are close enough to your in-laws, ask his mother what you can do..ie what is his favorite dish growing up, etc...They are probably going to have to tell him he needs to GO HOME to his WIFE..and what's he doing there. Otherwise, if this just started recently, you might want to show up at his parents house for dinner to ';cook dinner'; with mom and see if he shows up.
I don't think that there is anything wrong with his behavior. I am sure that he calls your house his house also. I still call my parents house My House as well as my own and I have been married for almost 20 years. I think that it is good that he has a close bond with his family. He could be doing something wrong like going to a strip club or meeting up with some other girl before coming home. Count your blessings and the next time you see him give him a big hug for being such a decent gut!!
When i first started reading I was thinking this has to be a young guy but 45?? Come on! Did u marry someone that was still living with his parents until 39 years old? He is still in his routine of going home to his parents everyday. Time for him to move on and come home like a real man - not mummy's boy.
I had a husband who did this before.
I found out that............he liked his mom's cooking better, she spoiled him and he felt better taking a dump there, instead of our home.
I guess I may of overblown this too, but then again, he was cheating with his cousin and she was always over at his moms.
I think that your husband is doing something at his parent's house that he can't do at your house. Probably has myspace account or signed up to a secret dating site. Porn?? There's definitely something. Look and you will find.
HATE TO BRAKE IT TO YOU BUT THATS NOT HIS PARENTS HOUSE
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you are not overblowing hits! is time to CUT his UMBILICAL cord and he needs to learn to live his life with his wife and not be a momma's boy!!!
Not at all. Your house is his house, not his parents. I wonder how his parents feel about this. Did he live with them until you all got a house?
Have you asked him why he always goes there first? I do think that's weird. He should come home to you.
have you tried telling him how you feel?
and i am on ur side with this.
I don't think your overreacting at all. He needs to understand that his wife comes first
Way Over Blowing this, relax its His ParentsIs it normal for my husband to often go directly to his parents after work instead of coming home 1st?
hate to say this but my EX-husband did the very same thing. We lived next door to his parents for the first six months of our marriage and he would go straight over there before coming in the house....and then he wondered why I was mad when he spent an hour over there and I'm sitting at the table with dinner ready.
We are no longer married. This wasn't the only issue but his mother especially definitely didn't help our marital problems and it was due to the lack of ';cutting the cord'; that caused a lot of them.
I don't think you're overblowing it but after six years I'm not sure what you can do to get it to stop.
No, you're right, but you're fighting a losing battle. If you haven't mentioned that you want to go with him, you might do that. Otherwise, there's not much you can do without his resenting it. I know a woman who got out the Bible and showed her husband where it says something to the effect of a man shall leave his parents and be with his wife, and Wow! the husband and his parents both got really mad and it caused lots of problems.
You have to pick your battles; I'm not sure this is one I'd pick. But this is just my opinion. Hopefully, someone will have a solution.
No, you're not overblowing the situation. He should come home. He is unaturally attached. If you are close enough to your in-laws, ask his mother what you can do..ie what is his favorite dish growing up, etc...They are probably going to have to tell him he needs to GO HOME to his WIFE..and what's he doing there. Otherwise, if this just started recently, you might want to show up at his parents house for dinner to ';cook dinner'; with mom and see if he shows up.
I don't think that there is anything wrong with his behavior. I am sure that he calls your house his house also. I still call my parents house My House as well as my own and I have been married for almost 20 years. I think that it is good that he has a close bond with his family. He could be doing something wrong like going to a strip club or meeting up with some other girl before coming home. Count your blessings and the next time you see him give him a big hug for being such a decent gut!!
When i first started reading I was thinking this has to be a young guy but 45?? Come on! Did u marry someone that was still living with his parents until 39 years old? He is still in his routine of going home to his parents everyday. Time for him to move on and come home like a real man - not mummy's boy.
I had a husband who did this before.
I found out that............he liked his mom's cooking better, she spoiled him and he felt better taking a dump there, instead of our home.
I guess I may of overblown this too, but then again, he was cheating with his cousin and she was always over at his moms.
I think that your husband is doing something at his parent's house that he can't do at your house. Probably has myspace account or signed up to a secret dating site. Porn?? There's definitely something. Look and you will find.
HATE TO BRAKE IT TO YOU BUT THATS NOT HIS PARENTS HOUSE
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you are not overblowing hits! is time to CUT his UMBILICAL cord and he needs to learn to live his life with his wife and not be a momma's boy!!!
Not at all. Your house is his house, not his parents. I wonder how his parents feel about this. Did he live with them until you all got a house?
Have you asked him why he always goes there first? I do think that's weird. He should come home to you.
have you tried telling him how you feel?
and i am on ur side with this.
I don't think your overreacting at all. He needs to understand that his wife comes first
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